Should I inititate the 2nd date?

[Miss Spider]

I’m waiting for updates on Gaeta’s (and Olivia’s) date. I need to get my own life xD 

Edited July 18, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[CaliforniaGirl]

Just now, Cookiesandough said:

I’m waiting for updates on Gaeta (and olivias) dates. I need to get my own life xD 

Me too. I'm like the people in the bar watching The Truman Show.

[Gaeta]

I'm back 🙂

He came to my local park. It's a cool place by the water with free concerts every summer weekends.  I've learn a lot about him. The man is a talking machine lol. He's very attentive, very delicate toward me. He told me my dress was very nice and I think he blushed 🙂  He's a bit shy and it's super cute. I've learn he's Muslim. He said he observes his religion very privately and I won't see the difference between dating him or a non-muslim except for the part he doesn't eat pork (I can live with that). I said his religion is not a problem with me. We spent 2.5 hours together and I had to come back home to get some sleep before my long drive tomorrow, otherwise we could have stayed there all night. We had a long long longgg kiss good night 🙂 He expressed he's happy I get to go away on vacation and he'll be impatiently waiting for my return. 

 

[CaliforniaGirl]

1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

I'm back 🙂

He came to my local park. It's a cool place by the water with free concerts every summer weekends.  I've learn a lot about him. The man is a talking machine lol. He's very attentive, very delicate toward me. He told me my dress was very nice and I think he blushed 🙂  He's a bit shy and it's super cute. I've learn he's Muslim. He said he observes his religion very privately and I won't see the difference between dating him or a non-muslim except for the part he doesn't eat pork (I can live with that). I said his religion is not a problem with me. We spent 2.5 hours together and I had to come back home to get some sleep before my long drive tomorrow, otherwise we could have stayed there all night. We had a long long longgg kiss good night 🙂 He expressed he's happy I get to go away on vacation and he'll be impatiently waiting for my return. 

 

That sounds really nice.

[Miss Spider]

1 hour ago, Gaeta said:

I'm back 🙂

He came to my local park. It's a cool place by the water with free concerts every summer weekends.  I've learn a lot about him. The man is a talking machine lol. He's very attentive, very delicate toward me. He told me my dress was very nice and I think he blushed 🙂  He's a bit shy and it's super cute. I've learn he's Muslim. He said he observes his religion very privately and I won't see the difference between dating him or a non-muslim except for the part he doesn't eat pork (I can live with that). I said his religion is not a problem with me. We spent 2.5 hours together and I had to come back home to get some sleep before my long drive tomorrow, otherwise we could have stayed there all night. We had a long long longgg kiss good night 🙂 He expressed he's happy I get to go away on vacation and he'll be impatiently waiting for my return. 

 

Awwwwwwwwe 🥰🥰🥰

[glows]

2 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I'm back 🙂

He came to my local park. It's a cool place by the water with free concerts every summer weekends.  I've learn a lot about him. The man is a talking machine lol. He's very attentive, very delicate toward me. He told me my dress was very nice and I think he blushed 🙂  He's a bit shy and it's super cute. I've learn he's Muslim. He said he observes his religion very privately and I won't see the difference between dating him or a non-muslim except for the part he doesn't eat pork (I can live with that). I said his religion is not a problem with me. We spent 2.5 hours together and I had to come back home to get some sleep before my long drive tomorrow, otherwise we could have stayed there all night. We had a long long longgg kiss good night 🙂 He expressed he's happy I get to go away on vacation and he'll be impatiently waiting for my return. 

 

Wonderful news. Thanks for updating us. Safe travels too!

[Fletch Lives]

That's okay, it just means more bacon is available for me! Weeeeee! 🤣

It sounds like you are going on vacation on a high note. 

[Dis]

Uhhh thank God! 😍 I was like, if G has yet another bad date I'm going to bake her a condolence lasagna and mail it to Canada 

 

Yay! So happy for you! Gotta love those long goodnight kisses! 💋

Edited July 20, 2021 by Dis

[Gaeta]

1h20 am. Is the only time l found to check LS. I'm having a great time over here 😁

Romeo writes to me every day, once a day.  We don't chat cause l check my phone like twice a day  and his messages are hours old. I'm thinking of calling him a few minutes tomorrow. 

AND l did not expect this but Teacher has been texting me every day! And he's counting the days to our next date!

[Dis]

10 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

1h20 am. Is the only time l found to check LS. I'm having a great time over here 😁

Romeo writes to me every day, once a day.  We don't chat cause l check my phone like twice a day  and his messages are hours old. I'm thinking of calling him a few minutes tomorrow. 

AND l did not expect this but Teacher has been texting me every day! And he's counting the days to our next date!

Is Romeo the guy from the last date? If so, why not give him your number? He would probably love that and I think he's earned it after such a great date

 

And yay for the teacher too!

 

Things are looking up and you've earned it! 

[Gaeta]

14 minutes ago, Dis said:

Is Romeo the guy from the last date? If so, why not give him your number? He would probably love that and I think he's earned it after such a great 

Yes he is. We had 2 dates before l left . He has my number. In his text today he said he'd text more but he doesn't want to be a bother during my vacations. He wouldn't dare calling. 

