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3 minutes ago, SumGuy said:

I'd say 5 (but you tell me), or 7 if you count the outdoors. 

As long as there is not a highly communicable disease going around ;) ....I love B&B's (vastly prefer them), love concerts and live music and dancing, love festivals and flea markets and art shows, like our local baseball stadium (but never watch baseball on TV) and love striking up conversations with strangers at bars. 

So where do you think I fall on the scale? 

I'd say you're a 7+ on the scale. You're pretty versatile. 

I don't need to be out and about every weekend but when the routine starts getting to me it's nice to go away for a weekend and concentrate on each other. 

I've explained to him what is my need in terms of being out of home and he said it sounds normal to him and doesn't see a problem. Testing it is the ultimate answer. 

Tomorrow our date consist of dinner on a terrace then heading to the old port for street Artists & fireworks. 

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I'm VERY introverted and so is my husband...we are out and about constantly. Hiking and walking are probably our favorite things to do but we also.like movies, taking the kids miniature golfing, we love the beach, etc. We love the wilderness or semi-wilderness best. It's not hard to find times and days when things won't be very crowded and it really isn't hard to avoid having to have conversations with strangers. 😀

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6 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

I'm VERY introverted and so is my husband...we are out and about constantly. Hiking and walking are probably our favorite things to do but we also.like movies, taking the kids miniature golfing, we love the beach, etc. We love the wilderness or semi-wilderness best. It's not hard to find times and days when things won't be very crowded and it really isn't hard to avoid having to have conversations with strangers. 😀

We are very similar, being introverted doesn’t mean that you don’t have interests outside your house. You can go outdoors, to the movies, concerts, even large festivals without really talking to a lot of strangers. 
It is a major incompatibility though, if he doesn’t want to get out of the house even in the dating phase there’s no way he’s going to move from that couch when in a relationship :)

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All my alarms would have gone off if l had perceived for one moment he's a couch potatoe. He's been doing his sister's renovation and he's shopping for a house with a bit of work to do.  All these details are telling me something about his personality.  Men in my life had some bad flaws but laziness was never one of them.  I screen for that sometimes even before l ask their names.

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We had our 3rd date.

It was great. We went out to dinner spent some time downtown. I had left my car at his place so when we came back l came in. One thing lead to another and that lead us in bed. 🙂

So now starts the phase l hate the most.

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Wow!!! Congrats? Get it, girl. Are you writing us from his bed haha. And what do you mean phase you hate the most? 

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1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said:

Wow!!! Congrats? Get it, girl. Are you writing us from his bed haha. And what do you mean phase you hate the most? 

Haha,  l couldn't sleep last night, no one ever warned me about those italian coffees.

That phase after intimicy when you wonder will his attention drop, was it to quick, etc.

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7 hours ago, Gaeta said:

We had our 3rd date.

It was great. We went out to dinner spent some time downtown. I had left my car at his place so when we came back l came in. One thing lead to another and that lead us in bed. 🙂

So now starts the phase l hate the most.

Gosh this is so exciting!!!! Nice one Gaeta . I’m very happy for you. 
 

So I’ve got to ask, was the sexual connection there too? Did he do it for you? 

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1 hour ago, Calmandfocused said:

So I’ve got to ask, was the sexual connection there too? Did he do it for you? 

Ohhhhhh yes 😁 he's very passionate.

He text me at 8h30 this morning to tell me he's still savoring last night. 🥰

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Oh yea, I see.

 

Aw( did he really use the word ‘savorIng? 😟) but awww that’s a nice msg to receive. 😊did you not stay the night? Does that not send the wrong message?

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1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

Oh yea, I see.

 

Aw( did he really use the word ‘savorIng? 😟) but awww that’s a nice msg to receive. 😊did you not stay the night? Does that not send the wrong message?

Savoring is my translation of what he said in French lol which was how we say things.

When l started to talk about heading home he asked l stay a little longer, l did.

I don't want to burn a good thing and l have a teen at home learning from my actions. 

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I am so jealous. In a good way. 

1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

He text me at 8h30 this morning to tell me he's still savoring last night. 🥰

So romantic. 

21 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I don't want to burn a good thing and l have a teen at home learning from my actions. 

