Why had he gone cold?

[Nbee19]

One random afternoon a guy from work called me to discuss a project. We got on so well that the call lasted 1.5 hours.. we just clicked. The next day he called again and we was talking for 3 hours, these long calls continued for four days until we finally swapped numbers. One night he called me and said he wanted to meet me so we both drove to meet in the middle (100 miles each) we had a nice date and I left knowing I wanted to see him again. The following week the calls continued and he was really blowing my phone up constantly texting, I thought we just really gelled and were on the same page. He came to stay for the weekend. He travelled over 200 miles to see me because he said he couldn’t wait to embrace me. Talk was so romantic. So that weekend he came and he brought me a little gift. Naturally one thing led to another.. in fact the whole weekend was spent in bed.. we couldn’t take our hands off each other. Before he left I tried to find out if he fancied seeing me again, but didn’t get an answer. Since he walked out of my door I’ve spoken to him twice, it’s gone from one extreme to the other and today I haven’t spoken to him at all. I tried to ask him again the other night if he wanted to see me and he said he would but in 6 weeks when he comes back to the office (he moved home because of Covid) but I’m left thinking I’m just some booty he can call when he wants. Before he came to stay I said jokingly he’s only coming for my body and he told me if he wanted just that he could find someone where he lives, but I feel quite hurt by his actions now because of the hot and cold but even more so because he’s changed very quickly from pining  to see me to not even talking to me. I mentioned that he’d gone cold and he just told me to relax, or chill if I try and arrange something with him which frustrates me. We live a long way from each other and I thought if he felt the same way as before he’d want to get time arranged. Now I’m left thinking he’s traveled all that way and put all that effort in with the calls and texts for one thing and one thing only. Am I right in what I’m thinking or could the distance and Covid restrictions have changed his mind about pursuing anything?

[d0nnivain]

Nope.  He got what he wanted -- sex without commitment.  He's on to the next conquest.  I'm sorry you got hurt but that is the risk you take with early sex, before you really get to know the other person.  Covid / the distance could be why he can't see you for 6 weeks but it has no bearing on why he's not talking to you.  

[Alpacalia]

Sorry OP.

Not being able to see you for 6 weeks after you slept together is a pretty strong indication that this is going no where.

[ShyViolet]

If you're not hearing from him and he's being noticeably more cold..... it's kind of obvious he's not interested anymore.  Unfortunate, but it happens.