Junito1986 Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 Hello everyone I’m here to ask a serious question about what I’m going trough with my ex we both love each other and live three hours away from each other we just recently broke a few months ago in good terms to work on each other with ourselves now we been known each other for a year and 6 months and we been working on our self but I just come to find out from her that she has a friend that she likes and she been hanging out with him almost everyday at her house I’ve tried to come visit her so we could bond with each other and have a nice time but ever since my failure in this relationship me lacking to give her attention she met this guy at her job and is killing he had slept in the car at her house and inside the house I’ve been trying to build a relationship with her all over again because I notice the lack of attention I gave her she does says she loves and care for me as well I ask for me to meet this guy so I can introduce my self and she not having it for a while I have giving her the attention I have lacked before and she literally constantly with this guy but she won’t let me spend time with her what should I do please help me I’m getting destroyed about everything Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 You should cut all contact with her. You two are broken up. Kind feelings notwithstanding you could not make a relationship work. She has moved on. By continuing to interact with her you are preventing yourself from healing. You need to delete her contact info from your phone & computer on every platform: text, phone, SMS, IM, & all social media. Then focus on your healing. Under no circumstances should she introduce you to the new guy. Who she dates is no longer any of your business. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Junito1986 Posted May 18, 2021 Author Share Posted May 18, 2021 I understand I’m just in love with her and she in love with me she says she doesn’t want to loose me and I don’t neither I just don’t know what to do cause we still talk to her we just on a break to work on each other Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 4 minutes ago, Junito1986 said: live three hours away from each other we just recently broke a few months ago. she met this guy at her job and is killing he had slept in the car at her house and inside the house Sorry this happened. What was the breakup about? Unfortunately it sounds like she moved on and is dating this new guy from work. Delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local girls. Move forward not backwards. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 41 minutes ago, Junito1986 said: I understand I’m just in love with her and she in love with me she says she doesn’t want to loose me and I don’t neither I just don’t know what to do cause we still talk to her we just on a break to work on each other If she were truly in love with you and wanted to work on things, she wouldn't be dating someone else now. She doesn't have the heart to be honest and tell you that she doesn't want to work on reconciling. But her actions are making that very clear, unforuantely. It's time to accept that this is over so you can begin to heal. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 So she says she loves you but has another guy. Her words don’t match her actions. Sorry but actions count. Words don’t. Wake up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 18, 2021 Share Posted May 18, 2021 51 minutes ago, Junito1986 said: I understand I’m just in love with her and she in love with me she says she doesn’t want to loose me and I don’t neither I just don’t know what to do cause we still talk to her we just on a break to work on each other If she was in love with you she would not be dating another guy. There are no such things as breaks. You are either together working on the relationship or you are broken up. There is no time off. She's telling you a bunch of white lies designed to soften the blow. She "doesn't want to lose you" means she like the attention you bestow on her. It feeds her ego. She "loves" you like a friend. She thinks you are a nice person & she doesn't want to be the one who hurts you. So she strings you along. It's cruel to be kind because she is giving you false hope. You aren't going to believe me so you have to lay it out there. Go see her. Tell her you love her. You want her to stop dating the other guy & try again with you. She doesn't actually want that so when she outright rejects you again, maybe that will be the impetus you need to move along. Note: You can only pull this (dumb, unrealistic) grandstand move once. When she rejects you, at that point you must disappear from her life. If you stick around beyond that you cross into criminal stalker territory & harassment. You do not want to end up on the wrong end of a restraining order. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 On 5/18/2021 at 10:32 PM, Junito1986 said: I understand I’m just in love with her and she in love with me she says she doesn’t want to loose me and I don’t neither I just don’t know what to do cause we still talk to her we just on a break to work on each other Yeah look you've gotta stop this rubbish . You don't try making up for lack of attention with her and to her while she's seeing another guy , comeon. You have to leave her alone now , let her do her thing , get on with your own life and think of "yourself". Maybe she starts thinking later, things blow up with this guy , she comes back to you and you decide for yourself then if there is a then , whether you want to be with a woman that says she loves you but goes off and starts seeing someone else. That's not love my friend . It's not all about her, what about you ???? How much attention are you getting , how is she making you feel ???? zero . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 It's called a break because it's broken. Move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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