Should I inititate the 2nd date?

[jspice]

Have you ever made a list of qualities you’d find desirable in a partner? And also the things you don’t want?

Do you have any dealbreakers upfront?

Obviously lists are merely a guide and you can be flexible but everyone has things that are non-negotiable. 
 

For example,  I know from past partners that I require my partner to work. It’s not about money but having purpose. Two previous men I dated were in the military and retired ( in their 40s). They were well-off financially and didn’t need to work so they don’t. That really turned me off because I work hard. 

what type of man are you looking for? 
 

 

[Gaeta]

42 minutes ago, jspice said:

what type of man are you looking for? 
 

 

Of course l have standards 😉

These men are all good on paper and make a good first impression. I'm doing what needs to be done when l come across something that doesn't feel right. I block them. I'm not spending time on bad prospects. 

[Gaeta]

A little update here, we were at 

Number 11: is an hyperactive IT. BLOCKED

Number 12: is a primary school teacher. NOT MET YET

Number 13: Sexual innuendoes BLOCKED

I had a date with number 14 tonight. He looks serious but I am not sure I felt a connection, attraction, or interest. He has an impressive job, worked around the world. Was married for years and takes care of his 2 teens. If I didn't lead the conversation it would fall flat, he was obsessed with checking his watch. I was ready to come back home when he asked if I could send him a picture of me at 26. I asked why and he said if I look this good at 55 he needs to see how I looked at 26.....big meh. After I got home he called me to thank me for meeting him and said he would have liked to spend more time together tonight.

I'm suppose to meet number 15 on Friday evening but he has not contacted me since the day before. I could initiate contact. I'm lagging, too many prospect, I am trying to work 2 weeks into one at the office as I am on vacation from Friday. 

 

[Kai_Kai]

1 minute ago, Gaeta said:

A little update here, we were at 

Number 11: is an hyperactive IT. BLOCKED

Number 12: is a primary school teacher. NOT MET YET

Number 13: Sexual innuendoes BLOCKED

I had a date with number 14 tonight. He looks serious but I am not sure I felt a connection, attraction, or interest. He has an impressive job, worked around the world. Was married for years and takes care of his 2 teens. If I didn't lead the conversation it would fall flat, he was obsessed with checking his watch. I was ready to come back home when he asked if I could send him a picture of me at 26. I asked why and he said if I look this good at 55 he needs to see how I looked at 26.....big meh. After I got home he called me to thank me for meeting him and said he would have liked to spend more time together tonight.

I'm suppose to meet number 15 on Friday evening but he has not contacted me since the day before. I could initiate contact. I'm lagging, too many prospect, I am trying to work 2 weeks into one at the office as I am on vacation from Friday. 

 

😮 where are you meeting these people? 

[Gaeta]

4 minutes ago, Kai_Kai said:

😮 where are you meeting these people? 

This one was from FB dating app. I also have a profile on Badoo, it's a little more serious than the usual dating app. 

[Gaeta]

1 minute ago, Olivia24 said:

Im going to have to read through this  but  i say initiate the talk.

Oh he's blocked lol

[Kai_Kai]

34 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

This one was from FB dating app. I also have a profile on Badoo, it's a little more serious than the usual dating app. 

Online dating is starting to become Pandora's box of creepers. 

[CaliforniaGirl]

1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

 was ready to come back home when he asked if I could send him a picture of me at 26. I asked why and he said if I look this good at 55 he needs to see how I looked at 26.....big meh. After I got home he called me to thank me for meeting him and said he would have liked to spend more time together tonight.

I'm suppose to meet number 15 on Friday evening but he has not contacted me since the day before. I could initiate contact. I'm lagging, too many prospect, I am trying to work 2 weeks into one at the office as I am on vacation from Friday. 

 

WTF Gaeta!!! Where are you meeting these guys? Serious question.

[Gaeta]

6 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

WTF Gaeta!!! Where are you meeting these guys? Serious question.

FB dating. 

Meeting the teacher tonight

Edited July 15, 2021 by Gaeta

[poppyfields]

6 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

WTF Gaeta!!! Where are you meeting these guys? Serious question.

I had worse when I did on line.  Had guys sending me d*ck pics, asking me if I was DTF that night, totally disrespectful stuff.

This was a decent dating site too, not Tinder! 

Not quite sure what they were thinking, but whatever, didn't even engage, all went directly to trash.