You are probably right. Staying over the night after a third date is likely too soon. 

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6 hours ago, Gaeta said:

That phase after intimicy when you wonder will his attention drop, was it to quick, etc.

I think it’s more likely your attention drops…

 

That being said, are you two exclusive now? Or do you mind (hypothetically) if he dates / has sex with other women too? 

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7 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

I think it’s more likely your attention drops…

 

That being said, are you two exclusive now? Or do you mind (hypothetically) if he dates / has sex with other women too? 

When we first met he told me he was not multi-dating. That being said, next time l see him  l will confirm we are only seeing each other if we continue being intimate.

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On 8/1/2021 at 9:06 AM, Gaeta said:

When we first met he told me he was not multi-dating. That being said, next time l see him  l will confirm we are only seeing each other if we continue being intimate.

Hey Gaeta, haven't heard from ya in a couple of days, how are things going?   Have you deactivated your dating apps?  Told Teacherguy you've met someone?

When will you be seeing Romeo again?

Let us know when you get a chance, hope you're happy with everything!  💛

 

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Things are very nice with Romeo. We keep in touch through the day. I will be seeing him tomorrow after my work for about 2 hours before he leaves for his work. He works  nights and he has his children every second weekend, we have to figure out how to spend a litte bit of time together otherwise we can only see each other every 2 weeks. He says he can't wait to be with me again, it's nice, he makes me feel all fuzzy inside 🙂

I have hidden my profile on a dating app. Him and I met on FB, I have not deactivated my dating profile there, he didn't either. I am not sure how to word it to Teacher. He just asked me what's my free time to meet again. I have not seen him in 3 weeks, life went on for me. 

 

 

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On 8/3/2021 at 6:08 PM, Gaeta said:

Things are very nice with Romeo. We keep in touch through the day. I will be seeing him tomorrow after my work for about 2 hours before he leaves for his work. He works  nights and he has his children every second weekend, we have to figure out how to spend a litte bit of time together otherwise we can only see each other every 2 weeks. He says he can't wait to be with me again, it's nice, he makes me feel all fuzzy inside 🙂

I have hidden my profile on a dating app. Him and I met on FB, I have not deactivated my dating profile there, he didn't either. I am not sure how to word it to Teacher. He just asked me what's my free time to meet again. I have not seen him in 3 weeks, life went on for me. 

 

 

Sounds like someone is setting their sights

 

Not at all a bad thing IMO, sometimes it's hard not to get tunnel vision when someone makes you feel something you thought you wouldn't feel again

 

Congrats G :) 

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5 hours ago, Dis said:

Sounds like someone is setting their sights

Not at all a bad thing IMO, sometimes it's hard not to get tunnel vision when someone makes you feel something you thought you wouldn't feel again

Congrats G :) 

I'm growing smitten with this man and he shows all the signs as well. It's a good thing he works nights and we can't spend that much time together because we would be burning the candle by both ends. Our intimicy is so intence and it leaves me craving for more, I never thought I'd feel that way again that's for sure. I did not experience that with my ex. 

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40 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Updates? Wanna hear more positivity 

You're in luck I only have positive things to report 🙂

We can't wait to spend time together,  the anticipation is exciting and our time together fulfilling, he keeps in touch through the day, he remembers everything I say and follows up, he's calm, grounded but also funny and a great conversationalist.

I have not brought up the exclusivity talk. As of now I don't feel the need to have this talk. When we first met he told me he's not multi-dating and I trust that for now. I'm also thinking everyone can agree to the exclusivity talk and keep on meeting other women in secret (I wonder where I got that idea).

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4 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

You're in luck I only have positive things to report 🙂

We can't wait to spend time together,  the anticipation is exciting and our time together fulfilling, he keeps in touch through the day, he remembers everything I say and follows up, he's calm, grounded but also funny and a great conversationalist.

I have not brought up the exclusivity talk. As of now I don't feel the need to have this talk. When we first met he told me he's not multi-dating and I trust that for now. I'm also thinking everyone can agree to the exclusivity talk and keep on meeting other women in secret (I wonder where I got that idea).

*Squees* I’m so happy for you. That feeling of excitement each time you meet is really what it’s all about 🥰❤️😍

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