Happy Lemming Posted July 16, 2021 Share Posted July 16, 2021 20 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Xxxxx Why did you delete your post?? I was reading the beginning of it on the header page, then clicked to read the rest and it was gone. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 16, 2021 Share Posted July 16, 2021 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Oh oh! Teacher just asked if he could see me again before I leave for my trip. I'm leaving Sunday around 6 am. That means I'd have to see him Saturday. It's kind of quick right? I don't think it's too quick if you guys really like each other. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 16, 2021 Share Posted July 16, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Oh oh! Teacher just asked if he could see me again before I leave for my trip. I'm leaving Sunday around 6 am. That means I'd have to see him Saturday. It's kind of quick right? He wants to set up a second date, that is a good thing. Tell him to plan something and let you know, give him your schedule and if Saturday works for him... go for it. Oh and don't worry about the age difference... its less than ten years difference. All good. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 16, 2021 Author Share Posted July 16, 2021 16 minutes ago, Olivia24 said: I saw some things about Poet man. Have you or will you see him again? I blocked him because he was very intense and he asked me if I loved him after our 2nd date. Now, I liked him A LOT, I got scared, I am afraid to fall for the wrong man and be played so I blocked him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 16, 2021 Author Share Posted July 16, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: He wants to set up a second date, that is a good thing. Tell him to plan something and let you know, give him your schedule and if Saturday works for him... go for it. Oh and don't worry about the age difference... its less than ten years difference. All good. Thanks! I told him I might have time Saturday and I will give him my free time tomorrow. It's 23h30 here and I got to go to bed I'm working in the morning AND I got a date tomorrow night with someone different. I should not book so many first date in a week. It confuses me! Edited July 16, 2021 by Gaeta 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 16, 2021 Author Share Posted July 16, 2021 8 minutes ago, Olivia24 said: WOW!! You are a dating machine!! I burn a lot of oil ! I just hope l won't have to meet 200 men to find a boyfriend like last time l was single. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted July 16, 2021 Share Posted July 16, 2021 8 hours ago, Gaeta said: Oh oh! Teacher just asked if he could see me again before I leave for my trip. I'm leaving Sunday around 6 am. That means I'd have to see him Saturday. It's kind of quick right? He's smart - making sure he sees you before you go away so you won't forget him or lose interest. If you like him, go for it. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 16, 2021 Share Posted July 16, 2021 6 hours ago, introverted1 said: He's smart - making sure he sees you before you go away so you won't forget him or lose interest. If you like him, go for it. This was my experience with dating - when a guy wanted me to keep him at the forefront of his mind, dude, he made it happen! Two or three days between dates would seem fast if you weren't going away, Gaeta. (Not a red flag but that's fairly quick!) BUT...the circumstances are that you're going away, and he wants to see you again before that. This seems very normal to me! OMG! Gaeta, I can't believe that you may have met someone who is sane! I am tuning in daily to see the progress of this thread, LOL. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 17, 2021 Author Share Posted July 17, 2021 BACK from date number 15 OMG, I want himmmmm!! The man is so hot it burns your eyes 😍 he's talkative, interesting, kind, we clicked instantly! We had to leave because of darkness, not because we wanted the date to end. We kissed good bye and he said he had a great time etc etc etc... and asked if he could see me tomorrow before I leave for my vacations and I said yessssssss!! I won't sleep !!! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Gaeta said: BACK from date number 15 OMG, I want himmmmm!! The man is so hot it burns your eyes 😍 he's talkative, interesting, kind, we clicked instantly! We had to leave because of darkness, not because we wanted the date to end. We kissed good bye and he said he had a great time etc etc etc... and asked if he could see me tomorrow before I leave for my vacations and I said yessssssss!! I won't sleep !!! No one ever listens to me but THIS my dear friend is how it's done!! OMG, yes!! ❤️ Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 17, 2021 Author Share Posted July 17, 2021 1 minute ago, Olivia24 said: 15 seems to be your lucky number!! Wear sunglasses tomorrow!! He'll probably end up disappointing me but I didn't think I could feel this excited about a man anymore, at least it's confirming I still got it in me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He'll probably end up disappointing me.... Why do you say that? Grrrr. lol Think positive! Go for it, enjoy the moment!! Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 17, 2021 Author Share Posted July 17, 2021 1 minute ago, poppyfields said: Why do you say that? Grrrr. lol Think positive! Go for it, enjoy!! I say that because I have been disappointed a lot 😞 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I say that because I have been disappointed a lot 😞 Um, sooooooooo....... He's NOT them. 💛 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 Negative thoughts = negative energy = negative experiences. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: I say that because I have been disappointed a lot 😞 I’ll be the party pooper. Way too invested after just one date. Nothing wrong with being hopeful, but honestly you know nothing about him. If you can be disappointed AFTER ONE DATE, you’re getting too invested too early… Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 14 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: I’ll be the party pooper. Way too invested after just one date. Nothing wrong with being hopeful, but honestly you know nothing about him. If you can be disappointed AFTER ONE DATE, you’re getting too invested too early… I don't see it as invested so much as excited, mentally and dare I say sexually, after meeting someone she totally clicks with! I'm not even seeing any expectations. It's been awhile for Gaeta, so me thinks she needs to embrace the emotion, whether it lasts one day, one week, one month or forever, these types of moments don't come along ever day. 