Why don't women like short men?

[Metalbird55]

I'm a 5"4 man that gets regularly rejected for my height, especially women shorter than me and a lot of women these days won't actually be interested in short men.

[chillii]

How do you know it's about your height do they say that ? And it's weird how you say even from women shorter than you , you'd think they'd be fine with it.

At any rate , like l always say when something like this comes up. You see shorter guys anywhere everywhere with gf's and nice relationships. My daughters bf is shorter than her and she's gorgeous so it's not not like she;s stuck for choice. Matter of fact he other bf was short too.

[Mrin]

Dude here. I have lots of women friends and I seem to be the guy they turn to to talk relationship/dating stuff. The height thing has come up many times. Here's what I've gleaned from those conversations:

1. A significant portion of women are attracted to taller guys because they want to feel petite around them. The taller the guy the more petite they feel.

2. A subset of those women also spoke to feeling "safe". Like a taller guy could be more able to defend them from threats. Now, they also acknowledged that in the modern world this isn't exactly a thing anymore but they also supposed it was some sort of a genetic predisposition. Which makes sense.

3. Lastly, I'll give you this story. I'm 5'10". I once dated a woman was was a bit shorter than me and early in the dating relationship she went on and on about how odd it was that she was dating a man under 6 feet and how much she liked it. I found it curious so I asked her about it. Best we could figure out is that her ex-husband (she married young) was over 6 feet and the other couple of guys she had dated were also tall. It wasn't that she was predisposed to desire tall men per se, but more she was just used to dating tall men and it felt odd to be dating a guy, while still taller than her, didn't tower above her. So... That's habit maybe?

Anyhow, I hope this helps. And, if you want some advice - you can somewhat address #1 and all of #2 of you go get jacked in the weight room. Seriously, a broad chest and some defined muscles in your arms is worth a couple of inches in height most likely in some women's eyes.  

Best of luck!

Mrin

[5x5]

3 hours ago, Metalbird55 said:

I'm a 5"4 man that gets regularly rejected for my height, especially women shorter than me and a lot of women these days won't actually be interested in short men.

Are you sure it's because of your height?

Since I'm 5'3", and I've never lacked for very attractive female suitors, to the point that at almost 50 I have always enjoyed a splendidly rich sex life. Including being married twice (still married in the 2nd instance), having other ongoing sexual relationships, one night stands. Plus I have also been the other man with some women who were cheating on their partners.

While the majority of the women I have been with asked me out on dates (including my wife), chatted me up (including my ex-wife), picked me up at pubs, clubs and parties, offered to have affairs with me etc. Though I did pursue some of them, so it wasn't all of them chasing me.

Likewise my close to 21 year old son, who is 5'6" and has had a number of girlfriends. Also has had plenty of women who have been very keen on him, both in-person and via online dating with tinder and the like.

Maybe if you weren't so invested in your height being a limitation, you might have better luck.

Edited May 31, 2021 by 5x5

[dramafreezone]

That's the wrong way of looking it.

Some women are not attracted to shorter men.  Some women are not attracted to overweight men.  Some are not attracted to dark skin, light skin, big noses, blue eyes.  It's one thing.

You have your preferences too, so why is it that you're attracted to some things and not others?

Why focus on the women that aren't attracted to you?  Sure some have to have a taller guy, but some don't care, as long as you don't care.  Focus on those women.

Also, how do you know you're getting rejected for your height?  Are women coming out and saying this to you?  The brain can be a bit lazy sometimes.  If we have an insecurity, and we get rejected, our brain will latch on to that insecurity and say that's the reason.  But if you've had dates, then that's evidence that those women don't care about your height. 

It's a waste of time to even worry about this.  I'm short too, we can't change it so focus your energy on the women that aren't hung up on a man's height.

Edited May 31, 2021 by dramafreezone

[Happy Lemming]

I did date one woman and she told tell me she liked dating guys over 6 foot tall (I'm 6' 1"), because she could wear her stiletto high heels and not be taller than her man. 

This particular woman was 4' 10"...  I told her wear whatever heels she wanted, unless she put on drywall stilts, there was no way for her to be taller than me.

[Acacia98]

FWIW, I prefer dating "short" guys. I've dated really tall guys, guys who were slightly taller than me, and guys who were slightly shorter than me (I'm  about 5'4"). I felt awkward with the guys who were taller than me but pretty okay with the other guys.

And I know I'm not alone in this.

[stillafool]

I never cared about a man's height back when I was dating.  If they had a good looking face and body that was enough for me.

[Weezy1973]

7 hours ago, Metalbird55 said:

I'm a 5"4 man that gets regularly rejected for my height, especially women shorter than me and a lot of women these days won't actually be interested in short men.

