Ashruiz Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 My fiancé’s M ex keeps having his social media deleted but I saw her on his “people you may know” My Fiancé and I have been together since April 2020. He was with a woman for 6 years before me. He is a convicted sex offender as he slept with a girl that he was not aware was too young. She was 16 but appeared older. When his ex found out he was with me she kept reporting him on social media and having his accounts removed. In February he sold his house and I helped him get a home for me, him, his son, his mom and step father. And he proposed to me a month later. As soon as the engagement was announced boom! His aacounts deleted and he received a text saying “congrats you finally found someone to marry a fat broke sex offender” He made a new account but THIS time he has not blocked his ex. Normally he would but he hasn’t this time. I saw her in his “people you may know” at the top when I saw he just removed her. But didn’t block her meaning they can look at each others pages. I went to her page and she really doesn’t appear to be bothered or care. She seems to be living her life. So maybe that’s why he didn’t block her? Because maybe he doesn’t think she’s the one having his pages removed anymore? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 26 minutes ago, Ashruiz said: In February he sold his house and I helped him get a home for me, him, his son, his mom and step father. A he received a text saying “congrats you finally found someone to marry a fat broke sex offender” If she is blocked how is he getting specific texts? Could it be the people who pressed charges? Just curious how you "helped him" buy his family a house? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 22, 2021 Author Share Posted May 22, 2021 (edited) 23 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: If she is blocked how is he getting specific texts? Could it be the people who pressed charges? Just curious how you "helped him" buy his family a house? He got a text from a random number. Wasn’t hers. And I co-signed with him and before you say maybe she never reported him, she has admitted to doing so in the past. Edited May 22, 2021 by Ashruiz Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 If she’s in the suggested people, she might be looking at his page at the very least. FB often puts people who scope your page out in the “people you might know” . I’m not sure what the question is here. Why he has not blocked her? Idk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 22, 2021 Author Share Posted May 22, 2021 Just now, Cookiesandough said: If she’s in the suggested people, she might be looking at his page at the very least. FB often puts people who scope your page out in the “people you might know” . I’m not sure what the question is here. Why he has not blocked her? Idk. Yes! Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted May 22, 2021 Share Posted May 22, 2021 Hm did you ask him. What’d he say Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 22, 2021 Author Share Posted May 22, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Hm did you ask him. What’d he say That’s reason he removed her from his people you may know because I flipped my lid because a mutual friend of there’s told him that he was on her people you may know amd she laughed about it. and I was around and he’s like “I hate her I don’t want her in my life” so he removed her so I could see. So they were on each others people you may know apparently But I’m like you usually block her so she doesn’t delete your page? Edited May 22, 2021 by Ashruiz Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 You are moving insanely fast. You & this guy have barely been together for a year & you are already engaged plus you tied yourself to this convicted felon in ways that are very hard to undo. There are reasons that conventional wisdom recommends that people date for at least 1 year before they even talk about moving in or getting engaged. Now you are bothered by his EX & social media. Frankly that concern alone makes me wonder if you are mature enough to be married. Let's assume you are right that this EX is causing trouble. Until your guy puts a firm stop to her & completely gets her out of his life, he's in now position to marry you. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 Does he have kids with the ex? If so, she will be a permanent feature. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 Just now, elaine567 said: Does he have kids with the ex? If so, she will be a permanent feature. No he doesn’t. Honestly he said she doesn’t try and talk to him anymore at all, and hasn’t reached out but someone always deletes his pages. I know she did in the past so I mean who else would it be Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 Just now, Ashruiz said: No he doesn’t. Honestly he said she doesn’t try and talk to him anymore at all, and hasn’t reached out but someone always deletes his pages. I know she did in the past so I mean who else would it be Are his pages being deleted or is he being banned from the site for some reason? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 47 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Are his pages being deleted or is he being banned from the site for some reason? Banned because some reports him for being sex offender 1 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 I guess.so. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 Convicted sex offenders aren't allowed to use Facebook. It says so in their guidelines. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 You co-signed on a house with someone who you've been with for only a year. Very, very bad idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Sun Seeker Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 All this drama over FB? Is this serious? Why can't he just delete his own account and all other social media? