Sinful Posted June 19, 2021 Share Posted June 19, 2021 (edited) I just wanted to share my story for those who may find themselves thrust into a similar situation. You can read my original post here: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/topic/593589-im-trapped-in-a-love-triangle Originally, I was confused and didn't know what was going on. I thought that I was in some sort of "love triangle", when the reality was that I was married to a covert narcissist. For 3 years I suffered her abuse, both emotionally and physically. I still have the pics from when she left my arm black and blue from punching me while I was driving!! I never thought that I would be a victim of abuse. The emotional scars that this woman left with me still run deep, and it's taken me a lot of personal therapy to recover and get back to where I am today. Which is why I wanted to make this post. I figure if I could help just 1 person who might be going through what I went through, then it's worth it to tell my story. The hardest thing for me was coming to grips with the fact that I fell in love with someone who never really cared for me at all. She only cared about herself and saw me as nothing more than a resource that she could abuse and manipulate to get her "fix". And she abused me and my love for her to extract every available resource she could from me, until she decided that I was no longer of use to her, at which point she simply discarded me like a piece of trash. She left me for dead, and then for the next year did everything she could to make my life a living hell, just out of spite. But just last month I finally got my divorce finalized and I'm now FREE from the toxic ties of this demon. She left me for dead, but she didn't kill me. I picked myself back up, and started the long and painful process of healing. I'm doing much better now, and getting better every day. Despite all the pain and suffering, I'm actually a better man today from going through this. The great irony of it all is that... it took me seeing the reality, that the person I loved and valued so much, didn't really love or value me at all, and that in turn helped show me my true value. Now I know and understand my value, and I'll NEVER let anyone define my value again. To anyone who may find themselves in a relationship with a narcissist (or any abuser), be strong, and no matter how painful it may be you must cut ties with this person and set firm boundaries. I know my ex narc will be trying everything in her power to hoover me once she realizes that my value has shot up and she effectively threw away a winning lottery ticket. But I'm way too strong now to ever allow an abuser into my life. I now have 5 years experience dealing with a narcissist, so if ever I can help anyone else with the knowledge I have learned please feel free to ask. This is my story... I hope it may help someone else find the strength to move past an abusive relationship. Edited June 19, 2021 by Sinful 6 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lisa_Lisa Posted June 21, 2021 Share Posted June 21, 2021 I'm glad you were able to get out. It takes time to heal from this, but as you already indicated, you are a stronger person for it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KDav40 Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 I’m in the same situation rn. I also have kids with her it’s a hard situation to deal with on an everyday basis. I already have a plan to get out! Good luck to anyone else dealing with a Narcissist. PS Make a plan! Go Far Away! Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted July 2, 2021 Share Posted July 2, 2021 Unfortunately, people with mental issues including narcissist/control freaks don't make good partners. Put this on a sticky note on your fridge: They have to be sane to be a good catch. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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