Two years just talking.

[webby1289]

Met this beautiful girl almost two years ago.  She is estranged from her husband but still lives at home with her kid and home.  She told me she officially filed for divorce nearly two years ago.  The divorce is still not final and have a gut feeling this is going no where.  She will tell me I'm the love of her life, how much she wants to be with me, but she works all the time and has her kid.  She rarely sees me or takes time to meet me.  This has been going on for almost two years and it's been hard to break the cycle.  I do not believe she is interested in another man, but I know she loves attention because of her looks.  Every time I try to move forward, wanting to see her, etc. she never responds.  I quit talking to her awhile back thinking she would come back after awhile.  She did text me a month or so later, but hadn't really seemed like she missed me a ton.  She wanted to pick up the conversation of 'us'. 

I've always had strong feelings for her and know I need to let them pass so I can date someone else.  I feel she is talking to me, and more than likely other men, because she doesn't get that affection at home from her husband.  She keeps telling me she doesn't know what to do and help her get to me.  I've told her a million times to talk to her attorney.  Some nights she will talk to me all night, some nights she will go cold. ???

[introverted1]

Move on.

Tell her if/when she actually gets divorced and is free to date she can contact you and, if you are still interested and available, you can pick things up then.

Until then, quit tormenting yourself.  She's not the only woman on the planet or even in a 20 mile radius of where you are. Why are you accepting crumbs?

[Wiseman2]

45 minutes ago, webby1289 said:

She is estranged from her husband but still lives at home with her kid. but she works all the time and has her kid.  She rarely sees me or takes time to meet me.  Every time I try to move forward, wanting to see her, etc. she never responds. she doesn't get that affection at home from her husband. 

How did you meet? have you met in person/ If so how often/how long ago? 

At someone level you know she's just another bored married woman looking for a soap opera by yanking your chain.

Delete and block her. Married women are the no-fly zone. 

Invest in dating local, single interested women. 

[Alpacalia]

What were you thinking when you chose to start dating a woman that still lives at home with her husband?

[ShyViolet]

You chose to get emotionally invested in a woman who is married, what did you honestly expect to happen?

[Blind-Sided]

If you are in the USA... then she is lying to you about filing for divorce.   It only takes one person to actually want the divorce to make it happen.  I know every state is different... but from what I have learned... many states have a time (90 days?) that once it was filed, and the papers were delivered (served) to the spouse... Then the divorce will just be issued if the other party doesn't respond, or doesn't try to defend themselves. 

To me... she is lying, and is in a semi-open relationship, and you are her side guy.   And as other's have said... you shouldn't have gotten invested with a married woman.  

Edited May 18, 2021 by Blind-Sided

[Blind-Sided]

To add to what I said above... I do understand about meeting with a woman who you think is getting a divorce.  I have several female friends who are kind of in that situation.  Heck... one of them is dating a guy, and she only goes home enough to take care of the kids... but will still go to his place for a few days at a time... so it's not like she is hiding it from her estranged H.  But for you...  after a couple months... you should have questioned your "GF" as to why she wasn't moving forward with the D.  Then left her if she didn't have a good answer.