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 15 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Convicted sex offenders aren't allowed to use Facebook. It says so in their guidelines. Why can’t he live a normal life like everyone else Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 8 minutes ago, Punterxx said: All this drama over FB? Is this serious? Why can't he just delete his own account and all other social media? So he shouldn’t be allowed to live his own life ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 11 minutes ago, ShyViolet said: You co-signed on a house with someone who you've been with for only a year. Very, very bad idea. How if he’s going to be my husband. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 5 minutes ago, Ashruiz said: Why can’t he live a normal life like everyone else Facebook has all sorts of policy rules. I don't think there's too much you can do until their policy changes. Maybe there are some other social media avenues that aren't as strict that you both can look into? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 24 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Facebook has all sorts of policy rules. I don't think there's too much you can do until their policy changes. Maybe there are some other social media avenues that aren't as strict that you both can look into? She should stop reporting him. I mean idk I dont have proof but who else? I went to her page and there’s no sign of anything like no anger or anything she’s probably hiding it on purpose Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 1 hour ago, Ashruiz said: She should stop reporting him. I mean idk I dont have proof but who else? I went to her page and there’s no sign of anything like no anger or anything she’s probably hiding it on purpose He's a registered sex offender. Plenty of people are going to be angry with him or hate him for that. Any of them could very well report him. Instead of focusing on his ex, you need to sit down and think seriously about whether you're ready to make a life with him. Because y'all are going to have many doors shut in your faces. Social media restrictions will be the least of your worries. I worry for you because you seem to be going into this with little awareness of what lies ahead. I really hope you did your homework and independently verified for yourself that he really didn't know he was sleeping with a 16-year-old. People have been known to lie, you know? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 FB does prohibit registered sex offenders from being users. They have a list. However, the US Supreme Court declared in Packingham v. North Carolina 582 U.S. ___ (2017) that convicted sex offenders have a right to use social media. You don't know that his EX is reporting him. At this point FB itself might be tracking his ISP or maybe the victim, her relatives or the arresting officers may be reporting him as violating the various Community Guidelines. He will never be able to just "live his life". Society has decided that people convicted of sex crimes will be stigmatized forever. You are going to have to deal with that for the rest of your life if you marry him. People will always give you the side eye. If you have kids with him, other parents may refuse to let their kids play at your house. You can't just whine that you love you him so everybody else should look past this. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ashruiz Posted May 23, 2021 Author Share Posted May 23, 2021 10 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: FB does prohibit registered sex offenders from being users. They have a list. However, the US Supreme Court declared in Packingham v. North Carolina 582 U.S. ___ (2017) that convicted sex offenders have a right to use social media. You don't know that his EX is reporting him. At this point FB itself might be tracking his ISP or maybe the victim, her relatives or the arresting officers may be reporting him as violating the various Community Guidelines. He will never be able to just "live his life". Society has decided that people convicted of sex crimes will be stigmatized forever. You are going to have to deal with that for the rest of your life if you marry him. People will always give you the side eye. If you have kids with him, other parents may refuse to let their kids play at your house. You can't just whine that you love you him so everybody else should look past this. He actually admitted that he did know her age but I knew I’d be judged. He has really changed and is trying to be a better man. It’s unfortunate the world is not forgiving Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted May 23, 2021 Share Posted May 23, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Ashruiz said: He actually admitted that he did know her age but I knew I’d be judged. He has really changed and is trying to be a better man. It’s unfortunate the world is not forgiving See that is where you lose me. He made a knowing decision to have sex with somebody who did not have the legal capacity to consent. That is a problem. It's not about trying to be a better man. It's about judgment & good character. He doesn't have them. I'll grant you having sex with a 16 year old is way less disgusting than having sex with a 6 year old but it's where the line was drawn so it needs to be respected. IMO once your age no longer has the word "teen" in it, you need to stay away from anyone under 20. (I'll make an exception for an LTR where one partner is less than 2 years older & they have been together a while) My husband posits the following justification: Say somebody in their early 20s makes the decision that to protect themselves that they will only sleep with people they meet in bars that card at the door. Unbeknownst to them, a 15 year old with a mature demeanor & a great fake ID gets in. The person then has sex with the minor. The law still says that is a sex crime because it's a strict liability offense. Knowledge is not an element of the crime. That I could forgive / look past but to know & do it anyway . . . your FI isn't a guy who makes good decisions. His lack of ethics & morals alone would send me running. Seriously his participation on social media is the least of your problems. Edited May 23, 2021 by d0nnivain Link to post Share on other sites
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