do MM feel more passion for MW compared to SOW?

[donnaLV]

Sorry for grammar

I found out MM I was seeing in past fallen in "love" irony only with MW.. Coincidence or not?

Found out he is serial cheater,and has 3 ex-es,all of whom are MW,that he naged with hurt on some fourm,because those women were having other dudes on side beside him,lol

We met on site for singles,he claimed to be single..told me one time he would never tell me of his marriage,kids if i didn't find out by accident (long story) because its "private"

He told me also he don't want feelings involved because he is afraid to fall in love with me,wanted me exclusive (i never was,was meeting other men)... To find out in those times he searched for full blow affair with passion,feelings,connectins with married women in one affair forum...He even mentioned deadbedroom,kids in that "add"..

Honestly i was stuck by all i found out. Not that i wanted "happily ever after" with some MM,but that for some reason with "his" other single women too, he hidden his M,claimed he wanted only NSA with them,but searching for deep connection with married ones specifically. he knew it i was looking for passion too,not expecting serious,so still don't get it

Do you think MM have more enjoyment with MW more? In sense is even more forbidden,2 famillies are in risk,so it gives them more rush? More fantasy? Ive read so many MM comment how they are all in their feelings..coincidence or not is usually with MW..

They justfiy it with how MW are more secure? I don't believe that at all,simple as those crazy stories happened with MW as well,they fall for MM,have expectations with time too,clingy,is no less drama compared to single ones etc..

Do you think MW are more appealing to those MM,as they aleardy have husband,so it makes MM fight for her time instead? Like they appear more unattainable?With SOW is usually all on his terms and when he CAN or is free..

Or is plain fetish that he is taking other man's wife? Which i think might be,in that case i could see how single can't win that battle,to have that kind of passion with him,simple as she is single,so he can't fulfill his fetish...but why he wanted me exclusive if his fetish is woman being taken?

Give me your opinions if you think MM usually have more passion for MW ,as they appear more unavailable maybe,which makes them more appealing ? Do you agree or not? Is not about my case,but was curious as general what is it about

Edited June 26, 2021 by Jollaanda
Tittle mistake

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Jollaanda said:

We met on site for singles,he claimed to be single.He told me also he don't want feelings involved.

Have you deleted and block him from the dating app as well as all your social media and messaging apps?

He was lying about being single, but all cheaters are liars. Unfortunately he was upfront about 'just hookups' (escorts could involve legal and financial problems for him).

As far as married mistresses, vs. single mistresses, there may be less risk with cheating married women because both have too many lies and secrets to hide, so when things go bad, each one has the option of telling the other's spouse.

They have the dirt on each other so they're more equally matched.

[donnaLV]

52 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Unfortunately he was upfront about 'just hookups' 

Yes,we ended it,i didn't blocked him,we don't text eachother anymore so no need for blocking

He was upfront he wanted nice,fun times with me,longer term one. He also knew i look for same,passion for the time we met, no serious rl

So it don't make sense to me he then went on site and wanted feelings and connection with married women. See now? He knew i was safe as well and never wanted more.. so it must be his fetish for MW,because why MM want MW if he already met SOW who also wanted ONLY passion and great sex? 

It seems he wanted feelings with MW specifically,well that is dangerous for him even more so. Whatever it seems i will just never get it why he was picking married over me,when he KNEW i never wanted more..

Why he wanted hookups with SOW but wanting more serious deep connection with MW is all my point? Is not that i wanted deep feelings,just naturally curious why he had double standards for single vs married....

Edited June 26, 2021 by Jollaanda

[basil67]

According to your previous post, he lost interest in you because of all the arguments, your demands and that you didn’t want to connect emotionally.  In short, it was too much drama.  It had nothing to do with a MW fetish. 

 

Edited June 26, 2021 by basil67

[BaileyB]

I think some men are just serial cheaters. They care less about the women than they do about themselves and their own agenda.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, Jollaanda said:

So it don't make sense to me he then went on site and wanted feelings and connection with married women. See now?

It's important not to try to decipher the musings of a cheater and liar.

[DKT3]

MW are easy prey for men like this. SOW have higher more immediate expectations.  

[stillafool]

4 hours ago, Jollaanda said:

So it don't make sense to me he then went on site and wanted feelings and connection with married women. See now? He knew i was safe as well and never wanted more.. so it must be his fetish for MW,because why MM want MW if he already met SOW who also wanted ONLY passion and great sex? 

He wants variety.  It has nothing to do with being SOW or MOW.  The women he was showing more passion to are women he feels sexually attracted to and wants to bang.  Doesn't matter if she's married or not.  He gets an OW and soon bores of her and moves on to another one he wants to bang.  Married or not.   It would do you good to stop snooping on him to see who he's interested in since you two are over.

[DKT3]

I know serial cheating men. Some repeatedly cast one line waiting for one but, while other use a net. Single women usually have stronger guards in place, as MW tend to use denial of whats happening to allow them to get closer...oh were just friends,  I would never, and so on.

MW will do all the work once he gets past her walls, while Single women still have an expectation of courtship.  

No no, there is a huge difference between mw and ow. From efforts to secrecy. Very few people actually have exit affairs,  its really a oxymoron thing to start with,  so married women have as much to lose and at least in the beginning no desire to divorce. 

So when you compare a MW who spends most of her day trying to figure out how to steal time away from her family to spend time with a guy who "GETS HER" like no one else ever has with a single woman who has expectations of courtship and immediately growing the relationship,  of course adding in the higher possibility that she will inform his wife. I've never cheated on my wife, but looking at it from a purely logical perspective Its more comfortable and easy with a MW, no clue if its more passionate. 

