JadedMay Posted May 16, 2021 Share Posted May 16, 2021 I have been with my husband for 6 years, 4 of them married. From the beginning, he has struggled with alcoholism. I have tried being by his side through it all but he still refuses to believe he has a problem. Today, we had a small celebration with a friend of ours and our kids for my birthday coming up. He had just been sober his longest run, 4 months. I wasn’t going to even have anything because I didn’t want to tempt him but he was insistent that I enjoy myself and he would be fine. Well that turned into him saying he could have one and be fine. I tried to stop/discourage it but it lead to an argument in front of the kids and I dropped the issue. I have since learned he had a hidden bottle of liquor that he was already drinking on. The reason he had been sober so long this time was due to a scare from his doctor. He had lab work done that indicated liver damage and his doctor told him he needed to abstain from it completely and he did up until now. I have been contemplating divorce long before he was sober for these last few months. It had seemed to be going good and things between us were getting better. I know it’s only this one time and he swears he won’t drink again but I don’t have that faith anymore that he won’t. I don’t know what to do. I guess I’m just looking for some advice and guidance. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 16, 2021 Share Posted May 16, 2021 8 hours ago, JadedMay said: I’m just looking for some advice and guidance. Get the info and support you need to stop endangering yourself and your kids by enabling alcoholism. https://al-anon.org/newcomers/self-quiz/adult-quiz/ 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted May 16, 2021 Share Posted May 16, 2021 If you want to leave... then you just need to do it. An alcoholic who doesn't want to sober up will be dead soon. I had a few family members like this. One was a cousin I was close to. I took him to rehab a few times, and he would sign himself out, even though he wanted to be there. He got that same scare from the Dr's.... but he would go back to drinking. He passed away when he was only 42. He left a young son behind, and in some ways... I've become the "Father Figure" in his life. I'm happy to be there for him... but there was no reason his real dad should be dead. I know it's not easy... but you need to do what is needed to make you , and your kid(s) happy and safe. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 16, 2021 Share Posted May 16, 2021 (edited) Drunks have to Want to help themselves. That starts with admitting they are an alcoholic. You can’t fix him. He’d have to do that. Edited May 16, 2021 by Marc878 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 16, 2021 Share Posted May 16, 2021 Go to an Al-Anon meeting. They will help you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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