I’d say some women are definitely attracted only to taller men. Most women  have a fairly strong preference to be with a man taller than themselves, but he doesn’t have to be tall per se. Some women genuinely don’t care either way. Height plays no role in their attraction. But practically no women that I know of would prefer a man shorter than themselves. 
 

But basically, don’t worry about people that aren’t attracted to you (for whatever reason) as you’re not going to be dating them anyways.

[Donnas]

Everyone got their own taste.

So you cant say that women dont like short man.because some do like them.

i even heard someone say she went to a bar specially to meet a short man. she wanted that always.🙄😄

But many women also want a man a bit taller then them. So they can feel certain type of way around him. To eacht their own.

[MsJayne]

How do you know you're being rejected for your height?  Do women actually tell you that? I don't know that many women who have a problem with male shortness. Maybe you have a bit of George Costanza going on?  

[Shining One]

1 hour ago, MsJayne said:

How do you know you're being rejected for your height?  Do women actually tell you that?

I'm 5'11" and a few women have told me I'm not tall enough for them when I asked them out. In my experience, women with a height requirement aren't shy about vocalizing it.

[MsJayne]

1 minute ago, Shining One said:

I'm 5'11" and a few women have told me I'm not tall enough for them when I asked them out. In my experience, women with a height requirement aren't shy about vocalizing it.

Really?  5'11'' isn't short, so that seems like an excuse. Either way it's incredibly rude. Perhaps you should respond by saying, "Yes, well, your butt can be seen from the moon, way too big for my liking, but I was willing to give you a go anyway."  

[chillii]

9 hours ago, Acacia98 said:

FWIW, I prefer dating "short" guys. I've dated really tall guys, guys who were slightly taller than me, and guys who were slightly shorter than me (I'm  about 5'4"). I felt awkward with the guys who were taller than me but pretty okay with the other guys.

And I know I'm not alone in this.

 

Yeah l could imagine. l'm over 6ft but any gf and ex w and my partner now l think 5'2 is the tallest woman l've ever known it's just happened that way with anyone l've ever liked . But at times in the past not ex w or my partner now but just gf's that didn't work out hence not really being that well suited anyway, l did sometimes feel awkward around them or them me. lt's been perfectly comfortable with the right woman though. l could well understand though plenty of women being more comfortable with someone nearer their height.

Edited June 1, 2021 by chillii

[TheBlingRing14]

I am 5'0. I say 5'1, but...5'0 is generous. 

My whole life, I have always said that my ideal man is "tall." 6'0 and over was my goal. I just always loved the idea of feeling petite next to a tall guy. 

 

Well...my ex-bf, and the current guy I am dating are not that at all. Both of them are just a couple/few inches taller than me. And, let me tell you, I'm not sure I can do a tall guy now. 

It's just so nice to be able to stand and kiss and it's not some issue where he is having to contort his body just to kiss me. Yes, I sometimes get on my tippy toes, but it isn't necessary at all. I've never had sex with a tall guy, but I have to imagine that logistically, it would be more difficult than my current and prior situations.

 

Trust me, there is a market for shorter guys out there. 

 

[chillii]

 

Haa there it is , that's all kind of what l would've thought too. Def' for some women anyway.

Nothin to worry about op.

[Blind-Sided]

I know of a few shorter guys, and they never really have problems dating.  AND... my one buddy who is 5'6", and maybe 140 lbs has been married for a long time. (his wife is slightly taller) 

BUT... it's hardwired into the human psyche.  Women (in general) want to feel safe and protected.  A tall, big guy can give that to them, regardless if it's the truth or not.   Just like guys find a petite girl, with good curves attractive. (in general)  But, everyone likes different things and different looks. 

Anyway... just put yourself out there... and you will find someone. 

I wish you luck in moving forward. 

Edited June 1, 2021 by Blind-Sided

[ItsTheDay]

I'm 5'6, the shortest girl I've dated was 5'2 and the tallest was 6', that was a fling but it was very weird. My current ex is 5'5 and her herself said she usually dated tall guys. 

But to answer your question "Why don't women like short men?", I was once told "I want to be able to be kissed on the forehead while wearing heals." 

[GeorgiaPeach1]

On 5/31/2021 at 8:49 AM, Metalbird55 said:

I'm a 5"4 man that gets regularly rejected for my height, especially women shorter than me and a lot of women these days won't actually be interested in short men.

Same thing happens to large women. No one likes to be rejected for superficial reasons. I hope you meet someone special who won't care about height.

[Foxhall]

Where are your normal hunting grounds,

I think a shorter guy will always be a a disadvantage in crowded venues for instance, you get a bit of an inferiority complex, the younger guys now seem to be all big and strong

but not so much in more quieter one on one situations, if you can get into an enjoyable conversation away from the crowds, your back in the game as it were.