Eva_87 Posted June 9, 2021 Share Posted June 9, 2021 (edited) I don't even know where to start. I'm 34. He's 45. When we got married it seemed like we were somewhat on the same page. We bought my grandparents house, he knew I wanted to fix it up, and start a family in it together. My grandmother changed her will before she passed away to allow me to buy the home at a cheaper price to keep it in the family. (She did this before he and I even met.) So it's always been my dream to have the house.. Long story short, we've been married now 5 years and nothing. It's a lot deeper than that, he's obsessed with work. He's a high functioning alcoholic, and over the years it seems like I have never been his priority. I'm so lonely. I cry all the time because I just want a happy relationship with him.. i explain to him what's wrong, and tell him how badly I want this to work, but he never has anything to say except, "I love you, ill try harder." But then never does. We have no emotional connection, and no physical one. He's never home because of work, and when he is he's too tired or watching sports on his phone. It sucks. I love him, but I don't know how to keep giving and giving just to be let down. I'm struggling with being in my 30s and still having no children. I thought he would try, but he never wants to have sex. I've debated divorce for awhile now and I'm so scared to walk away. I'm scared ill lose my house, my pets.. my sanity. I've researched a lot about divorce, but I dont even know where to start. If I talk to a lawyer how do I even do that without bursting into tears? How do I afford it without draining my bank account.. im not confident when it comes to "adult" decisions. Ive never had to deal with something so major in my life.. I just want a husband, not a roommate. I'm just scared and don't know where to turn.. Edited June 9, 2021 by Eva_87 Spelling 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Datergirl Posted June 9, 2021 Share Posted June 9, 2021 Unfortunately alcohol is his priority. Do you want to spend the rest of your life being unhappy? Bite the bullet and get some advice from a divorce lawyer. You've still time to meet someone and build the life you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 9, 2021 Share Posted June 9, 2021 Yes speak to an attorney privately and confidentiality . Research Al-Anon. You'll lose your sanity and everything else if you stay with an alcoholic. The longer you stay the worse the outcome. Is the house deed in your name? Link to post Share on other sites
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