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CaliforniaGirl

What the...? What kind of creepy dude KNOWS you blocked him...so he tries to go after you another way? ETA: Oh, sorry, I see you were saying that's what you assume happened (that he figured out he was blocked). I read it as him actually saying that.

It's still creepy. Yes, if he used a different number, chances are he knows you blocked him.

This is all just so weird, really.

 

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Happy Lemming
5 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I am going to put this thread to rest...

Don't do that... your thread is better than any shows on TV.

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On 7/9/2021 at 2:40 AM, CaliforniaGirl said:

Being in this age group myself, I can say, this could easily be it. Obviously this isn't true for everyone, but I see men in my age group who are divorced and are VERY anxious/eager to hook up and even put a ring on it. I recall some studies that actually backed this up (I was curious and I investigated) and men who are divorced tend to remarry much faster, and as a larger percentage, than women. That was a few years ago so it may have changed, but not from what I'm seeing.

 

l've been the complete opposite with this 2nd chance at a new life myself. l've had two incredible opportunities literally like gifts from the gods tbh, everything l could possibly dream of and then some. Given a second chance like either of these in 50s , how could l possibly ask for more. But l've probably blown both now with so much caution.

Women expect me to go all out just like l've read women talking about that sort of thing many times. They've wanted and needed to know and see he feels strong enough to do whatever it takes. lt's their second time too and they've needed to see certain things just like l have too if l'm going to go there again. To know it's safe and that l'm 300% serious. And l can understand that l need to see the same things it's not only her privilege. But they've been much braver and all out than l've been able to allow myself to be this time.

lt's not easy laying it all on the line a second time round let me tell ya.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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norealusername

I like reading these too. It does get a little hard to follow when it's this long. Start a new one if you want.

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34 minutes ago, cleverusername said:

Does poet guy know where you live?

No and he doesn't know my last name. 

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10 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I am going to put this thread to rest because I am slow to process what is happenning and it's going to create another 18 pages. 

I have number 10, 11, 12 in the work. If it's like before I met my ex, soon it will be number 75,76,77. I can't post about each one. 

Definitely don't do that.. catching up on your dating adventures every morning on my way to work has become a routine now.

Keep posting about each one until you end the search, a lot more entertaining than reading the news and other usual BS!

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7 hours ago, Gaeta said:

No and he doesn't know my last name. 

Be safe, Gaeta.  Anyone with $9.95 to spare can go on a multitude of sites that will provide all the information they need just from your phone number.

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These men have no social skills/graces and do not know how to interact with women.

 

Happy lemming is right on the mark!

 

 

I told you poetry guy was nuts. He's now stalking you.

 

About the sexual innuendos - he should be his own man - a true gentleman does not react. In fact, you making innuendos could be a good test!

 

The thing is, yes there are great people out there on dating sites - but there is also a lot of riff-raff. You are getting the cream of the crap. Stop comparing rotten guys and wait until you meet a good one to have a second date.

 

 I say keep fishing.

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Number 10 Last night late in the evening started again with the sex talk. Then it dawn on me that he's like this later at night. I think he drinks in the evening. I reminded him I am not interested in these types of discussions with a man I have not met yet. He sent me a passive-aggressive message that if he bothers me this much then he's not going to text me anymore, he's sorry he's been a bother to me, he would never disrespect me, etc. Add on top of that he made no definitive plan to meet me. He used the excuse he has contractors at his house this weekend.

Another one on my block list 😞 

On to number 11 & 12

 

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23 hours ago, Gaeta said:

He sent me a passive-aggressive message that if he bothers me this much then he's not going to text me anymore, he's sorry he's been a bother

Ah - those are the worst. The drunk whiners with the victim mentality when inebriated …….. grrrrrrrr

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Happy Lemming

Other than a little texting, you didn't have all that much invested in #10... No big loss, there.

Batter up...

Who's next on deck??  Fill us in on #11 and #12??

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1 hour ago, Happy Lemming said:

Who's next on deck??  Fill us in on #11 and #12??

Number 11: is an hyperactive IT. He's cool, easy to talk to, he text at the speed of light and he uses A LOT of emojis. Like his first message had like 12 of them lol. He got covid and says he's not back to himself, I can't imagine he can be even more hyper. 

Number 12: is a primary school teacher. Completely different personality than 11. He's calm, talkative but not excessife, more on the shy side. 

