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I don't want to set the house on fire but after l asked him about the 2nd date he later asked me if there was a problem. I said no just curiosity. He then asked:  do you love me? And something about my energy and he's completely submitted to me.

I blocked him. I'm not giving him any courtesy warning or good bye!!

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8 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I don't want to set the house on fire but after l asked him about the 2nd date he later asked me if there was a problem. I said no just curiosity. He then asked:  do you love me? And something about my energy and he's completely submitted to me.

I blocked him. I'm not giving him any courtesy warning or good bye!!

WTF.

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"Too interested" in a creepy kind of way.

Guess there is something to be said about that gut instinct after all!

Sorry Gaeta.

11 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

He then asked:  do you love me? And something about my energy and he's completely submitted to me.

 

 

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20 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I don't want to set the house on fire but after l asked him about the 2nd date he later asked me if there was a problem. I said no just curiosity. He then asked:  do you love me? And something about my energy and he's completely submitted to me.

I blocked him. I'm not giving him any courtesy warning or good bye!!

I like #10. He came on strong but you were comfortable communicating your boundaries and he respected it, not only that but you still get along. That's good character in my book!

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55 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I blocked him. I'm not giving him any courtesy warning or good bye!!

I'm confused... Who did you block?? "Poet Guy"?? "Body Guard Guy"?? "Reached under your dress guy"?? or someone completely different??

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1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said:

I'm confused... Who did you block?? "Poet Guy"?? "Body Guard Guy"?? or someone completely different??

I think she's referring to poetry guy...  I could be mistaken.

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Just now, poppyfields said:

I think she's referring to poetry guy...  I could be mistaken.

I thought they were going out on a third date?? (he planned it, I think)

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12 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

I thought they were going out on a third date?? (he planned it, I think)

Yeah they were but perhaps this thread caused her to have a second think about it?

The reason why I think it's poetry guy is because there was quite a stir re her asking for that second date and then she just posted this:

>>I don't want to set the house on fire but after l asked him about the 2nd date he later asked me if there was a problem<<

After which he asked her if she loved him and that he was completely submitted to her.

This was after two dates!  Or at the time it may have been one date.

Again I could be wrong, but trust Gaeta will return letting us know.

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1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

I don't want to set the house on fire but after l asked him about the 2nd date he later asked me if there was a problem. I said no just curiosity. He then asked:  do you love me? And something about my energy and he's completely submitted to me.

I blocked him. I'm not giving him any courtesy warning or good bye!!

Sorry for the confusion. This is about Poet guy. This afternoon l asked him what if l had not made that second invitation, l posted that a bit earlier. Then following that he asked if l loved him and the rest.

He's blocked everywhere! He cut my breath (in a bad way). Gosh l feel silly now !! Looking for a hole to hide in, lol

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21 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

I thought they were going out on a third date?? (he planned it, I think)

He asked if l was free for a date this weekend but did not offer specific plans.

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5 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Gosh l feel silly now !! Looking for a hole to hide in, lol

Don't feel silly... Early in the dating/getting to know you stage is when this kind of thing comes up.  How were you to know, unless you took a chance and went out on a date.

Who would have guessed he would start throwing out all of this "love" talk after a second date??  It's not you @Gaeta, I blame this on "on-line dating" apps/sites.  Men have forgotten how to date and build a relationship.

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1 hour ago, cleverusername said:

I like #10. He came on strong but you were comfortable communicating your boundaries and he respected it, not only that but you still get along. That's good character in my book!

We had our first phone call tonight. He apologized again.  We got along great and he has a wicket sense of humour and that's very attractive to me.

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So this on-line dating app, has yielded you...

(1) A guy that reached under your dress on the second date.

(2) A poetry guy that told you he loved you after the second date.

(3) A body guard guy that triple texted you if you didn't respond within 30 seconds (after the first date).

Have I missed anything??

This isn't your fault and you have nothing to feel silly about, again its the nature of "weirdos" that on-line dating attracts.  These men have no social skills/graces and do not know how to interact with women.

 

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I thought she had 1 date with poet guy. The thread was about setting up the 2nd date.

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2 minutes ago, norealusername said:

I thought she had 1 date with poet guy. The thread was about setting up the 2nd date.

They had two dates. The second one happened at....some point in this thread. 😂 They hadn't set up date 3 yet.

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22 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

 

Who would have guessed he would start throwing out all of this "love" talk after a second date??   @Gaeta

Um...literally any reasonable person. 🤔 And we did, and told her so. I mean he was comparing her to Venus and the divine after the first date.

He was love bombing, trying to get to the finish line (I.e. her being hooked) at mad fast speed before she could figure out there was something really wrong with him. 

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40 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Gosh l feel silly now !! Looking for a hole to hide in, lol

Try not to feel silly.

Isn't this what dating is about?

42 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

This afternoon l asked him what if l had not made that second invitation

You asked a reasonable question and his response gave you the insight you needed to put it dead in its tracks. 👍

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15 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Um...literally any reasonable person. 🤔 And we did, and told her so. I mean he was comparing her to Venus and the divine after the first date.

I'm both a reasonable & intelligent person and I didn't see this "love" stuff coming.

I thought the poetry was weird, but I didn't expect this "love" talk after a second date.

I also didn't expect a guy to reach under her dress (on the second date) or triple text her (after the first date), if she didn't respond within 30 seconds.

This is completely foreign to me.  I really don't understand what has happened to men and their ability to date/form relationships.

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22 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Um...literally any reasonable person. 🤔 And we did, and told her so. I mean he was comparing her to Venus and the divine after the first date.

He was love bombing, trying to get to the finish line (I.e. her being hooked) at mad fast speed before she could figure out there was something really wrong with him. 

The craziest part is they do this stuff  because it can work.,, there’s some crazy chick out there that would have been like “wow 🤩 that’s so sweet…” 

😟

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30 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

These men have no social skills/graces and do not know how to interact with women.

 

I think they know how to interact with women they just don't care to do it. Example The guy that ran his hand under my dress had been married 28 years, he has a sister his age who's his best friend,  he is a nurse working in a hospital filled with women. He knows exactly how to treat women but a lot of women online accept (look for) this behavior so men think they can just take.

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4 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

... but a lot of women online accept (look for) this behavior so men think they can just take.

OK... but isn't that an additional strike against on-line dating sites/apps??

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Just now, Happy Lemming said:

OK... but isn't that an additional strike against on-line dating sites/apps??

Yes l agree, l'm sure if nurse had approached me at the grocery store he would not have attempted that move.

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47 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

@Gaeta  So tell us about this #10 guy...  What do you know, so far??

Was married 18 years, has an adult son, works in avionics. He had a 1 year re/ship after his divorce, he's single 1 yr.

After 2 days of random texts he started light sexual innuendoes. I wanted to nip it right away because it's a real turn off before we meet. He took it gracefully and stopped. 

We had our 1st phone conversation tonight and it was cool !  Was suppose to be a few minutes and we spoke an hour. He apologized again for the innuendoes. 

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