Author Ronnie10 Posted June 19, 2021 Author Share Posted June 19, 2021 (edited) 3 hours ago, deepthinking said: she should date men with herpes too, poor girl, but dangerous a bit dangerous as in the herpes? i feel a tad guilty and sorry for her too thats why i didnt break it off immediately. cant believe i've let this drag on still. dropping people is definitely not my thing. im horrible at these things lol. Edited June 19, 2021 by Ronnie10 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ronnie10 Posted June 19, 2021 Author Share Posted June 19, 2021 3 hours ago, d0nnivain said: I would not say that you are dumping her because she has herpes. She will know that is the reason. No need to make her feel worse. Try one of the standard white lie clichés like you two are "in different places right now" or you "are not ready for a relationship." As long as you are not intentionally cruel about it, the words themselves don't matter. Just be clear that you are done. How does that work? I'm genuinely not understanding how she get genital herpes from a BJ? I'm also not understanding how she didn't see the infection while she was doing that. Under the covers in the dark I could understand how it could be hidden during regular sex but not when it was right there. Maybe somebody more knowledgeable on the subject like @salparadise could please educate me about transmission. yeah i think she already knows. i have been kindve distance since she told me. i really dont want to be harsh about it because i know she's been through alot and im really not the type of person who says what i want to say i tend to meander from directly hurting someone. also herpes being the main reason i really am not looking for anything long term and she seems to already be very invested in this and its just been like a month. something i've been wondering myself. she didnt know he had it until sometime after because she didnt notice. she's had it for over a year now maybe 2 and never had any outbreaks or problems with it. she could also be lying but the fact that she told me about the herpes i would not necessarily doubt her. even when we kissed i never saw anything unusual. safe to say she didnt see anything as well when she gave her ex some head. my main issue here is i just suck at these things especially break ups, im mot the best at relationships. i know i want nothing long term, i know i definitely dont want to deal with herpes yet im struggling to tell this girl its over. will have to tear the bandage off eventually and let her know. her father passed away recently as well and it being fathers day i wont be a d*ick and do it this weekend. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 19, 2021 Share Posted June 19, 2021 20 hours ago, Ronnie10 said: exactly the thing. i 've recently started redating and this entire thing just seems like a mess to me. Agree. With or without herpes, she has way too much baggage about her ex.. Link to post Share on other sites
Yosef56 Posted June 20, 2021 Share Posted June 20, 2021 Yes i would suggest you break it off. Had a similar girl that had genital herpes she also was very sweet in the beginning and she broke it off with me within weeks of dating after promising me the world. Don't risk that stuff man, luckily i did not catch it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Not sure if it's too late to comment on this thread. There was another thread about this recently I really wanted to comment on but the topic is closed. Perhaps the person who started that thread will see this one. I believe she was dating and very interested in a guy who disclosed he had herpes. I was talking with a friend recently who was giving me a hot tip on a stock for a company that does gene therapy removing disease from DNA. This company just merged with an AI company. I got interested in investing in the company and did some research on it. Come to find out there's a team working with the disease removing company who is removing herpes from DNA. Hasn't progressed to humans yet but seems it may be just a matter of time. That said the company that removes disease from DNA very recently merged with an AI company. With these advances herpes and some other diseases may very well become a thing of the past. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 13, 2021 Share Posted July 13, 2021 I'm late to the party but l advise you let her go. Not because she's positive but because you did not even take time to read about it before posting here. Your mind was already made up. You only needed a bunch of people to confirm you're not a bad person for dropping her. Hold on to your hat cause 1 woman out of 4 carry genital herpes and around 80% of population carry oral herpes. She's not the first woman you meet that carries this. She was just the first honest one. Link to post Share on other sites
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