Both were available to meet this weekend but I got my 2nd vaccine yesterday and today I feel like the energy was sucked out of me. Not the best of time. 

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Happy Lemming
17 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

... but I got my 2nd vaccine yesterday and today I feel like the energy was sucked out of me. Not the best of time. 

Yes... about 8 hours after I got my second shot I felt tired and weak, then I went downhill from there and was on the couch for the next 4 days.  I'm not complaining, as it was worth it... just hope you don't get as sick/weak.

#12 sounds a little better than #11... maybe schedule with him first (when you feel better).

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On 7/8/2021 at 3:05 AM, Gaeta said:

I think they know how to interact with women they just don't care to do it. Example The guy that ran his hand under my dress had been married 28 years, he has a sister his age who's his best friend,  he is a nurse working in a hospital filled with women. He knows exactly how to treat women but a lot of women online accept (look for) this behavior so men think they can just take.

I agree with this, Gaeta.  My experience has been that there are a lot of guys online who are effectively leading a double life.  They are looking for their 'fantasy' experience in reality.  They do not care about the women they contact; they are just looking for free thrills.  I tried online dating for a long time but it has increasingly become full of guys who are married, seeking 'older' women for whatever reason, seeking casual sex or people with kinks and fetishes.  They can't find someone to satisfy their needs in their normal social life, so they go online and try there.  Unless women are aware of this element of online dating, they are likely to be taken at first.  Of course, the guy gets dumped when his true colours are seen but it's actually very concerning and a real safety issue.

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After my second vacc (I also got Pfizer) I was down for the count for 3-4 days. Flu-like symptoms and such a severe pain in my arm that actually lasted for weeks. Don't want to make you nervous about it but if you do get sick, just know it seems to be a pretty common occurrence 

 

I think when guys lead with sexual comments it's doomed from the start. They can keep their mouth shut about it if you ask them to but it doesn't change where their heads are at

 

#11 and #12 sound better. I love guys who are chatty via text and use emojis lol
 

Good luck and have fun! ☺️

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I had very little reaction to my 2nd shot that ended up being Moderna. A bit of tiredness, a bit of chill at night, and I'm back to normal this morning. 

Number 11 is a bit of a weirdo. He told me he's writing a movie scenario for Dwayne Jonhson and if I'd agree to add Dwayne on my FB and maybe I can try to reach him, as he's been unable to do that so far. 😑

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11 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

 and if I'd agree to add Dwayne on my FB and maybe I can try to reach him, as he's been unable to do that so far. 😑

Yikes again!

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35 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

He told me he's writing a movie scenario for Dwayne Jonhson and if I'd agree to add Dwayne on my FB and maybe I can try to reach him, as he's been unable to do that so far. 😑

lol....

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48 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I had very little reaction to my 2nd shot that ended up being Moderna. A bit of tiredness, a bit of chill at night, and I'm back to normal this morning. 

Number 11 is a bit of a weirdo. He told me he's writing a movie scenario for Dwayne Jonhson and if I'd agree to add Dwayne on my FB and maybe I can try to reach him, as he's been unable to do that so far. 😑

Was he just joking?

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42 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Was he just joking?

Oh no, no jokes! He told me the story in his scenario and if l could help with the story development. Lol big turn off. He wrote me good morning with his usual 12 emojis, l can't get myself to reply. Too bad, good looking man, funny, great energy. I imagine myself bringning him over to family dinner and he starts talking about his script for 'the rock'.

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Happy Lemming
1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

Number 11 is a bit of a weirdo. He told me he's writing a movie scenario for Dwayne Jonhson and if I'd agree to add Dwayne on my FB and maybe I can try to reach him, as he's been unable to do that so far. 😑

Do you think the people behind the dating app are doing this to you??  They are filtering out all of the normal people and sending you just the weirdo(s)?? Maybe their algorithm doesn't like something about your profile??

I mean... you can't make this stuff up!!

Even if this guy is joking, the whole thing is just stupid... on so many levels.

Your experience either defies the law of averages or there truly are that many weirdo(s) on OLD.

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It's too weird to be made up!

I've learn this weekend that the weirdos are even close to us. I was speaking to my nephew's gf, her mom is 51 is online dating. She was telling me her mother falls in love with every man she meets on a first date. So much they had to tell her to not bring these men home until 3 months dating at least. 

The weirdos are numerous and amoung us lol.

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