Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 I had a horrible reaction to second Pzifer shot. Felt totally fine for first 12 hours, even went shopping and to a dance class straight after. Then I went to sleep and woke up sweating and with fever. Proceeded to drift in and out of sleep for the next 24 hours. On day 3, fever was gone but I had a bad headache and couldn't eat anything. On day 4, I thought I felt well enough to go out. I remember I went to a friend's place and was sitting on a couch feeling like everyone was speaking at a large distance from me. Just a very strange disconnect from reality, not even sure what to call that symptom. It was about a week before I felt like I could eat and was roughly back to normal. 2 weeks until I was 100%. I think I was in a minority but it was a bit scary. 2 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 16 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I need assistance with # 10. I really like talking with him on the phone, he's fun, sensitive & takes interest in who l am. But he's back with the sex talk when l thought l had nipped it. I think this guy is showing you who he is and he's not likely to change. If you are ok with it, proceed. Otherwise, I'd cut this one loose. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 6 hours ago, Gaeta said: I need assistance with # 10. I really like talking with him on the phone, he's fun, sensitive & takes interest in who l am. But he's back with the sex talk when l thought l had nipped it. While I don't think it's weird for someone romantically interested to think about sex (that's part of the point; if not, the word for that is "friends"), the fact that you asked him not to but he's doing it is disrespectful. What is he saying? (PG-13 version) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 Well, I think this time it was my fault. He was telling me he's watching this series on netflix and I should check it out, but not to watch with my daughter as there is a bit of sexuality but nothing graphic..........and I said something soooo stupid if it's not graphic then it's missing some spice. I know stoooooopid !!!! 🤐🤐🤐 and it went downhill from there. I know I know! I'm a big tease then I cry wolf! Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) 42 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Well, I think this time it was my fault. He was telling me he's watching this series on netflix and I should check it out, but not to watch with my daughter as there is a bit of sexuality but nothing graphic..........and I said something soooo stupid if it's not graphic then it's missing some spice. I know stoooooopid !!!! 🤐🤐🤐 and it went downhill from there. I know I know! I'm a big tease then I cry wolf! Okay, Gaeta, come on. That was YOU making a sexual innuendo. Of course he thought "well, she wants to talk sexy." ETA: I guess what I'm trying to say is...if you want us to give input we need to know what actually happened. Look how people immediately jumped to "dump him!" because the way you initially stated it, it sounded like you asked him to talk sexy and he did it anyway, ignoring your wishes. THIS is why this thread is ten jillion pages long, LOL. We get a piece of the story...we answer...we're wrong about something we didn't realize happened or didn't happen...we get corrected...some of us revise our original position...others argue... and round and round and round... You need to decide whether you're looking for things not to like about some of these guys (obviously not Poet Guy who is obviously just weird, if we've heard that whole story too). But you look for backup from us. And we can't give it to you properly since we only get the story piece by piece, later on. You need to decide who YOU want, without a posse gathering around to tell you "yes, Gaeta, you're absolutely right!" Edited July 9, 2021 by CaliforniaGirl 2 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 7 hours ago, Gaeta said: I need assistance with # 10. I really like talking with him on the phone, he's fun, sensitive & takes interest in who l am. But he's back with the sex talk when l thought l had nipped it. How do you feel about it this time around? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 8 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Okay, Gaeta, come on. That was YOU making a sexual innuendo. Late last night I was reading something that said when a man starts making sexual innuendoes there are a few reasons and one of them might be we provoked it consciously or unconsiously. I went back to our conversation and 'bingo'. I found out this one was on me. It's not like I am hiding anything, I simply did not realized it at the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 10 minutes ago, glows said: How do you feel about it this time around? I take responsibility for the 2nd time around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 I am going to put this thread to rest because I am slow to process what is happenning and it's going to create another 18 pages. I have number 10, 11, 12 in the work. If it's like before I met my ex, soon it will be number 75,76,77. I can't post about each one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: I am going to put this thread to rest because I am slow to process what is happenning and it's going to create another 18 pages. I have number 10, 11, 12 in the work. If it's like before I met my ex, soon it will be number 75,76,77. I can't post about each one. That's probably best. Good luck on your dates. