Derek Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 My lady left me four weeks ago, she spoke to me the first day I moved out, she then said she would contact me the next day and I waited all day and I messaged her seeing if she was ok? And she said I think it’s best to not talk anymore bye. Ive been heartbroken ever since, I have this unhealthy obsession of trying to ring her everyday and text her. I have stopped in the last 5 days, but i am constantly in a battlefield with myself I just want to talk to her and see if she’s ok, and have a catch-up she meant the world to me. also to add the last 5 days I’ve dreamed about her being with someone else & I wake up crying over it. I need help! Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 What was the break up about? Is this your first serious relationship? The pain and heartbreak and withdrawal will fade after a few weeks. Give yourself time to recover and steady yourself. Calling her or reaching out to her will do nothing except aggravate the situation. Keep telling yourself it didn't work for a reason. Keep it that way. When the dust settles you'll be able to see clearer why you were not a good choice for each other. Till then, stay busy and keep your mind off your phone. Go outside, be productive in other ways, make plans with friends and start a new routine for yourself in your free time or days off so you're not left languishing thinking about the past. You can get through this but it's mind over matter and pacing yourself. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 You need to refrain from ever contacting her again. The worst mistake you can make is to continue. When somebody dumps you, never, EVER initiate contact again. Ever. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted June 27, 2021 Share Posted June 27, 2021 2 hours ago, Derek said: I have stopped in the last 5 days Excellent. Stay no contact. The last thing you need, on top of heartbreak, is a restraining order or the police showing up with a complaint of harassment, stalking, etc. Delete and block her from all your devices, messaging apps and social media. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Seven7 Posted July 1, 2021 Share Posted July 1, 2021 Block her everywhere, phone, email, social media. Try to stay busy with other activities like visiting family and friends. Exercise, get a hobby..you can do this 🙏🏾 Link to post Share on other sites
Ithurts17 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 On 6/27/2021 at 3:01 PM, Derek said: similar has happened to me, you want to text explain want them to understand dreams pain in heart, all that passes My lady left me four weeks ago, she spoke to me the first day I moved out, she then said she would contact me the next day and I waited all day and I messaged her seeing if she was ok? And she said I think it’s best to not talk anymore bye. Ive been heartbroken ever since, I have this unhealthy obsession of trying to ring her everyday and text her. I have stopped in the last 5 days, but i am constantly in a battlefield with myself I just want to talk to her and see if she’s ok, and have a catch-up she meant the world to me. also to add the last 5 days I’ve dreamed about her being with someone else & I wake up crying over it. I need help! Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 What you are doing is part of the grieving process. FWIW it's normal. While it's hard to refrain from reaching out, you must. Use technology to your advantage by deleting her & blocking her. Then when you feel the urge to contact her do something else, preferably something physical -- do 20 push ups (or 100 if you are in shape); run around the block; speed clean your house for 20 minutes. Call a friend. Post here on LS to get it out of your system but do not reach out for her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ithurts17 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 34 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: What you are doing is part of the grieving process. FWIW it's normal. While it's hard to refrain from reaching out, you must. Use technology to your advantage by deleting her & blocking her. Then when you feel the urge to contact her do something else, preferably something physical -- do 20 push ups (or 100 if you are in shape); run around the block; speed clean your house for 20 minutes. Call a friend. Post here on LS to get it out of your system but do not reach out for her. I agree with this but as long as you have given her time, it’s just knowing which battles to fight and which ones to walk away from Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 It's normal to feel this way.... it's ok to feel however you feel. There is a huge difference between *wanting* to contact her, and actually doing it. It's fine to feel the urge to contact her. It's not OK to actually do it. Know the difference. Block her, delete her number from your phone, do whatever you have to do, but do not contact her. She's no longer your gf and you need to accept that. It's not your place to "make sure she's ok". It's none of your business how she's doing, quite frankly. Just remember that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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