Author Britney25 Posted July 7, 2021 Author Share Posted July 7, 2021 36 minutes ago, elaine567 said: It means he is comfortable NOT seeing her... In the past month he makes no plans to see her, he decides to spend the 4th July with a friend and he sends her a schedule that is already full. Yes, it all sounds like great fun... Now he has uttered the famous "casual" line - "Let's just see where this goes..." True in the past month I usually initiated meetings (he said yes to all) asked me out for a dinner date only twice in the month. To be fair did travel to NYC for a few days. Came back we saw each other but was at his home. Last Monday I initiated a meet up and he agreed but took me to his house where we had that convo. Next day texts me his schedule up to Thursday of this week but no plans yet for us for the week. Texts me still everyday to check in. So to you him saying we are a couple but were still trying to see where this goes translates to "casual dating"? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 8 hours ago, Britney25 said: True in the past month I usually initiated meetings (he said yes to all) asked me out for a dinner date only twice in the month. To be fair did travel to NYC for a few days. Came back we saw each other but was at his home. Last Monday I initiated a meet up and he agreed but took me to his house where we had that convo. Next day texts me his schedule up to Thursday of this week but no plans yet for us for the week. Texts me still everyday to check in. So to you him saying we are a couple but were still trying to see where this goes translates to "casual dating"? So? That's ok. Don't you both work? Seeing each other weekends seems fine. Do you have common interests? Do you go out and do stuff? Why not find some fun things to do for the weekend and text him that. Aren't there fun things to do where you are? Festivals concerts parks events mini golf anything? Sitting around the house having relationship talks seems like such a drag. Maybe that's why he wanted to do something fun on the holiday weekend with someone who can plan stuff and be up for more than netflix and chill It's better than texting all your people all day with out of control anxiety about something you don't need to make yourself this crazy about. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 We have Thursday. So what is the plan? What if he won't plan anything for the weekend today? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 16 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: So? That's ok. Don't you both work? Seeing each other weekends seems fine. Do you have common interests? Do you go out and do stuff? Why not find some fun things to do for the weekend and text him that. Aren't there fun things to do where you are? Festivals concerts parks events mini golf anything? Sitting around the house having relationship talks seems like such a drag. Maybe that's why he wanted to do something fun on the holiday weekend with someone who can plan stuff and be up for more than netflix and chill It's better than texting all your people all day with out of control anxiety about something you don't need to make yourself this crazy about. I feel like I dont see him enough. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: I feel like I dont see him enough. And you told him this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 9 hours ago, Amanda92 said: We have Thursday. So what is the plan? What if he won't plan anything for the weekend today? Yep still didn't text me anything about plans. He just texted what he usually does in the morning . I'm not initiating anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 Do you have friends to plan a nice weekend with them and stop thinking about him for a while? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 1 minute ago, CaliforniaGirl said: And you told him this? Nope Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 Just now, Amanda92 said: Do you have friends to plan a nice weekend with them and stop thinking about him for a while? Oh yes I am already planning my weekend, but just disappointed. He will probably do the same thing and ask me day off, or might ask me tomorrow. Honestly I'm not analyzing what he texts me anymore. I'm observing if there will be action from him. If he even cares that we will or wont see each other this week. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 I understand that you are disappointed, but do you want to spend every week waiting for him to invite you last minute? Maybe if we will notice that we lose you, he will understand something. So far it looks that he doesn't need to see you. I'm sorry, but just try to focus on yourself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 1 minute ago, Amanda92 said: I understand that you are disappointed, but do you want to spend every week waiting for him to invite you last minute? Maybe if we will notice that we lose you, he will understand something. So far it looks that he doesn't need to see you. I'm sorry, but just try to focus on yourself. Yeah you are so right. Honestly I'm less anxious about the situation. In fact this will help me to clarify if I should just break it off with him. Ro me it's not normal being a couple for 4 months and suddenly not moving forward but backwards. Suddenly seeing each other once a week or last minute is good? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 5 minutes ago, Britney25 said: To me it's not normal being a couple for 4 months and suddenly not moving forward but backwards. Suddenly seeing each other once a week or last minute is good? It's normal if the other party is losing interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Honestly I'm less anxious about the situation. This is great! Happy to hear this. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 6 minutes ago, basil67 said: It's normal if the other party is losing interest. Exactly what I'm afraid off... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 And I see no reason to think you're wrong. The only question is whether or not you hang around waiting to see if it gets better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, basil67 said: And I see no reason to think you're wrong. The only question is whether or not you hang around waiting to see if it gets better. Yeah.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 Ugh 😞 Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Clearly he's not all that into you. This one has run it's course. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Alfano said: Clearly he's not all that into you. This one has run it's course. Just wondering if you have the read most of the thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 It's 34 pages long. I read enough. He's clearly moving away from you. As you said yourself, it's going backwards not forward. You spend more time analyzing his motives from a distance than enjoying what should be a healthy, open relationship with good communication between the two parties. The whole thing is nothing more than a "guess where his head is at" game. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 It's not easy, but we are here for you. I can also recommend you to write diary. When I have too many thoughts in my head I write down what I feel and I feel much better. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) Today so far no good morning text, most likely because it's Friday or hes waiting for me. I'm not going to initiate. Edited July 9, 2021 by Britney25 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Mute your phone and have a fun weekend girl! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 6 minutes ago, Amanda92 said: Mute your phone and have a fun weekend girl! Thank you, I will try 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Can you find some fun things to do? I just went bowling and mini golf with the beautiful weather we've been having. Even if it's just walking around your city or countryside and enjoying the sights. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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