rainrhonda Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 (edited) So...well he's a songwriter. We just ended things a couple months ago. We got into argument and I walked away from him, we haven't spoke since. Now he posted a public song he wrote that sounds like he hates me. It's clearly about me because it mentions me walking away from him... But I also told him I love him before I walked. We have been involved for a long time and it was my 1st time saying it to his face. But I was angry at him, so I walked. The song also mentions that I hang out with his friends. Yes I do, but these were friends of mine before I even knew him. We met through our mutual friends in the 1st place. But I guess he doesn't like that. And the song basically says he's done with me. I miss him and he knows that he hurt me. (Long story) I walked away because I was hurting. Now it sounds like he hates me and I don't understand why. I stuck up for myself that night, when I didn't like how he was treating me. And now he's hurt me even more with this darn song. Why does he hate me when all I did was speak up for myself? I just don't get it, I'm heart broken. Edited June 10, 2021 by rainrhonda Forgot word Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 Eh, songwriters take creative liberty with their lyrics. Don’t read too much into it. It’s designed to capture listeners. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 Some of the best music and the inspiration for it is from break-ups and heartache. Unfortunately as much as this song "spoke to you", but wasn't specific, he can post what he wants on his social media. Best thing you can do is delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. That way you can move forward without the painful background noise. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 A songwriter wrote a song about a breakup? Shocking.... He is going to feel how he feels, and express it how he wants to express it. You have no control over that. He probably doesn't "hate" you, he is just hurt and expressing it in his own way. Stop looking at his social media. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 Take it easy. Looks like it wasn't easy for him also. So he is dealing with it in his way. He is a artist so is expected. Don't check his social media or wherever he is posting it if it hurts you. Breakup hurts, and certain things stings even after years with memory lanes. Things will be fine in a while and you didn't do anything wrong in speaking up for yourself who else will do that for you ? If you will not speak up for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted June 10, 2021 Share Posted June 10, 2021 16 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: Eh, songwriters take creative liberty with their lyrics. Don’t read too much into it. It’s designed to capture listeners. I agree and since you've been broken up 2 months it could be someone else he's talking about. They get they're inspiration where they can. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainrhonda Posted June 10, 2021 Author Share Posted June 10, 2021 Thanks. I don't mind that he shared it to the public. It just hurts me if he really feels what he says in the song. It even refers to me as being "fake". And I do know it's about me because the words describe our last encounter almost exactly. In another sense I'm glad if he is hurting as much as I am. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 5 hours ago, rainrhonda said: Thanks. I don't mind that he shared it to the public. It just hurts me if he really feels what he says in the song. It even refers to me as being "fake". And I do know it's about me because the words describe our last encounter almost exactly. In another sense I'm glad if he is hurting as much as I am. Rude and classless. Be glad that he's in your past. Regardless of the falling out it's no way to behave - musician or not. Put him behind you and move on. Count your blessings you got away. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 8 hours ago, rainrhonda said: I'm glad if he is hurting as much as I am. What was the breakup about? It seems quite acrimonious. Try not to let hurt turn into this type of bitterness. Delete and block him from all your social media and messaging apps. Move forward in peace. Stop looking for hidden meanings on social media. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainrhonda Posted June 11, 2021 Author Share Posted June 11, 2021 Well he treated me kindof badly, not abusive or anything like that but he was just generally acting like a jerk to me. I let him know how I felt about it then I walked away, and I guess he doesn't like that. So it wasn't officially breaking up but we haven't spoken so I'm guessing it's over. I walked away to make a point, and now I guess he is angry at me about it. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 So you unloaded on him and walked off without giving him a chance to make things right? Yep, that's a break up. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 12 hours ago, rainrhonda said: he was just generally acting like a jerk to me. I let him know how I felt about it then I walked away, Jerks are not like dogs. You can't train them to behave. Good call to end it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 (edited) 13 hours ago, rainrhonda said: Well he treated me kindof badly, not abusive or anything like that but he was just generally acting like a jerk to me. I let him know how I felt about it then I walked away, and I guess he doesn't like that. So it wasn't officially breaking up but we haven't spoken so I'm guessing it's over. I walked away to make a point, and now I guess he is angry at me about it. He's still the same person whom you describe as being a jerk to you. So he pretty much is still being a jerk even as he sings this song. He's probably looking to hurt and humiliate you, and he probably wants to do it publicly for maximum effect. Think about the song he posted in those terms. Then take a deep breath and express gratitude that you're no longer tied to this person. Edited June 12, 2021 by Acacia98 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 12 hours ago, rainrhonda said: I walked away to make a point, and now I guess he is angry at me about it. Sounds like you walked away and wanted him to follow you and try to make up. That is never a good strategy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainrhonda Posted June 12, 2021 Author Share Posted June 12, 2021 At that point I was so upset I didn't want to look at him, or talk to him anymore. So it didn't matter to me what he did after that. I just wanted to show him I was not going to put up with his bad attitude. But instead he's acting like I'm the bad guy...he has some narcissistic qualities about him and this is an example. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rainrhonda Posted June 12, 2021 Author Share Posted June 12, 2021 3 hours ago, Acacia98 said: He's still the same person whom you describe as being a jerk to you. So he pretty much is still being a jerk even as he sings this song. He's probably looking to hurt and humiliate you, and he probably wants to do it publicly for maximum effect. Think about the song he posted in those terms. Then take a deep breath and express gratitude that you're no longer tied to this person. I have not and will not acknowledge that I heard the song. I'm guessing maybe that's what he wants, for me to react irrationally. I am hurt, but I won't be telling him that. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 (edited) On 6/11/2021 at 12:14 AM, rainrhonda said: It even refers to me as being "fake". "Fake" probably just rhymes with a lot of other words, or fits in well with the song. it is mre diffciult to make a break up song about a girl who was just nice. Nice isn't so easy to use nor does it have the same impact as "fake". We often get guys on here hurt by women, they feel the need to redress the balance and often do that by denigrating the woman, accusing her of all sorts with no real proof. It is all part of the process. Edited June 12, 2021 by elaine567 Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 if people didn't write songs about heartbreak or breakups, taylor swift would be poor. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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