Getting her back

[RG95]

So my girlfriend of just over a year broke up with me 3 days as of posting this. It all really started back in February when my grandma died. She was the first close relative I’d never lost and the rock of my childhood. It hit me really hard and I struggled to cope, so I without realising became distant to my partner and shut myself off for around a month. It wasn’t because I didn’t want to talk to her or I couldn’t, I just couldn’t process it in my own mind. Finally I started to feel better and myself again but I noticed my partner was acting abit distant and abit off with me. After two weeks passed of her acting this way, she had a discussion and she said she had no idea how hard it hit me because I didn’t bring it up, so she felt I was becoming disinterested in her and the relationship so she said she tried to protect herself by shutting herself down and distancing. She tried and tried to make herself feel comfortable again and make herself feel okay but it became too much pressure for her and she’s already an insecure person, I really knocked her confidence.

So we met the other day and she decided we should break up, she said not because she wanted to, but because she felt it was what we needed. I suggested we go on a break and try to return back to things after having some time to ourselves, she didn’t think that would work because she would feel immense pressure to make sure she’s okay by a certain time. She did say ‘you never know, in two weeks I might think iv made a mistake’ she promised she’d let me know if she felt that way. She also said which I didn’t catch onto at the time but Iv overthought it, abit too much ‘I would like us to keep in contact, as friends, in the meantime’ in the meantime? In the meantime until when? What did she mean?

it was an amicable break up, plenty of tears from both sides, plenty of ‘I’ll miss yous and I love yous’ from both sides and even some jokes and laughs to the point I said ‘how come we can be like this again now?’

im giving her space as I think it’s what she needs right now, iv not contacted her since the break up but I was thinking after a couple of weeks giving her a call and asking if she wants to go for a walk round her favourite walk area around us and possibly presenting her her favourite flowers which I doubt she thinks I’d remember what they were.

 

Would this be a good idea or should I just let her go?

[chillii]

lmo , why not , it couldn't hurt she can only say no. l don't think she really meant it tbh anyway. She seems a bit me me though if she can't even understand you were obviously upset for awhile without it being in block letters across your head.

But eh , everyone else will probably tell you not to she must come to you and rah rah , up to you.