Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 37 minutes ago, stillafool said: Britney, why haven't you learned to drive yet? I never said I dont drive Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 Anyway we are still together for now. He understands now how I feel and didn't think of his actions as casual. He said hes not seeing anyone, is my boyfriend and only wants to be with me. I told him what I need from him and agreed our communication is bit off. So today he texts me his whole schedule what hes doing this week till Thursday. Thing is that's not what I had in mind. I just want to observe him and see if he will change his communication with me. If not and I will still be anxious I will break it up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 (edited) 34 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I never said I dont drive Well I'm glad you do. Apparently some people around here think it's a terrible question to ask someone. LOL Edited July 6, 2021 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 But did he explained why did he bahaved this way? It looks he doesn't feel anything 😕 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 25 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Anyway we are still together for now. today he texts me his whole schedule what hes doing this week till Thursday. Thing is that's not what I had in mind. Will he spend more time with you or text more often? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 2 minutes ago, Amanda92 said: But did he explained why did he bahaved this way? It looks he doesn't feel anything 😕 Yes he said I never invite him to my home to meet parents and he thought it was odd so he wanted to give me some space. Now he's texting me his whole schedule. I never told him to do that Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Will he spend more time with you or text more often? He started texting more today and texted me his whole schedule. I never asked for his schedule. I meant let me know when we are meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Yes he said I never invite him to my home to meet parents and he thought it was odd He has a very good point. Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 I can be just too fast for you. He should ask you instead of giving space. Maybe stop initiating meetings and see if he wants to meet you or not Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: He started texting more today. I meant let me know when we are meeting. Was his schedule very busy or is he asking to see you more.? You keep repeating 'he texted his schedule", etc. but is he going to see you more often or as much as you would like? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: He has a very good point. Yeah I understand his point but I told him in my culture 3 months is too fast. He needs to respect that as well. Now that we had this conversation and it's just 4 months together I am less hesitant to introduce him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 5 minutes ago, Amanda92 said: I can be just too fast for you. He should ask you instead of giving space. Maybe stop initiating meetings and see if he wants to meet you or not Exactly he didn't even ask me. I told him we need to work on our communication together. Yes I am observing him this week and see if he will initiate meetings at least day or two before not same day BS. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Was his schedule very busy or is he asking to see you more.? You keep repeating 'he texted his schedule", etc. but is he going to see you more often or as much as you would like? He just texted me what he will be doing till Thursday and why we won't meet. I texted him that's not what I meant and I'm interested in the plans of us meeting. We'll see..I'm observing what he will do this week. This is the last chance I'm giving him. If he still doesn't make plans then this is not working and I'm not a priority. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 3 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Yeah I understand his point but I told him in my culture 3 months is too fast. He just texted me what he will be doing till Thursday and why we won't meet. What culture is he? What culture is yours? Are you saying he texted you why he's busy but ,made no plans to see you? Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 (edited) It's weird. For me this would be normal: - I am going on a concert with Mark on Thursday, so maybe we can plan going to a restaurant on Friday? Now you are just waiting when he will find time. If he won't plan anything till Thursday make plans on the weekend. Edited July 6, 2021 by Amanda92 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: What culture is he? What culture is yours? Are you saying he texted you why he's busy but ,made no plans to see you? Yes he texted FYI I'm doing this after work today tomorrow until Thursday. He didnt text about plans for us yet not. I'm Russian and he's American . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 2 minutes ago, Amanda92 said: It's weird. For me this would be normal: - I am going on a concert with Mark on Thursday, so maybe we can plan going to a restaurant on Friday? Yes exactly. I told him I only care about plans for us! Not his whole schedule. Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 But how was the meeting after the conversation? Do you feel that he likes you? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 10 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Yeah I understand his point but I told him in my culture 3 months is too fast. He needs to respect that as well. Now that we had this conversation and it's just 4 months together I am less hesitant to introduce him. You said before the reason you haven't introduced him to your parents is because you weren't sure the relationship was going to go forward. Now that you have confirmation that he is your boyfriend I don't understand why you wouldn't want him to come into your home and meet your parents. Surely at 37 your parents must be excited that you now have a bf. You said they were askiing about him, so your excuses don't make sense. I guess when you start taking him seriously he will start being serious about you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 4 minutes ago, stillafool said: You said before the reason you haven't introduced him to your parents is because you weren't sure the relationship was going to go forward. Now that you have confirmation that he is your boyfriend I don't understand why you wouldn't want him to come into your home and meet your parents. Surely at 37 your parents must be excited that you now have a bf. You said they were askiing about him, so your excuses don't make sense. I guess when you start taking him seriously he will start being serious about you. I'm not introducing him until he shows me differently. I wasnt sure about his actions. I am still trying to observe him. Why would it be about the parents. That is so dumb. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 8 minutes ago, Amanda92 said: But how was the meeting after the conversation? Do you feel that he likes you? Yes the meeting was very good. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 So he's not the brightest crayon in the box. Use the wait and see approach and observe. That's what dating is about. If he lacks initiative overall planning dates or involving you in his life this person isn't for you. Don't introduce him to your family just yet. This is too soon especially when you're on the fence. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 14 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I'm Russian and he's American . I'm not introducing him until he shows me differently. . Why would it be about the parents. Yes he texted FYI I'm doing this after work today tomorrow until Thursday. He didnt text about plans for us yet not. Ok, makes sense. So introducing a date means it's serious in your culture but it's not that meaningful in general American culture. Doesn't it seem passive-aggressive to you that he texted when and why he'll be busy rather a than when he's free or when he wants to see you? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 6, 2021 Share Posted July 6, 2021 4 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I'm not introducing him until he shows me differently. I wasnt sure about his actions. I am still trying to observe him. Why would it be about the parents. That is so dumb. Apparently he doesn't think it's dumb, does he? Being intoduced to the parents is an indication that you are serious about that person. It's a milestone in a relationship. Especially since you live with them and are only 10 minutes from him. I would think you were ashamed of me or them if I were in his position. So I can understand how he feels about that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 6, 2021 Author Share Posted July 6, 2021 16 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Ok, makes sense. So introducing a date means it's serious in your culture but it's not that meaningful in general American culture. Doesn't it seem passive-aggressive to you that he texted when and why he'll be busy rather a than when he's free or when he wants to see you? Now that you mentioned it, yes it does seem passive aggressive doesn't it. That's bad huh 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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