[Luna66star]

I don't think MM prefer one over the other.  Whoever bites and he is attracted to is fair game.  In fact, I know of one MM who didn't discriminate age, looks or marital status.  He chased a 30 year old and a 62 year old woman simultaneously.  Both fell victim to his charms.  He was very sneaky and always started off as just platonic friends for a long time.  He would wait for them to "come on to him" at some point down the road.  Technique was subtle and hidden.  On top of that, he showed a super nice, helpful personality.  Who could resist that?  

I don't think MM are too picky about the quality of their side dishes.

Pros and cons to both.  Single girl readily available, has her own place for privacy.  Con.  She may demand more time he can't give.  May get revenge with stalking or get pregnant. MW.  Won't demand as much of his time, as she has a family too.  Con.  They would need a hotel for privacy.

 

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[Wiseman2]

24 minutes ago, Luna66star said:

I don't think MM prefer one over the other.

Agree. Cheating is opportunistic.

[bdawn]

From what I gather from your post, your MM was looking for intimate romantic relationships with married women but only nsa sexual relationships with single women and he also hid his marital status from single women. If that's the case then there is a simple explanation for that. Affairs are theoretically less demanding and complcated when both participants are married. A married affair partner will be more understanding of the MMS limitations. She will presumably not make demands and not ask the MM to leave his wife. He will not have to lie as much to her regarding his marital and family activities. He will not have to worry that she will expose the affair to his wife because she also needs secrecy in order to protect her marriage. If the MM wants to stay married then a Mw is a safer choice

[mark clemson]

14 hours ago, Jollaanda said:

Give me your opinions if you think MM usually have more passion for MW ,as they appear more unavailable maybe,which makes them more appealing ? Do you agree or not? Is not about my case,but was curious as general what is it about

Maybe the issue is trying to figure out what they "all" want. Men (including MMs) are individuals and not all will want/prefer the same things. There probably ARE plenty of MMs out there who focus specifically on MWs for whatever reasons, but I doubt that's all of them. There are probably some that only want blondes, BBWs, women of Indian descent and whatever other categories you care to name, as well as some that take "all comers". The spectrum and variety of preferences probably isn't all that different from men overall.

One could imagine various logical reasons/rationales for preferring either SOWs or MOWs, so presumably there are MMs that favor both categories.

Edited June 26, 2021 by mark clemson

[donnaLV]

17 hours ago, stillafool said:

The women he was showing more passion to are women he feels sexually attracted to and wants to bang.  

Thank you all for replies. Coldn't replay to all,so i liked,as there is nothing to say,you all made some interesting,valid points.

Also this sums it up all. He wasn't sexually turned on by me enough. He said he had best addictive passion with some woman,who made him most miserable man ever. She was very drama by some of his stories he told me,she would left him during met out of blue etc.,so I knew my nags of valid stuff wasn't problem or he wouldn't put up with his ex-drama for that long.

You are all right by saying MW had more to lose. Although i think even that vary,all stories of ppl are mixed:meaning both single/married women,men can demand more time or whatever if feelings are involved. I only don't like that stereotype where we singles are potrayed as we "must" all look for "more",demand from MM,and how MW are all "mature,stable,know what they want"..when ive read some really crazy stories happened involving MW too..

Plus, he know i didn't look for anything serious and teased me about it,using sarcasm how he is sure i don't care about him truly.

I opened this topic ,simple as i felt sexually rejected,so wanted to know reason,is not like he would be honest of it. My personal opinion,is also this one i quoted.

He showed me also one time,he sent text to MW he wanted her last bang,last fun before she moves. He was with her for long time. With me? he didn't wanted to experience me more sexually,but yeah,not many men will be honest of saying woman don't turn him sexually enough..

Don't care i wasn't his type,but is pity he never was honest of it,so we both wasted huge amount of time,texting,opening up..

Edited June 27, 2021 by Jollaanda

[stillafool]

Well the good thing is you are someone's type so you have to keep searching.  Having sex with a MM is not the way to go anyway.  If you want sex there are plenty of single men out there to do that.

[donnaLV]

2 hours ago, stillafool said:

Well the good thing is you are someone's type so you have to keep searching.  Having sex with a MM is not the way to go anyway.  If you want sex there are plenty of single men out there to do that.

Yes,i have met a new very sexual man,divorced,and i must add,he made me feel very sexually desirable again. He wants me all the time,from dead bedroom with this ex to now with new partner,that we can't keep our hands from eachother.. 

I also feel more excitement,passion for him,plus Im more relaxed because i don't have to worry his wife will find out

in this ex "rl" i felt like "neglected mistress" is so funny to happen to someone,so of course was curious how is even possible to happen,that MM who is himself full of drama,claimed all his ex-es are crazy,drama was offended by all i say and wasn't in mood to have sex..

I'm glad it never progressed to more or more mets,as im sure i would felt quilt for doing something wrong sooner or later..

was in mood to speak of this,simple as we were on/off for 2 and half year (long distance) so i couldn't forgot about it right of the bat. Thankfully i dated other man in meantime (didn't weited for his turtle move on me)

Thanks all for giving me some new look at things  

 

 

Edited June 27, 2021 by Jollaanda

[stillafool]

Glad you met and are enjoying your new single man.  At least now if you feel you want to go further with him it is possible because he's free.  I've heard a lot of men speak about their crazy exes who were full of drama, bipolar, you name it and about all of them said it was the best sex they've ever had.  I think some men go for crazy.  All the best.

[BaileyB]

Consider yourself lucky, it sound like you have found a nice single man who find you attractive and all is well. Much better option than the serial cheat you dated for two years. 

Edited June 27, 2021 by BaileyB