robaday Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 I got broken up with recently. In fairness she did try calling but I wasn't able to pick up as was out with friends. When I checked my phone I had four large messages saying we shouldn't be together, that she needed space etc. I responded briefly saying "I understand and you have to do what your heart is telling you and appreciate your honesty". She sent another message that night as well as two the following day I didn't respond to. They were nice enough but still no solid indication of interest really. Was my response ok? I mean it hurt but I knew her pretty well and I knew it would have been difficult for her to send me that. And whilst the temptation was there to respond to her other messages I figure if she has a change of heart she can call me. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 6 hours ago, robaday said: she did try calling but I wasn't able to pick up as was out with friends. I responded briefly saying "I understand and you have to do what your heart is telling you and appreciate your honesty". What was the reason for the breakup? Was this response after the breakup or the cause of it? Why bother? If it's over don't communicate. It's better than passive aggressive dismissive banter. Just pull the plug, make a clean break and set yourselves free. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author robaday Posted June 11, 2021 Author Share Posted June 11, 2021 She indicated she wanted to be single and was feeling overwhelmed in life in general. The response was to her breakup messages. I haven't reached out in a fortnight and she stopped messaging a week ago (I wasn't replying after she made it clear she wasn't interested). Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 3 minutes ago, robaday said: I haven't reached out in a fortnight and she stopped messaging a week ago. Ok. Excellent. Stay no contact. Best course of action. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted June 11, 2021 Share Posted June 11, 2021 Yes your response was fine. There is no point in sending her any more messages than that. Just leave it alone and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
spiritedaway2003 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 (edited) The message itself is fine. No contact is fine. Depends on the length of the relationship, I generally find it odd that the breakup happened over text. If it had been a relationship for some time, I (personally) would want to talk and end things properly, with a conversation (whether over phone or in person). If someone was worth my time to get into a relationship with, that person is worth my time to have that closing. But that's just me. To each his/her own. Your response is fine. She knows how to find you if she needs to reach you. Sorry for your hurt. I hope you're doing OK. Edited June 12, 2021 by spiritedaway2003 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author robaday Posted June 12, 2021 Author Share Posted June 12, 2021 To be honest regarding text breakups, I know it is frowned upon but I also know her well and I know it won't have been easy for her and at least it gave me time to collect my thoughts before working out how to respond. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TeddyBundy1993 Posted June 12, 2021 Share Posted June 12, 2021 Yes dude, you did right most of us can't resist these temptation to talk to our exes right after breakup. Your ex girlfriend is hurt clearly and the break up is new so she cannot just get over you in one night. You need a clean break and move on focus on other things. Whatever she texts don't read even and try to send it into a spam folder. She is just texting you bcz she's not over you yet but soon will be and you'll be forgotten like playschool best friend. You did right and continue this way, not many of us handle breakup this way and tends to speak to our exes which makes things more complicated. Link to post Share on other sites
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