Keep going Gaeta, your next "the one" is out there! 💛

[CaliforniaGirl]

4 hours ago, poppyfields said:

I had worse when I did on line.  Had guys sending me d*ck pics, asking me if I was DTF that night, totally disrespectful stuff.

This was a decent dating site too, not Tinder! 

Not quite sure what they were thinking, but whatever, didn't even engage, all went directly to trash.

Keep going Gaeta, your next "the one" is out there! 💛

I'm not surprised by the D pics and things like that, most women get those. But the degree of mental illness or whatever this is (I shouldn't DX, I'm definitely not a healthcare professional  ) Gaeta is talking about is way beyond, and consistent!

[Gaeta]

Meeting a Primary school teacher tonight, lets see how deviant they can be in their personal life 😉

 

[JRabbit]

On 7/6/2021 at 6:16 AM, Gaeta said:

They don't call my city the Capital of Sex for nothing

what city....if you want to share, just because I need to go here where there are options lol

[Gaeta]

11 minutes ago, JRabbit said:

what city....if you want to share, just because I need to go here where there are options lol

Montreal.

[Miss Spider]

This is a big part of why I’m moving to a bigger city lol. Boys . 

[Gaeta]

My last night date shared with me that his ex-wife cheated on him with his best friend and they were caught in the act by a family member. I listenned to him share this and replied l was very sorry he went through that, it's a double betrayal etc etc. I then told him my last relationship ended as well because of cheating and gave him the big picture. He did not say that's terrible or that's a hurtful betrayal, nope! He leaned toward me and said: forgive me for asking but did you satisfy him sexuallly?

Yep!! I kid you not !!

[JRabbit]

25 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Montreal.

of course somewhere where I need to be bilingual lol There always have been lots of good looking men in Montreal. There are NONE that are single in my (very small) town.

How do you find the FB dating app?

Edited July 15, 2021 by JRabbit

[JRabbit]

9 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

forgive me for asking but did you satisfy him sexuallly?

guess he knows why his wife was cheating on him right lol

[Gaeta]

1 minute ago, JRabbit said:

guess he knows why his wife was cheating on him right lol

Haha good one!

[Gaeta]

6 minutes ago, JRabbit said:

How do you find the FB dating app?

Not bad at all so far. 

[JRabbit]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Not bad at all so far. 

Interesting....might have to try it. Hinge not doing it for me...and def no Tinder lol

[Happy Lemming]

7 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

My last night date shared with me that his ex-wife cheated on him with his best friend and they were caught in the act by a family member.

 

Why would he even bring that up??  That is definitely not "first date" conversation material.  I mean you are his date, not his therapist.

I mean you knew his status was divorced, so he could leave that subject alone, completely.  I know you didn't pry or asked questions about his divorce, why would he volunteer that information??

There are so many other subjects that can lead to interesting stories...  Why even go down that road...

Again, these men just don't know how to date.

[CaliforniaGirl]

53 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Meeting a Primary school teacher tonight, lets see how deviant they can be in their personal life 😉

 

I went out with an MS teacher years ago and he wanted to "go home and play board games" and when I politely told him I'd had an awesome time and couldn't wait to see him again, but I had work in the morning and needed to go home, his face went to "simmering rage and insufferably insulted" (WTF?). He proceeded to follow up by telling me I had lied about my age because "you said you're 33 and you're almost 34." I was due to turn 34 in FOUR months, LOL. Because I was "a liar" he was "breaking up with me." (After one date...we weren't a couple...)

I don't want to scare you. I guess I'm not, anyway, since your stories are a lot scarier than this one!

[Gaeta]

1 minute ago, Happy Lemming said:

  I know you didn't pry or asked questions about his divorce, why would he volunteer that information??

And i'm giving you guys the short version of his story lol

[CaliforniaGirl]

23 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

My last night date shared with me that his ex-wife cheated on him with his best friend and they were caught in the act by a family member. I listenned to him share this and replied l was very sorry he went through that, it's a double betrayal etc etc. I then told him my last relationship ended as well because of cheating and gave him the big picture. He did not say that's terrible or that's a hurtful betrayal, nope! He leaned toward me and said: forgive me for asking but did you satisfy him sexuallly?

Yep!! I kid you not !!

I can see someone bumbling a date and mentioning the unfortunate breakup circumstances, that's kind of human, but did he really ask if you satisfy him sexually? I don't know how you're managing to dig up so many crazies...