Ya! I think l will surprise him with a quick call. He told me at night he re-reads our conversations. How adorable is that 😊

Edited July 20, 2021 by Gaeta

[Dis]

Just now, Gaeta said:

Yes he is. We had 2 dates before l left . He has my number. In his text today he said he'd text more but he doesn't want to be a bother during my vacations. He wouldn't dare calling. 

Ya! I think l will surprise him with a quick call. He told me at night he re-read our conversations. How adorable is that 😊

oooo somebody's getting invested  

 

Yeah give him a call...he's probably on the edge of his seat 😄

[Gaeta]

Hello all 🙂

I was gone away on vacations a total of 8 days. I was hoping that wouldn't kill what I had started wth Romeo and Teacher. They both sent me messages each day, sometimes twice a day. I won't be able to see Romeo tomorrow, he has his children all day and he works a night shift from 7 pm. I work 9-5, he'll work 7pm to 5 am all week. We will only be able to see each other next weekend. That will be 2 weeks between date 2 & 3. He sounds very motivated, I am too, but that's a long time between dates at this very early stage. 

Teacher lives 15 mins away and he's off for the summer so he's waiting for my return to organize a date. If I have time maybe tomorrow after dinner. 

I got teased a lot by my siblings and their wives. They played with my online profile, sent a couple of likes to men, they agreed Romeo is gorgeous and character wise he has what I like in a man but at the  moment I mentionned he's Muslim it was met with a lot of negativity & prejudices. I'm thinking alcohol & heat had a bit of responsibility in this..I got :  why can't you date within your own people. And one of my bothers was very hurtful and said he doesn't want them under his roof.  😞  

[Gaeta]

48 minutes ago, Olivia24 said:

[ ] Im very  sorry about the  Muslim thing. I think love  is so precious it shouldnt  matter  about race, religion or  politics!!

They have witnessed scary stories and they generalize out of fear.  It's not the first time l push them out of their comfort zone.  

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[Blue Sea]

I am happy for you that you found someone who can hit well with you. However, as there are too many bad sheep around, we ladies need to be careful & know how to protect ourselves as well. 

I have met a few sweet talkers before who also keep leading the messages daily. 

They always want to find out about our daily lives but yet, they don't share about theirs. In order to protect yourself, do not share too much on your whereabouts & family too. 

Do you know about his family background? How many siblings etc? Did he share what he does daily as well? 

The initial stage is pretty important for ladies in order not to fall in love with a jerk. 

Hence, during your messages to him, test things out like asking about his family and more personal stuff to see whether he is willing to be more transparent to you instead of creating imaginations about how LOVE should be like.....

And of course, for the 2nd date, let him initiate. A guy will definitely want to see the girl he likes, frequently. Not just texting. Men can text few gals daily as well to see who respond faster too. 

Hence, don't trust him too much first. Understand him better first to protect yourself. 

Last but not least, I do hope he can be the nice guy. All the best & take care ya! 

[Gaeta]

Here's something unexpected. 

Romeo asked me to go on a 2 day get-away with him ! At first I thought he was joking. I didn't have time to ask what he had in mind, he heading to work. 

I'm not going away with him for 2 days. I saw the man twice only. That would be too much too soon and he's a stranger! 

I will offer him a day trip. 

Thoughts?

 

[CaliforniaGirl]

14 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Here's something unexpected. 

Romeo asked me to go on a 2 day get-away with him ! At first I thought he was joking. I didn't have time to ask what he had in mind, he heading to work. 

I'm not going away with him for 2 days. I saw the man twice only. That would be too much too soon and he's a stranger! 

I will offer him a day trip. 

Thoughts?

 

Gaeta, no. Don't go away with a man you went out with twice.

[Gaeta]

Just now, CaliforniaGirl said:

Gaeta, no. Don't go away with a man you went out with twice.

You mean not even on a day trip? Get there for lunch, visit around in the pm, come back after dinner. 

[CaliforniaGirl]

25 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

You mean not even on a day trip? Get there for lunch, visit around in the pm, come back after dinner. 

You just said it’s two days.

[Alpacalia]

You can indicate that there's a part of you that wants to go away on a two-day trip with him because (insert what you like about him), but that it's not your style to move so quickly. But if he wants to go on a day excursion, you'd be delighted.

[Gaeta]

4 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

You just said it’s two days.

He offered to go away 2 days. I would never go away 2 days with a man that isn't my official bf. I'm thinking of offering him to go on a 1 day trip/outing instead.

[Ami1uwant]

4 hours ago, Gaeta said:

He offered to go away 2 days. I would never go away 2 days with a man that isn't my official bf. I'm thinking of offering him to go on a 1 day trip/outing instead.

NY us for lovers…
overnights are for couples….

[princessaurora]

Yeah, definitely too early for a weekend getaway. I think your counteroffer for spending the whole day together is the best option at this point. 

 

[Miss Spider]

Weekend getaway sounds fun. Be a little spontaneous 

[Gaeta]

1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

Weekend getaway sounds fun. Be a little spontaneous 

And end up cut up in a garbage bag? nah 😉

He's a stranger. I've seen him a total of 4 hours, I don't want to see his morning routine yet. Too much familiarity.Then hotel, meals, gas, entrances fees for a guy that might not call me back? double nah.