Heartbroken advice please

[Georgiamae]

Hi guys, I’m heartbroken please be gentle with me. Came out of a marriage and my first ever relationship since was a guy I met out of lockdown - we chatted and met when we could during lockdown but honestly had the best 7 months together - something I never experienced in my marriage. He did have a few mental health issues, he was very obsessive and would call me 24/7 and sometimes he struggled tog get out of bed as he was depressed.

We live hours apart but called each other all day and face timed all day and met up half way or at his for a week here and there , meeting him was the best days I’ve ever had (gotta say the sex was *** which gives me confidence he ain’t sleeping around)

After 7 months I asked him what our future plans were and on many occasions he would just laugh and say we get married that’s it. No sensible answer. I arranged on three occasions a FaceTime date to plan what happens next and when we see each other again etc. He didn’t show. I was so hurt maybe I reacted irrational but I blocked him. As soon as I did his true feelings came out, he left me 200 voicemails saying he loved me he couldn’t lose me, missed me and needed to see me again.

I ignored him for a week and took my space then I rang him and said how hurt I was. He was cross saying me ignoring him had triggered him massively and he couldn’t get out of bed, eat or think straight hé Saïd we are too up and down and he is tied between letting me go or pursuing this with caution. I said if he feels like that maybe we should let this go and explained again how his inconsistency hurt me so much that’s why I did what I did.

We had a lovely chat last night and agreed we love each other and would take that time.  I asked during this time apart we do no contact as I am hurting so much. Within hours he follows and allows lots of girls on Instagram to follow him. We had a pact in our 7 months we would never do that as he said he sees Instagram as a dating site and I agreed. He is blocked on my Instagram and I only found out as a girl he followed was my friend !

I couldn’t help but break no contact and angrily ask how he could do that to which He replied ‘I swear on my families life it’s not how you think, how can I possibly move on when I’m so in love with you’. I didn’t reply . I’m beyond hurt I feel like I’ve been dumped and he's moved on so quick. For someone who was crying they love me to this. I’m so so hurt how do I move forward? The pain is so severe I can’t eat. Please help I feel so low

Edited June 19, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[d0nnivain]

You fix what's wrong in a relationship by communicating & working together not running away & giving people the silent treatment.   Both of you have lousy communication & conflict resolution skills.  Him adding all sorts of women on IG in a fit of pique was immature.  

You have to eat.  Making yourself sick or malnourished is not the answer.  

When he last said I love you & you failed to respond, that was bad.  You two need to sit down & have a long talk in person.  If you can't or won't do this, you have no chance of reviving this.