The power of the *right* dress

[Mrin]

Fun Story:

So, the other night I found myself passing through the city at the same time the woman I have been dating was there too. We knew in advance that this would be the case so I booked us a room at a nice hotel in a fun part of town.

We were heading out for a night on the town and she stepped out of the bathroom in a little red and black dress. I was stunned. Gorgeous! But - she said hold on and after a few minutes came out in a little black dress. Now, in the history of the world there are little black dresses, and then there is _this_ little black dress. OMG she absolutely took my breath away. And kept it away. She looked like the sexiest woman I've ever seen in it. And... Judging by the reactions of every man (and some women) we walked by, I wasn't alone in that estimation. I shudder to think of all of the chiropractor and marriage counseling bills in the future of those unwitting observers that night. 

The Moral:

Look, I've been dating her for a year. I've seen her naked almost as much as I've seen her clothed. There isn't an inch to her body that is a mystery to me. I've seen her in lingerie. I've seen her in dresses. Pants that defy physics. You name it. 

But that night reminded me of the power that the *right* dress has on the right woman. There is something otherworldly about a woman in a dress that makes her feel beautiful. It isn't just how she looks. It is how she moves. How she smiles. How she talks. Her confidence. Her charm. There is something akin to a superpower at work. And it is breathtaking to behold.

I'm sure there is a analog for men to the right dress.

I toss this out there to my fellow LSers particularly the women here. Do you have *that one* dress etc...? How do you feel when you wear it? Does it imbue you with that sense of power and confidence? Do you notice your effect on others when you do?

Mrin

[Sun Seeker]

Cool story.. but what does this have to do with dating, the name of this forum?

[Mrin]

18 minutes ago, Vitaminka said:

What does it mean? I googled it. Nothing comes up. lol

Google "seasum women's high waist yoga pants". They were all the rage on social media earlier this year. You'll see what I mean. 

18 minutes ago, Vitaminka said:

Men and women cannot stop staring at her. Marriages are going to be destroyed because of her beauty or maybe because of her dress.

LOL. I exaggerate just a tad and it probably isn't always clear that I'm exaggerating 

I think you miss my point. Yes, she's a very attractive woman in her own right but in that dress... she was something else entirely. It is something i've noticed with many women over the years, most of them I haven't even been romantically connected to. My point was, in the right outfit/dress a woman has a completely different aura about her and it isn't just how she appears. It is everything. And that has to come from something within. Is it confidence? Sensuality? What is it? I'm sure there is an analog for men - maybe a well fitted suit. I'm just curious as to whether women (and men I guess) know when they're wearing *that one* outfit/dress. And do they save for special dates etc...

Edited June 14, 2021 by Mrin

[Lotsgoingon]

Well one reason she got the confidence to wear that great dress (or both of the dresses) is most likely because she feels really appreciated by you. Also sounds like her confidence in her beauty is growing.

I think you hit the nail on the head: it wasn't just "the dress." For one it is the fit of her dress around her body and the color of the dress against her complexion (she or her retail salesman helper found the right colors and styles for her). But what stunned you and others was also how she stepped confidently into wearing the dress. And she probably was smiling while she was walking down the street . That combo of the outfit and her energy--can certainly attract attention. I had a beautiful ex who wouldn't dare wear something that made her look great. She just literally didn't feel comfortable looking very attractive. 

So I'm not convinced it's the dress that caught eyes here. I see people wearing all kinds of beautiful outfits that just do not fit with their bodies or their complexions or their hair color and so on.  I think the magic here is that your gf was feeling really sexy and loved and comfortable with looking great. That's the magic that allowed the outfit to shine. 

BTW: I guarantee you your gf was wearing stunning shoes that worked with the dress. The wrong shoes can kill an outfit.

As for guys, I have a suit that I haven't worn in a while--but was my favorite suit back when I would sometimes go to work in a suit (as opposed to jeans these days). Again, like the case with your gf, I had to hook the suit up with the right shirt, the right tie and some nice shoes. (A guy can completely ruin a great suit with bad shoes or unpolished shoes). When I did that, OMG, I got compliments from random people at work and on the street, random colleagues. And I felt great inside.

Literally I would put on the suit and my mood and confidence would rise to match the beauty of the outfit.

[Mrin]

29 minutes ago, Lotsgoingon said:

Literally I would put on the suit and my mood and confidence would rise to match the beauty of the outfit

Right? Yeah I think you hit the nail on the head with that post. As a dude I have a couple of outfits that I think I look pretty good in. But nothing with that sort of magical quality. It's a shame we men don't wear suits more often. I think it gives us more opportunity.

Question - do you have any less formal outfits that make you feel like that?

