was it wrong to have flirted with my co worker?

[celiagracie]

i got a job at a pool about a month ago working the snack bar and i’ve really fancied one of the lifeguards there and didnt know if he had any interest in me too, and since it is basically just a summer job i wanted to make it known that i at least thought he was attractive since its only a summer job for a few months. so a few days ago i went to go give him some food he had ordered and it was just him and one other lifeguard sitting there so i decided to say something since it wasn’t a super big group of people and it wouldn’t be too weird. i looked at him right in the eyes and said “your eyes are beautiful! they go really well with the color of your hair too, i always thought green eyes and brown hair went so well together. i dont know why, it just looks so good!”. about 5-10 minutes later one of the other lifeguards walked up to the snack bar to get a drink and another one came up and started whispering to him what i had just said (and made it super obvious). i’m friends with all the other lifeguards and they like to tease me all the time so i dont know if they thought it was really weird for me to say that or if they were just trying to mess around with me like they usually do. but either way it made me feel really awkward after. i saw him the next day and he said hello like he usually does and then again today but we didnt have time to talk since we were busy. he seems to be acting the same around me but i just feel really weird going around him now and i’m scared i made him uncomfortable and that the lifeguards were actually just making fun of me instead of just teasing me. were a few years apart too, (16 and 19) although its not the biggest age gap (and still technically legal if anything happened because of age of consent laws) it could still could play a part on making things weird, although i don’t exactly know if he knows im 16 and i’m pretty sure hes 19 (he could even be 18 or 20) because i googled him and saw he graduates college in 2024. and finally, my boss just told me she’s moving me to the check in desk so when i’m working now i’ll be sitting with him almost all of the time, which i would be excited about but i just feel so weird even talking to him. i’m too nervous anything i say will come off the wrong way. was what i said too flirty or weird? did i come on too strong? what if he doesn’t find me pretty and they were all just laughing at me. it may just be all in my head but i’m a terrible over thinker and i don’t know what to do.

[mark clemson]

Try to relax, not have expectations, and see how it goes. If he likes you back, that should become obvious eventually if you are sitting near each other all day. Rejection, obnoxious and immature behavior, gentle flirting, friendship, a serious mutual crush, some light romance/making out, or a serious summer fling, are all possibilities here. Breathe, try to chill out, play it reasonably cool, and just see where the roulette wheel of life and circumstance takes you with this.

[d0nnivain]

It's fine.  The prohibitions against dating at work apply to careers not your summer job in HS.   

You made it clear.  If he doesn't ask you out, that is on him.  You hold your head high & go about your business. Be nice not aloof to him but don't chase.  You are already being teased which is part & parcel of being a teen. Go with it good naturedly. I don't think anybody is being mean about 

When you have to sit next to him at this check desk, talk to him as a friend.  Get to know each other.  Don't be overt & things should be fine, any awkwardness will fade away if you are simply gracious.  

[Wiseman2]

These lifeguards don't want to "rob the cradle", so to speak, but may be flattered by your crush.