Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 20 minutes ago, Acacia98 said: It is definitely a jerk move for someone to pretend they are still interested when they're actually deliberately pulling away. Very unkind. And it can make it difficult for you to ultimately move on. So perhaps you need to revise your view of him. Don't think of him as a nice guy that should have done better. Think of him as a selfish manipulative guy being his true self. Yes exactly, thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 hour ago, Britney25 said: I can't get over the fact we had this convo and he had a chance to tell me it's not working for him, but chose to tell me that he loves our connection ect..and still keep texting me the next day, it was all for sex wasn't it. Sorry Britney. I know it's hurtful and sadly this is just what some men do. They make women feel like this when they don't see or hear from you. Eventually it creates an attachment. People get busy but making time for your SO is crucial to making your relationship work. Nonetheless, I hope you can continue to cultivate other relationships and seek out other sources of happiness. I'd chuck those gifts right into the wastebasket. 🗑️ 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 Ok he texted hope you had a beautiful day. So me not initiating is making him curious Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Ok he texted hope you had a beautiful day. So me not initiating is making him curious So that's twice today he texted, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 3 minutes ago, stillafool said: So that's twice today he texted, right? Nope once. This is the first text of today. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) Oh I thought he texted you earlier but just didn't make a date. Good don't text him back until he asks a question or his text requires a response. Edited July 9, 2021 by stillafool 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 minute ago, stillafool said: Oh I thought he texted you earlier but just didn't make a date. Yeah no.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 29 minutes ago, stillafool said: Oh I thought he texted you earlier but just didn't make a date. Good don't text him back until he asks a question or his text requires a response. Damn too late I replied anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 (edited) 18 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Damn too late I replied anyway. (delete) Just forget it. Edited July 10, 2021 by CaliforniaGirl Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 4 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: OMG, Britney, why??? Why...are...you...so...AFRAID of this guy????? Speak up! And please don't say, "No, because I'm just casually observing..." when you're SO obsessed with his EVERY blip and murmur that you immediately post it here. You have not stopped thinking about him and this situation for three solid seconds, so speak up! Good grief! Speak about what? I answered his text and asked how are you? So far no answer. You want me to ask him if hes loosing interest? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Speak about what? I answered his text and asked how are you? So far no answer. You want me to ask him if hes loosing interest? Forget it. Do what you want to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 1 minute ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Forget it. Do what you want to do. No seriously I'm not being sarcastic sorry Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 15 minutes ago, Britney25 said: No seriously I'm not being sarcastic sorry I'm not either. I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 2 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I'm not either. I wish you luck. Yeah sorry I understand now what you mean. Ugh I'm soooooo stupid Jeez....ugh I need a lot of luck. Thansk Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 52 minutes ago, Britney25 said: You want me to ask him if hes loosing interest? Never ask a question like that. It's pathetic. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 1 minute ago, Alfano said: Never ask a question like that. It's pathetic. Of course I won't ask that. Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Whew. It's not much but it's a start. Now you gotta internalize that whole projection of being self confident and not an anxiety ridden mess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Amanda92 Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Don't think about his Birthday! It looks like the end. I wouldn't answer him the last time. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Britney, you need to get busy with life. You can't just sit by the phone waiting for him to text you. Do something anything. Gyms are open now in most places. So go take a gym class. Or take some new hobby. How about a pottery class or joining a book club? Or learn a new language. Or take some piano lessons. How about some volunteer work? Something, anything to get you out of the house and stop fixating on this guy. At least for a few hours. The more you keep busy, the less time you'll have to obsess over this guy. I think that he is slow fading on you. I could be wrong but this is what it looks like. And that's fine, there are other men out there who will want to date you. Don't put yourself down if things end with this particular guy. But you seriously sounding obsessed over this guy. Stop analyzing everything about him and his messages. Either end it or go with the flow till it lasts. Maybe if you show him that you are busy and not that easily available he will start chasing you. And by that I mean really honestly busy, not just making stuff up. Or maybe not, but you will be too busy to care that he is not around much. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 47 minutes ago, Alvi said: Britney, you need to get busy with life. You can't just sit by the phone waiting for him to text you. Do something anything. Gyms are open now in most places. So go take a gym class. Or take some new hobby. How about a pottery class or joining a book club? Or learn a new language. Or take some piano lessons. How about some volunteer work? Something, anything to get you out of the house and stop fixating on this guy. At least for a few hours. The more you keep busy, the less time you'll have to obsess over this guy. I think that he is slow fading on you. I could be wrong but this is what it looks like. And that's fine, there are other men out there who will want to date you. Don't put yourself down if things end with this particular guy. But you seriously sounding obsessed over this guy. Stop analyzing everything about him and his messages. Either end it or go with the flow till it lasts. Maybe if you show him that you are busy and not that easily available he will start chasing you. And by that I mean really honestly busy, not just making stuff up. Or maybe not, but you will be too busy to care that he is not around much. Yes now I see that WAS my problem. I was available to him too much. I'm ignoring him this weekend. I never did before so now it's time for me to start . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, Amanda92 said: Don't think about his Birthday! It looks like the end. I wouldn't answer him the last time. Yeah stupid me DID answer and he didn't answer me back. This time I'm learning little by little. I will ignore his texts moving forward until it's something substantial. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tinyjaguar Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 OK, so he texted. Why don't you text him back and say, "do you want to go out. Pick me up at 1pm, and make it good." or something like that. Then the onus is on him to find something to do for the afternoon. You need to challenge him. Be more assertive. He might respond to that and surprise you. If he doesn't, then you will know a lot more about where you stand. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 19 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said: OK, so he texted. Why don't you text him back and say, "do you want to go out. Pick me up at 1pm, and make it good." or something like that. Then the onus is on him to find something to do for the afternoon. You need to challenge him. Be more assertive. He might respond to that and surprise you. If he doesn't, then you will know a lot more about where you stand. You have missed the point completely, Britney has been initiating almost ALL of the meet ups for the past month and you suggest she does it again, to what end?... This guy is is "busy", he never suggests anything anymore and then she will suggest they meet he agrees, which results in sex. Now he is not even taking her to dinner prior to the sex, it is stay at home then sex... He is quite happy letting her do all the work as he gets sex with very little effort... A "miss you babe" is enough... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Tinyjaguar Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 46 minutes ago, elaine567 said: You have missed the point completely, Britney has been initiating almost ALL of the meet ups for the past month and you suggest she does it again, to what end?... This guy is is "busy", he never suggests anything anymore and then she will suggest they meet he agrees, which results in sex. Now he is not even taking her to dinner prior to the sex, it is stay at home then sex... He is quite happy letting her do all the work as he gets sex with very little effort... A "miss you babe" is enough... That is why I am suggesting that she challenges him. Ask for a date and put the onus on him to sort it out. Then, if he fails to deliver, she knows that he is not up to much and she can take appropriate action. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 6 hours ago, Britney25 said: Yeah stupid me DID answer and he didn't answer me back. This time I'm learning little by little. I will ignore his texts moving forward until it's something substantial. "Hope you had a nice day" doesn't require a response. I get spam like that from my insurance company, and various other things. It's sad to watch someone fade out like this. He seems to be avoiding confrontation, even though you already had a defining the relationship talk this week. The writing on the wall was when he sent you a schedule about how busy he'll be but has not asked to see you and now just texts nonsense. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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