BeanCounter Posted May 29, 2021 Share Posted May 29, 2021 Not exactly advice or anything, just curious to hear some wrenching stories. When I was in college I was casually hooking up with a girl. We'd get together maybe once a week, it was known to be nothing serious by both of us. One night I texted her to see if she wanted to get together and she told me "Sorry, I'm not drunk or lonely enough to see you tonight." It was so mean I wasn't even mad, I literally laughed and just never talked to her again. I was thankful it was so outwardly mean, I might have been upset it was something a little less harsh. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
cleverusername Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 (edited) Fell asleep on the couch of a girl I was casually dating. Woke up and overheard her talking with her roommate about another date she had set up that night for the next day. We weren't exclusive or anything but the nerve she had to do it in my presence but behind my back hurt pretty bad. Edited May 30, 2021 by cleverusername 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Ignorance is bliss I always say. Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Last girlfriend told me I should get braces. I'm 58. She's not wrong just controlling and insensitive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 When she told me that I was being a baby for shredding tears after a close friend was murdered. 2 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 11 hours ago, BeanCounter said: I was casually hooking up. she told me "Sorry, I'm not drunk or lonely enough to see you tonight." This seems honest, not mean. After all you're talking about hook-ups, no? I doubt that injustice collecting (google it) has any useful purpose. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 11 hours ago, BeanCounter said: . One night I texted her to see if she wanted to get together and she told me "Sorry, I'm not drunk or lonely enough to see you tonight." It There is a lot of "desperation" involved in hooking up and she recognised her own desperation when drunk and lonely and decided against it. She obviously decided she wasn't doing it again with you, hence the finality of the message. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 I prefer to concentrate on the most beautiful things men have told me. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 The meanest words I have heard have also been the most dishonest to the point of farcical, so what is said rarely hurts in the way I think you mean. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BeanCounter Posted May 30, 2021 Author Share Posted May 30, 2021 13 hours ago, Woggle said: When she told me that I was being a baby for shredding tears after a close friend was murdered. Wow, that is horribly insensitive....Can't think of many things that could happen that would be more traumatic then that. If you can't cry then, when can you cry? Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 17 hours ago, BeanCounter said: "Sorry, I'm not drunk or lonely enough to see you tonight." It was so mean I wasn't even mad, I literally laughed and just never talked to her again. I was thankful it was so outwardly mean, I might have been upset it was something a little less harsh. LOL! A jewell. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 13 hours ago, Woggle said: When she told me that I was being a baby for shredding tears after a close friend was murdered. Oh my........ Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 14 hours ago, smackie9 said: Ignorance is bliss I always say. And something I would never say. Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 (edited) The worst was when my then wife and subsequently Ex told me that in all those decades and after three daughters that she never felt in love with me. Was, of course, an excercise of honesty. Not mean, just late. And the worst was not the new, was that based in years of consistent facts, I should have known as certain what already suspected. Sorry if was not a funny anecdote. Edited May 30, 2021 by Uruktopi 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Uruktopi said: And something I would never say. No I meant the not knowing or hearing those horrible things are better. Should of said I'd rather they keep it to themselves. If anyone ever did say something bad to me, I have totally forgotten about it and don't recall what it is. ignorance is bliss. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 You got a hair transplant? Should have gotten your teeth straightened. Yet when I tell her she could use a few pounds she finds that to be hurtful. Link to post Share on other sites
Cheryl123 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Alfano said: You got a hair transplant? Should have gotten your teeth straightened. Yet when I tell her she could use a few pounds she finds that to be hurtful. I never speak poorly about anyone .. ask around. Those who do feel they are in a position to do so, so it should not hurt. Unless you work in my field, have actual experence, i don't care what you have to say. Edited May 30, 2021 by Cheryl123 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 1 hour ago, Alfano said: You got a hair transplant? Should have gotten your teeth straightened. Yet when I tell her she could use a few pounds she finds that to be hurtful. That's because we all think we are perfect just the way we are and we are taught that from all those Dove soap TV commercials. Link to post Share on other sites
Calmandfocused Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 3 hours ago, SumGuy said: The meanest words I have heard have also been the most dishonest to the point of farcical, so what is said rarely hurts in the way I think you mean. 100% agree. Same here too. Let’s face it: Even if we are, indeed , the scum of the earth, what does it say about the people who want to date us? What about them? Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 4 hours ago, smackie9 said: No I meant the not knowing or hearing those horrible things are better. Should of said I'd rather they keep it to themselves. If anyone ever did say something bad to me, I have totally forgotten about it and don't recall what it is. ignorance is bliss. I don´t doubt it´s your bliss. I meant that I would preffer a earache than that bliss flavour. It´s just me, of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 That's weird because a lot of people call their exes narcissists. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 I've been called "Cheap" so many times, I was beginning to think it was my middle name. Not really all that mean, but I do hear it a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Not sure that it's the meanest, but it's something I always remember because of the complete lack of self awareness of the person who said it. He said to me , "Why can't you be more like S?" S was a very confident and outgoing, but incredibly superficial, female friend who he would always fawn all over. I replied, "Well, for a start my arse isn't the size of a Texas barn, and I don't think I can be that shallow even if I really concentrate hard". What I should have said was, "Why can't you be more like those men who have a job?". 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Uruktopi Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 2 minutes ago, MsJayne said: "Why can't you be more like those men who have a job?". LOL! I own you my first laugh of today. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 27 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: I've been called "Cheap" so many times, I was beginning to think it was my middle name. Not really all that mean, but I do hear it a lot. Tell them they can call you cheap all they want but they can never call you broke. Cheap just means you know how to hold on to your money. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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