How can I be more positive about being in more bad relationship then any good relationship?

[SimsLoveCandace]

the problem that I had most issues when I do tell the girls the truth about lout who I was going out with a guy in college some were ok but some just got mad me and when I told them to stop being it up they still end being mad. Yep I even told my guys that I did have a relationship that I had bad feel with some of girls. I knew one of girls did had a crush on him and she made a lot drama. I am know that I can't seem to trust women much when I do get in a relationship and know this my issue. I am just wondering What are the limited to friends to come with some guys that has some girls as friend or this not truth. I told guys that bad experience with girls in college within previous relationship that I did had. yet now I always feel very uneasy and nervous around younger women and I know some younger women will always seen taken men more attractive then single guys. this my problem that I can't control other women but can only control myself around other people. I was in a learning disability high school and college. the college is where I had must issue with girls while be in a relationships in past. how can I get pass that some women will always tried to find a way to break the correct that I just want to have a good relationship with just one men without having any girls that will be a issue. I know will never happen and deal with it some how

[stillafool]

I'm sorry Candace I'm having a hard time understanding your post.  Are you asking how to stop other girls from going after guys you are dating?

[SimsLoveCandace]

8 minutes ago, stillafool said:

I'm sorry Candace I'm having a hard time understanding your post.  Are you asking how to stop other girls from going after guys you are dating?

Part off . the girls always had a learning disability and I also has a learning

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. I always had issue with befriending women in college . yet when I did get in a  relationship they tried to ruin every single one of my relationship part from the shy guy. that did had ginger hair . I am still single and they leave me alone .

[stillafool]

Girls get jealous and that is why they try to ruin your relationships.  Maybe the next time you get a boyfriend do not tell them about him.

[SimsLoveCandace]

16 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Girls get jealous and that is why they try to ruin your relationships.  Maybe the next time you get a boyfriend do not tell them about him.

I did this do and they still trying to get answer . even get more mad when I said I want them to stop one still get even more mad and cause more drama with a previous ex boyfriends . my first ex boyfriend one his girl as friend threated me over Facebook . I am talking to a  guy through factbook at the moment and I already assume thing since another girl token a pic and posted on her profile

Edited June 22, 2021 by SimsLoveCandace

[stillafool]

Being on facebook is your problem.  Stay off of there so you don't get bullied and the girls won't know what you're doing.

[SimsLoveCandace]

Why is the facebook is the issue I already had limited about of men and most of the men are on Facebook and so no I will never will get off fakebook . find something else then to trash fakebook . do you know that i have a learning disability and these were all learning disability

Edited June 22, 2021 by SimsLoveCandace

[Wiseman2]

28 minutes ago, SimsLoveCandace said:

 i have a learning disability and these were all learning disability

@Candacesims Ok, ask your parents for help navigating these situations and block anyone who disturbs you.

Edited June 22, 2021 by Wiseman2

[SimsLoveCandace]

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Ok, ask your parents for help navigating these situations.

My parents will not help me with this issues not my mum or my dad . or my sisters . I do not have any friends . again why is Facebook is the issue that one girl was i  same college of me while she threated me to break up.

[SimsLoveCandace]

I noticed every time I got in a relationship a lot s*** happened with girls

had tried to talk to girl to leave me alone or not get involved with guys that I was in a relationship. the girls didn't listen.

yep I did told the guy that i had bad feel with a girl.

I am not sure what do. some girls didn't even listen to the guy that I did have a relationship. friends with women I do not see a point of having any friends with women. I only had my dog has my friends and spider.

I dislike shopping for clothes since am on petite side but there side are too tight. I do not like show off skin and I prefer wear casual wear.

dislike wearing high heels. hobby are I liked golf , swimming, video games, YouTube learning new things. I feel like I just lot hate with women that I just liked short guys and autism guy a more.

know that women will sometime taken guy are more attractive then single guys. I am now get a jealous over some girls because of my experience with girls that I didn't listen to me or my guys that I did have a relationship.

I just assume that girls will be girls to come to men. I do not want to fight over men. do not want a men to plays game and talk about his ex girlfriend. I am ok with guys with asking question about what I dislike.

I want a guy that seen that i personality is better then my looks. I am not waiting for guys since some guy will get taken sometime before i had to chance to.

I am will going out to McDonald. that I set up with guy that I been talking through Facebook. all because of women that post pic of her and him on his and her Time line wouldn't tell the different between friends or not. I think they might be friends. he sent his own pic and he is more short and what I always liked more and also has autism.

this girl will not beat me this time. do you think that I am the problem with girls

[stillafool]

You should stop worrying about girls taking your guys.  If a guy likes you no girl can take him.  Find one who really likes only YOU.