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: Late last night I was reading something that said when a man starts making sexual innuendoes there are a few reasons and one of them might be we provoked it consciously or unconsiously. I went back to our conversation and 'bingo'. I found out this one was on me. It's not like I am hiding anything, I simply did not realized it at the moment. Okay, so I don't like that "unconsciously" part - men, or women for that matter, can bring up sexual innuendos with no provocation at all. In THIS case, though, he was directly answering your sexual innuendo. So in this particular case, yes, you started the idea, I wouldn't say "provoked"...the language you use above is a tiny bit disturbing to me (this may just be me) - it almost sounds like this "she asked for it, deep down she secretly wants it even if she doesn't consciously think she does" thing. Now that, I can't get behind. But again...yes, in this case, you literally brought up the sexiness outright. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 Soooooo Poet Man called me from a different number. I was in the shower so it went to my voice mail. He left a message he's been trying to reach me and he's getting worried. So I guess if he called me from a different phone he figured out he was blocked. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, CaliforniaGirl said: the language you use above is a tiny bit disturbing to me (this may just be me) - it almost sounds like this "she asked for it, deep down she secretly wants it even if she doesn't consciously think she does" thing. Now that, I can't get behind. No it's not in that way. It means that we may say things we don't realize at the time is an invitation to talk sex. Nothing about wanting it unconsciously. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Soooooo Poet Man called me from a different number. I was in the shower so it went to my voice mail. He left a message he's been trying to reach me and he's getting worried. So I guess if he called me from a different phone he figured out he was blocked. What will you do? Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 31 minutes ago, glows said: What will you do? She can probably block that number, as well. At some point, "poet guy" will run out of different phones to use or he'll get the hint. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 I was thinking of unblocking him just to send him a message that it's not going to work between us and reblock him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: I was thinking of unblocking him just to send him a message that it's not going to work between us and reblock him. You'll only be inviting more communication... He'll be calling you from phone numbers all over Canada. It will be worse than the telemarketers trying to sell you an extended warranty for your car. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) What the...? What kind of creepy dude KNOWS you blocked him...so he tries to go after you another way? ETA: Oh, sorry, I see you were saying that's what you assume happened (that he figured out he was blocked). I read it as him actually saying that. It's still creepy. Yes, if he used a different number, chances are he knows you blocked him. This is all just so weird, really. Edited July 9, 2021 by CaliforniaGirl 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 5 hours ago, Gaeta said: I am going to put this thread to rest... Don't do that... your thread is better than any shows on TV. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 On 7/9/2021 at 2:40 AM, CaliforniaGirl said: Being in this age group myself, I can say, this could easily be it. Obviously this isn't true for everyone, but I see men in my age group who are divorced and are VERY anxious/eager to hook up and even put a ring on it. I recall some studies that actually backed this up (I was curious and I investigated) and men who are divorced tend to remarry much faster, and as a larger percentage, than women. That was a few years ago so it may have changed, but not from what I'm seeing. l've been the complete opposite with this 2nd chance at a new life myself. l've had two incredible opportunities literally like gifts from the gods tbh, everything l could possibly dream of and then some. Given a second chance like either of these in 50s , how could l possibly ask for more. But l've probably blown both now with so much caution. Women expect me to go all out just like l've read women talking about that sort of thing many times. They've wanted and needed to know and see he feels strong enough to do whatever it takes. lt's their second time too and they've needed to see certain things just like l have too if l'm going to go there again. To know it's safe and that l'm 300% serious. And l can understand that l need to see the same things it's not only her privilege. But they've been much braver and all out than l've been able to allow myself to be this time. lt's not easy laying it all on the line a second time round let me tell ya. Link to post Share on other sites
norealusername Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 I like reading these too. It does get a little hard to follow when it's this long. Start a new one if you want. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
cleverusername Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Does poet guy know where you live? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AnnieB Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 22 minutes ago, cleverusername said: Does poet guy know where you live? Omg Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 34 minutes ago, cleverusername said: Does poet guy know where you live? No and he doesn't know my last name. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sun Seeker Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 10 hours ago, Gaeta said: I am going to put this thread to rest because I am slow to process what is happenning and it's going to create another 18 pages. I have number 10, 11, 12 in the work. If it's like before I met my ex, soon it will be number 75,76,77. I can't post about each one. Definitely don't do that.. catching up on your dating adventures every morning on my way to work has become a routine now. Keep posting about each one until you end the search, a lot more entertaining than reading the news and other usual BS! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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