Wiseman2 Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 9 hours ago, Summerluvr2021 said: Divorce...filed Tuesday Excellent. Discuss getting supervised visitation because it seems your husband is going to drag your son into the divorce and use him as a pawn/weapon. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
usa1ah Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 14 hours ago, Summerluvr2021 said: Timing of timeline may be off by some minutes...it's not perfect lol. So please have that expectation. I may have sneezed or turned the channel or something else, lol. So don't expect perfection lol. It was just hard to follow what actually happened, didn’t make sense at first. Wish you the best going forward. Make sure he doesn’t spend all of the money on his trip. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summerluvr2021 Posted May 22, 2021 Author Share Posted May 22, 2021 @usa1ah It's all good! Thank you so much! I appreciate you asking....needless to say, you know more than he does about my day because you took the time to ask and let me say. Thank you for your replies! @Wiseman2 You know, I wouldn't put it past him at all! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
vla1120 Posted May 25, 2021 Share Posted May 25, 2021 On 5/21/2021 at 10:12 AM, Alfano said: You sound like a real gem. I totally get where he's coming from. Your attacks on her character are not helpful. It's one thing to disagree with her not showing him her phone. It's another to attack her character. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summerluvr2021 Posted May 25, 2021 Author Share Posted May 25, 2021 8 minutes ago, vla1120 said: Your attacks on her character are not helpful. It's one thing to disagree with her not showing him her phone. It's another to attack her character. Appreciate you saying that. Thank you very much and I hope you have a great day! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted May 27, 2021 Share Posted May 27, 2021 He was abusive and Acacia hit the nail on the head. This marriage didn't have a leg to stand on and there is no trust here. It's not possible because of your dynamic together. Now that the divorce is filed you're free to live your life as you wish without his emotional or verbal abuse. Leave this behind and don't look back. Take care and protect yourself as others have said. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Summerluvr2021 Posted May 27, 2021 Author Share Posted May 27, 2021 1 hour ago, glows said: He was abusive and Acacia hit the nail on the head. This marriage didn't have a leg to stand on and there is no trust here. It's not possible because of your dynamic together. Now that the divorce is filed you're free to live your life as you wish without his emotional or verbal abuse. Leave this behind and don't look back. Take care and protect yourself as others have said. Thank you very much! He's a piece of work. I tell ya. So he messages me " thanking me" for being what he perceives me as ( ie, a whore, a liar, and calling me a piece of $hit, etc...)...while letting me know he's heading to Hawaii with another lady that is not the woman he took to Puerto Rico.... Then proceeds to send me photos of him and her, him and her in his bike, and him and her in bed naked. I may not be perfect but I don't deserve that...at all. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 27, 2021 Share Posted May 27, 2021 You poor thing. Start documenting those trips. He's spending money that is 1/2 yours. Keep the pictures & the name calling. They are evidence. You might need them for custody & to prove child support Hang in there. By filing, you are one step closer to being mostly rid of him. You will always be connected through your child. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted June 1, 2021 Share Posted June 1, 2021 On 5/21/2021 at 6:12 AM, Blind-Sided said: Seems like a lot of this could have been avoided by just showing him the message. OK... I understand it's private... but if you are trying to rebuild a relationship... TRUST is a big part of that, and showing him could have deescalated the entire situation. Since we don't know the facts on what brought you to this point in your life... it's hard to give any real advice. Lets face it... if you were cheating... then he has a reason to be suspicions of you hiding messages, and not wearing your ring. But regardless... it sounds like the relationship is broken... just go file. I basically agree: I would have shown it to him. Even if you can convince him that you weren't hiding communications with another man, the fact that you wouldn't share that with him indicates that you no longer have mutual trust. Having said that, his behavior was completely uncalled for - even if you were having a fling on the side, he needs to show some discretion around your children. I guess there's a reason that the trust is gone, then. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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