[NYAG]

Yeah, any guy you have to fight to keep by your side isn't worth the effort. They either want to be there or they don't. Shackling them does not work and you will regret it when it turns sour. Always let them go if they want to go.

[kendahke]

On 6/24/2021 at 5:45 AM, SimsLoveCandace said:

every time I got in a relationship a lot s*** happened

The constant denominator in "every time" is you---you might want to look into what you're attracting.

[NYAG]

10 hours ago, kendahke said:

The constant denominator in "every time" is you---you might want to look into what you're attracting.

I had the same problem and realised the same, so I deconstruct every potential relationship now and look for the red flags. That doesn't always stop me going down the same avenues, but it does make my hyper aware of when it starts to become a problem and enables me to walk away. As someone who is not focused on getting into a long term relationship I am happy to move about.

[SimsLoveCandace]

20 hours ago, NYAG said:

I had the same problem and realised the same, so I deconstruct every potential relationship now and look for the red flags. That doesn't always stop me going down the same avenues, but it does make my hyper aware of when it starts to become a problem and enables me to walk away. As someone who is not focused on getting into a long term relationship I am happy to move about.

I do not trust girls has friends . I can sometimes trust men . i do not understand anything you just said and have date guy with learning disabilities because I have learning disability . I am not attractive to girls . not lesbian or bi . I am straight .  Girl are the issue that always find issue with me no matter what relationship I was in . the girls didn't bother to listen me or guys that I did have relationship . do you not understand this 

[smackie9]

We are just strangers on the internet, not certified, or professional. We find it too difficult to understand you so we can't give you helpful reliable advice. Talk to a therapist that has a good working knowledge with people who have learning disabilities.

[SimsLoveCandace]

what if |I already tried therapy and hasn't even work yet and yes I already has tried stupid therapee as they think that I can't handle it since I i got banned from therapy. why is therapy is not always the answer and they don't understand about my learning disability. again not helpful one bit. even therapy for learning disability that also got banned from

Edited July 2, 2021 by SimsLoveCandace

[stillafool]

Why  would they ban you from therapy?

Edited July 2, 2021 by stillafool

[SimsLoveCandace]

22 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Why  would they ban you from therapy?

i am not sure but is was just one therapy in my town area and and was a lady therapy always did the baby talk type that just made me even more pissed and just got kick out from it . she said therapy is not right one for you . I tired other therapy hasn't yet help. the therapist lady said is was too difficulty for me . didn't like how she was talking to me like I was a felt like a  kid in 7 year  . I am not want to be any immature or because of my smaller side . 

[stillafool]

I've known people who've gone through several therapists until they found the right one.  Some are just not compatible with you and you have to keep trying until you find the right one.  When you do it's a lovely experience because they understand how you feel and what you're going through.  Don't let one bad one make you give up.

[SimsLoveCandace]

I still can't find my therapy and must of them are not available since convid has stopped people and still find user a isue when a user meation the word therapy and has already heard before and just anouyied me . I just told you that I am banned from therapy and yep they must were bad and wasn't helpful me one bit .. I only got through NHS therapist. Nothing good ..just bad therapist.

[smackie9]

17 hours ago, SimsLoveCandace said:

what if |I already tried therapy and hasn't even work yet and yes I already has tried stupid therapee as they think that I can't handle it since I i got banned from therapy. why is therapy is not always the answer and they don't understand about my learning disability. again not helpful one bit. even therapy for learning disability that also got banned from

You are with the wrong therapist and not properly diagnosed. There is more than one therapist in the world, some properly qualified to handle cases like yours. there are learning disabilities and then there are learning disabilities with mental health issues. They were obviously not qualified enough. Keep looking.

[stillafool]

15 hours ago, SimsLoveCandace said:

I still can't find my therapy and must of them are not available since convid has stopped people and still find user a isue when a user meation the word therapy and has already heard before and just anouyied me . I just told you that I am banned from therapy and yep they must were bad and wasn't helpful me one bit .. I only got through NHS therapist. Nothing good ..just bad therapist.

There are some that do therapy by phone too so keep searching.

[smackie9]

To add we are definitely not qualified and you are getting even more frustrated. That can't be good for your situation right? Does that make any sense? We really don't know how to help you.

[SimsLoveCandace]

18 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

To add we are definitely not qualified and you are getting even more frustrated. That can't be good for your situation right? Does that make any sense? We really don't know how to help you.

I do not have therapies at alll since all them are fed up with and i do not like the NHS therapies . just seem more aggressive and do they stupid voice . other things I find harder to tried let the pass to let go . find harder to be single . I am not sure what go . I tried every single things . maybe going to group in another town maybe a good ideal . I am only tried one from NHS  and yes I already give up with it .