Scotgirl84 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 Me and my oh have been separated temp since feb he got a flat we have 3 children and our relationship was too toxic and negative I couldn’t take it anymore. He thinks he can just come back in a few months and it will be all fine. He drinks a lot and this is the main cause. We’ve had home valued and it’s really good price I am desperate to take the leap and sell but I’m so upset and terrified been here 15 years and it’s my security feel like I’ve hit a brick wall. I contemplated taking him back to keep the home but I don’t want to be unhappy rest of my life as nothing changes. Has anyone been in similar situation??? Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 If you sell where are you and the kids going to stay? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 30, 2021 Author Share Posted May 30, 2021 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: If you sell where are you and the kids going to stay? I’d need to rent just now until market crashes don’t have anywhere yet that’s why I’m so scared Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted May 30, 2021 Share Posted May 30, 2021 2 hours ago, Scotgirl84 said: separated temp since feb he got a flat we have 3 children. He drinks a lot and this is the main cause. Don't you need to divorce before selling the house? Can you afford it on your own? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 30, 2021 Author Share Posted May 30, 2021 9 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Don't you need to divorce before selling the house? Can you afford it on your own? No don’t need divorce and I can afford it but can’t afford to buy him out 1 Link to post Share on other sites
emprosnet7 Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 8 hours ago, Scotgirl84 said: No don’t need divorce and I can afford it but can’t afford to buy him out I think you need reassurance for a decision you already made. Link to post Share on other sites
Harry Korsnes Posted May 31, 2021 Share Posted May 31, 2021 How old are your children? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted May 31, 2021 Author Share Posted May 31, 2021 10 hours ago, Harry Korsnes said: How old are your children? All under 12 Link to post Share on other sites
czanclus Posted June 21, 2021 Share Posted June 21, 2021 On 5/30/2021 at 7:08 AM, Scotgirl84 said: I’d need to rent just now until market crashes don’t have anywhere yet that’s why I’m so scared I told you this would be a rough recovery. Three kids and no wealth, dependent on work for income. Yes, I've been in a situation where I barely had enough to cover all the bills for myself and my one kid who was 5 yo at the time. I got extra work and made sure I was never behind. I lost a lot of time with my daughter because of having to work so many extra hours. Choices and their consequences. This is why a lot of women stay in marriages until it gets so dire, they have nothing to lose by splitting. Keep your head up, focus on priorities, be ready for a lot of sacrifices. It'll work out to the good eventually. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted June 22, 2021 Share Posted June 22, 2021 Now is a good time to sell but you need a plan going forward. Your 1/2 of the house will not last forever. Link to post Share on other sites
emprosnet7 Posted June 26, 2021 Share Posted June 26, 2021 Find a buyer that will buy both halves of the house Link to post Share on other sites
Author Scotgirl84 Posted June 28, 2021 Author Share Posted June 28, 2021 On 6/22/2021 at 12:15 AM, czanclus said: I told you this would be a rough recovery. Three kids and no wealth, dependent on work for income. Yes, I've been in a situation where I barely had enough to cover all the bills for myself and my one kid who was 5 yo at the time. I got extra work and made sure I was never behind. I lost a lot of time with my daughter because of having to work so many extra hours. Choices and their consequences. This is why a lot of women stay in marriages until it gets so dire, they have nothing to lose by splitting. Keep your head up, focus on priorities, be ready for a lot of sacrifices. It'll work out to the good eventually. Yeah I need to sell it’s very toxic now like badly Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 28, 2021 Share Posted June 28, 2021 2 minutes ago, Scotgirl84 said: Yeah I need to sell it’s very toxic now like badly Do you have family close by? Starting over is hard but it's not impossible. Stick to your reasons for separating and eventually divorcing and selling the home. It's very hard selling a family home with all those memories. You can start over though and you do deserve a brighter future for yourself and the kids. Their father needs help with his alcoholism. That is not something you can fix or cure on your own. Link to post Share on other sites
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