How do I deal with all this?

[lp0817]

So I've been dating this girl for 2 months now, she lives an hour away from me.. shes 26 lives with her parents who are very strict in terms of relationships (her dad is)  but her mom is fine and I'm 29 live alone an hour away. She is learning to drive so I mostly go to see her or pick her up to bring her to mine for a weekend and take her back home. She is very strict when it comes to relationships..  as in she likes to get to know someone first for a while before becoming official and giving everything. Her parents are religious, her mom and sister are great with me though and are happy to see me. Her dad doesn't know about me yet, he doesn't even know about her sisters bf as he will make their lives so complicated over it as he's old school when it comes to things like that. And she wants to be sure she's definetly gonna put everything into me before introducing me to him instead of 7 months down the line we end up breaking up. 

Anyway, past 2 months have been good with a few ups and downs. She's been going through a tough time at work mentally. She hates it so much it got her down.. however I was there for her all times and went to see her to cheer her up which she liked. We facetimed every night and never got bored.  She then got offered a new job which is high pay and took it so is going through a job change and cannot wait to end her current one as its took a lot out of her.

Over a week ago she said she wanted to focus on getting better and to stop feeling down and sort herself out before committing to me. She said im an amazing guy and anyone's lucky to have me but felt she had to sort herself out instead of making me miserable or having to rely on me for something. I was supportive and said not to worry. The next day I went to see her as she asked if I would spend time with her and I did. She repeated this and how she felt. I then backed off, I thought why should I be the one to put the effort in.. message first or instigate conversations or more...  so I left her to it especially after what she said to me.

This past weekend I was with my friends back at my parents. She calls me all upset about everything mounting up in her life and that she does miss me. And just wants me to listen and be understanding when her anxiety gets bad and she doesn't know what to feel as she just goes numb. I said I.missed her too. 

The next couple days She then messages me saying that I dont want to speak to her because I've not said anything all day. I explain I'm just leaving her to it since she didn't message me and after what she told me about sorting herself out. I also had a restaurant booked for us for next Saturday which I planned to see her next. 

She then says we clearly are not working out if we don't speak and don't make effort to see eachother. I said well you've never asked me to come see you before next Saturday? And I'm seeing you Saturday so what's the problem??  She then said whatever.. and that I'm not making effort. Thing is I do miss her, I do like her and she is very good to talk to about anything.. she gives good advice and I know she recognises things I do for her like go there to keep her company etc.. its weird because I don't want to let her go yet I don't want to go through a stage of hot and cold as I've had that with an ex and it wasn't nice .  How do I deal with all this? Do I just brush it off and just enjoy the moment and have fun?? 

[Maldives]

why are you even accepting the blame here? 

She's the one who drew the line in the sand with sorting her life and head out. 

Seems like she has no awareness of her own actions. 

Red flag in my opinion. There'll be more of this. Walk away find someone more mature than this blameless soul

[ExpatInItaly]

She's too immature for a relaitoship, and her sense of entitlement is ridiculous. 

I wouldn't bother keeping in touch with her.