Just been told its over

[Sach]

Advice & Help needed!!

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years, however, she recently got a new job where she works nights. So the dynamics of the relationship has now changed. Prior to this she was unemployed so she had more time to talk to me and message me throughout the day. I work throughout the time she was unemployed but ever since the pandemic,  I have been working from home. My hours are 8-5pm and with her new jobs she has got she, she sleeps during that time as she starts works at 11.45pm. But over the last few weeks, communication has not been the best and we hardly speak. I always make time to message her or call her but I do not feel its the same thing from her end. I pulled her up on this a few days before the 10th May 2021 but it wasn't really cleared up properly as she just disregarded it. From the 10th May until 23rd May, we haven't spoken or messaged each other. This bothered me so I called her out on her lack of communication via WhatsApp and this literally went south for some reason. She didn't address anything I mentioned and gave me some lame excuse. I then questioned her response and asked for validation if she actually wants a relationship or not and she took this negatively and literally said she is done and she won't reply further. She then moved on to blocking me from WhatsApp and unfollowed me on IG. I tried to call her and she turned her phone off. Not sure what this means or what to do. Prior weeks before the 10th May, we was getting on well and was good so I'm really confused. Is she angry at the fact that I was calling her out on her lack of communication? Did she feel like I was putting her in the corner? She's an extrovert as an individual so I'm not sure if this plays a part. Any help would be great. 

[Alpacalia]

2 hours ago, Sach said:

She didn't address anything I mentioned and gave me some lame excuse.

What "excuse" did she give you?

Nonetheless, she seems to have felt backed into a corner.

[ShyViolet]

3 hours ago, Sach said:

She then moved on to blocking me from WhatsApp and unfollowed me on IG. I tried to call her and she turned her phone off. Not sure what this means or what to do. 

I'm confused as to what exactly you are confused about.  All this means that the relationship is over.  You don't need to "do" anything except leave her alone, stop trying to contact her, and accept that the relationship is over.  I know you may not fully understand her reasons.  Just because things seemed fine before doesn't mean her feelings couldn't have changed.  They obviously did.  

[d0nnivain]

I can't offer a motive but you have to accept that she's done & move on.  

When you work opposite shifts it's tough but can be done.  My parents did it for 20 years.  If you work from 8 - 5 while she works from 11:45 pm to what 8 am, even if she's waking up around 5-6 p.m.  there is no reason you two could not have shared a meal around 7 pm.  Granted it'd be dinner for you & breakfast for her but it was absolutely do-able. 

Her refusal to put in any effort shows her heart wasn't in the relationship any more.  She may have even just been waiting until she got a job & had new opportunities.  Sorry.  

[chillii]

lt wouldn't have only been just the hours 2 people work around that if your truly devoted to ea other as Donni has said. She might've been feeling negative about you two for awhile now l'd suspect and the latest was just the excuse she was needed, either that or she's just spat the dummy and sulking and if the latter you'll probably reconnect later on.  lf not she's probably been done awhile now .

[Wiseman2]

On 5/24/2021 at 4:42 AM, Sach said:

 been together for 3 years, however, she recently got a new job where she works nights. 

Sorry this happened. How often did you see each other in person? 

Unfortunately it seems she's been unhappy for a while and used this confrontation as a springboard out of feeling text-tethered and controlled.

Not much you can do if she blocked you everywhere.

Edited May 25, 2021 by Wiseman2