😂 JMO. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: BACK from date number 15 OMG, I want himmmmm!! The man is so hot it burns your eyes 😍 he's talkative, interesting, kind, we clicked instantly! We had to leave because of darkness, not because we wanted the date to end. We kissed good bye and he said he had a great time etc etc etc... and asked if he could see me tomorrow before I leave for my vacations and I said yessssssss!! I won't sleep !!! Nice. This kinda stuff gives me life 😍 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 17, 2021 Author Share Posted July 17, 2021 3 hours ago, Weezy1973 said: I’ll be the party pooper. Way too invested after just one date. Nothing wrong with being hopeful, but honestly you know nothing about him. If you can be disappointed AFTER ONE DATE, you’re getting too invested too early… Actually my comment indicates i'm not invested, and l don't expect he'll stick around long enough for me to invest myself so l have 0 expectation. See l can rain on my own parade 😉 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 8 hours ago, poppyfields said: I don't see it as invested so much as excited, mentally and dare I say sexually, after meeting someone she totally clicks with! I'm not even seeing any expectations. If one can be disappointed after one date, there’s an investment emotionally. Otherwise if he ghosts her for example, she wouldn’t care. She should keep dating others as week. Keep that profile fresh, keep responding to messages etc. If she’s tempted to just focus on this one guy because of her excitement, she’s too invested. And as good as it feels to click with someone on a first date, ultimately it doesn’t mean much. This forum is chock full of bad relationship experiences that started as “amazing attraction” at first. Intense attraction often can lead to ignoring flags because we just want those intense good feelings to continue… @Gaeta Not saying this will happen here. Just you know, keep it in perspective. Line up another date with the teacher. See what #16 has to offer. And of course go out on a second date with #15 too. Ultimately only time will tell… Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted July 17, 2021 Author Share Posted July 17, 2021 35 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said: @Gaeta Not saying this will happen here. Just you know, keep it in perspective. Line up another date with the teacher. See what #16 has to offer. And of course go out on a second date with #15 too. Ultimately only time will tell… Thank you for your concern Weezy, remember it's me. I don't invest myself in one date or 2 or even 3. I'm seeing teacher still, my profile is up and still attracting attention. I've been at this too long to think l met 'the one' after 1 date. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 I guess the dates and moments I still remember are those where I was highly attracted to the guy and genuinely excited to see him. This for me is very rare. Even if these relationships didn't last and I ended up hurt, the moments, dates, days, weeks of this are what made me happy. Just being happy in any particular moment, without being attached to the outcome is what life is all about. In contrast, I have dated men who were good choices on paper but I was never that excited about. I had to rationalize myself into dating them. Interestingly, those men didn't end up treating me any better and there were things then didn't make them as nice and decent people as I first thought. The only difference really was that I never had moments of excitement and happiness with them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 (edited) @Weezy1973 I get what you're saying but how do you control emotions and raw desite like that? Like say to yourself, "oh it's one date, I am going to force myself to not be so attracted to him or desire him because I might get hurt"? I don't think it can be done, personally speaking, and why would you want to? All we can do is control how invested to the outcome we become, and simply enjoy and embrace the moment, which G is doing from what I can see. If we get hurt, so be, that's life. We can get hurt after waiting 20 dates before deciding (and admitting to ourselves) how attracted we are too. Gaeta, keep us posted! Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jspice Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Weezy1973 said: If one can be disappointed after one date, there’s an investment emotionally. Otherwise if he ghosts her for example, she wouldn’t care. She should keep dating others as week. Keep that profile fresh, keep responding to messages etc. If she’s tempted to just focus on this one guy because of her excitement, she’s too invested. And as good as it feels to click with someone on a first date, ultimately it doesn’t mean much. This forum is chock full of bad relationship experiences that started as “amazing attraction” at first. Intense attraction often can lead to ignoring flags because we just want those intense good feelings to continue… @Gaeta Not saying this will happen here. Just you know, keep it in perspective. Line up another date with the teacher. See what #16 has to offer. And of course go out on a second date with #15 too. Ultimately only time will tell… Why do you act like disappointment in this situation is abnormal? It’s human nature to get excited after a good date and be hopeful you’ll see them again in the same way, if he turns out to be a dud or he’s still cool but doesn’t want to see you again, it’s normal to feel disappointed. She didn’t say she was deleting her profile, just that this guy piqued her interest. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 17, 2021 Share Posted July 17, 2021 1 hour ago, Olivia24 said: Are you still dating? Yes, happiness is so very precious. No, I decided to take a short break...that was 3 years ago and I still feel no desire to date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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