Oh yeah and you were right about the shoes. Lol. 

Edited June 14, 2021 by Mrin

[Gaeta]

That was a great story to read Mrin, thank you for sharing. Helps me beleive in men again. 

[Lotsgoingon]

I have a "polo" type shirt that gets amazing reactions from people. 

I wore that shirt on a date a little while back. The woman I was with (we had basically been friends til this bar meetup) pointed out the shirt as evidence that we were not just on a friend-meet--.we were on a date.

The funny thing is my own judgment isn't good enough to identify those outfits that spark and pull me up. I've gotten pretty good and finding clothes that match my complexion. But the ultimate confirmation of how you look has to come from other people. It's like when other people say an outfit looks great, I download that comment in my brain and it then affects my future clothing selection. And the real comments that matter are gratuitous. Can't be a friend saying, "you look nice." Has to be a stranger who has a strong reaction or in my case colleagues that I wasn't closed to stopping me at work to tell me I looked nice. That's the confirmation that you're looking good. 

Oh ... this is funny: I have tried out various tailors, especially in the days I wore suits and dress pants. Well there is one tailor I've gone to ... and it's interesting ... he doesn't ask me how I want my pants to fit. He just has me put on the pants, he looks in the mirror, checks out how they fit me, inserts his various pins ... and OMG!  I had a woman go out with me who said she wasn't that excited, but then she looked at my pants and decided to go forward. I didn't get what she was saying at the time, but then I'd get compliments on other pants--and turns out, they were done by this one tailor. That's when I put together that the fit of the pants this guy did make me look great.

A great tailor is an artist. I checked out several top tailors in my city.  The pants done by these other guys ... sure they "fit" and "look nice." But the pants by the tailor I love ... those pants look like they were custom made for me. This guy knows how to take in pants so that my body looks great. It's not just the pants look great, but the way he takes them in, my body looks great. (Trump me, I got some lump.) Well, I wore out the particular pants that the one woman loved.

 

 

[Blind-Sided]

There is an analogue to men.  BUT... it depends on the man.  A young guy who is physically fit can wear things an older guy can't. (or shouldn't) But it's the same concept.... a tailored black suit is the equivalent. Especially on an older, distinguished guy.   And I'm not talking about an "Off the Rack" paper thin, JC Penny's special.  A proper suit that is made to fit the man perfectly.   This is why the "Little Black Dress" works.  It's of nice quality, and fits that person well, and is flattering. Because of my job Pre-COVID, I have several like this.  Even my sport coats I would have tailored. For a few extra $$$.... the image it passes on to a client is worth it.

But I agree... this is nothing to do with dating.

Edited June 14, 2021 by Blind-Sided

[Calmandfocused]

Mrin. 
 

For the sake of the ladies on here could you please find out the details of this dress? 
 

I’m fascinated to know what particular dress we’re talking about here?

 

I want one!

[SumGuy]

16 hours ago, Mrin said:

...I'm sure there is a analog for men to the right dress....

I think Harry Styles could answer that question for you

 

As to your original post.  I agree absolutely, the right clothes can push all the sexy buttons in ones mind.   It is not even showing skin (in fact in my view the more that is left to the imagination and the more they inspire the imagination the better), something that simply highlights form.  Will say it is different for different people and does not even need to be a dress, or one specific dress, or one look.   Also clothes can inspire confidence and even a bit of a persona in us when we wear them, which can also be part of it.

[stillafool]

17 hours ago, Mrin said:

Do you have *that one* dress etc...? How do you feel when you wear it? Does it imbue you with that sense of power and confidence? Do you notice your effect on others when you do?

Yes I have several of them.

[mark clemson]

Glad that you're having fun and like her. Certainly her being sexy can help with that.

[Mrin]

6 hours ago, Calmandfocused said:

Mrin. 
 

For the sake of the ladies on here could you please find out the details of this dress? 

Sure thing! She said it was a DVF (Diane Von Furstenberg) that she bought a few years ago. Definitely a fan!

[Alpacalia]

8 hours ago, Blind-Sided said:

A young guy who is physically fit can wear things an older guy can't. (or shouldn't)

Like what? A velvet velour tracksuit?

[mark clemson]

^^ pants hitched up over his gut...

[spiderowl]

Clothes seem pretty insignificant and superficial to me.  I wear things I like and keep them clean and cared-for, but I am not interested in wearing things just for a guy.  There is more to life than clothes.

It sounds like you had a happy and memorable moment.  Each to his own!

[cleverusername]

IMO the woman makes the dress not the other way around. If she's the right woman, she'll look just as great in panties & a white shirt, a $500 dress, or a pair of jeans.....