Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 14 minutes ago, stillafool said: This guy seems like he's already involved in a relationship but has a bachelor pad in town where he fools around on his partner with multiple women. Just a feeling I get from the texts he sends and how he's never really available. He probably tells all the women what he thinks they want to hear until the chase is over and he starts up with someone new. One thing is for sure Brit needs to put this guy in her rear view mirror as he's waisted enough of her time with nonsense. Honestly what a bunch of BS dating, and love is. It's all fake. Everyone is selfish, egotistic, dont know what they want. It's always the Womans fault. Here I am opening myself and what are the odds that it finished before anything started. I'm done......why should I even try? I'm 36. My clock is ticking. No one is serious. Maybe I'm destined to be alone. To die alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I really want to tell him to f*** himself. Normal reaction to watching this unravel with such saccharine cruelty. Yes he's a creep for ending things this way. However you probably dodged a bullet and only spent a few months on this. The bonus is you're free to pursue a more sincere men. Why not delete and block him and redirect your energy into getting on some good dating apps with a notice profile and pics? Start chatting with and meeting men for a low key coffee. Now you know what red flags to look for. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 4 minutes ago, Britney25 said: But whenever I wanted to meet with him he never told me no. He always agreed. Yes and you were always down for sex. 10 minutes away and sex, why not. It's so easy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Britney25 said: It's always the Womans fault. This is not your fault. There are some good guys out there Britney you just have to keep pushing forward. You'll meet one. Edited July 10, 2021 by stillafool 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 8 minutes ago, stillafool said: This is not your fault. There are some good guys out there Britney you just have to keep pushing forward. You'll meet one. Yeah well I'm 36. I feel hopeless. I am such an amazing woman. I am a pharmacist, intelligent, fun, funny, caring loyal AF. Yes I lost 20yrs of my life of finding someone due to my anorexia. I feel like my friends and family dont understand me. Yes I did put a big weight on my shoulders to find someone. For me its not easy as no one seems to spark my interest. For some reason this guy did. Ugh. I'm so tired. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 13 minutes ago, stillafool said: Yes and you were always down for sex. 10 minutes away and sex, why not. It's so easy. He doesnt even want to have sex anymore lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 16 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Normal reaction to watching this unravel with such saccharine cruelty. Yes he's a creep for ending things this way. However you probably dodged a bullet and only spent a few months on this. The bonus is you're free to pursue a more sincere men. Why not delete and block him and redirect your energy into getting on some good dating apps with a notice profile and pics? Start chatting with and meeting men for a low key coffee. Now you know what red flags to look for. Love is BS nowadays. Or maybe I guess I'm destined to die alone. You know I thought my biggest fear is failure but now I know it's to die alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 Its seems so easy for everyone around me. Everyone is pregrant, engaged or getting married or coupled up. I just want someone to love a partner. Is that so much to ask? Why dont I deserve that? Why?? Whay dont u deserve to be happy? Is it my karma? Friends tell me you're such a beautiful girl, amazing person why are you alone? Who cares that I'm attractive or not. Why does it matter when I dont meet a lot of me, if I do they just want sex or this guy played me a fool. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 You are not destined to die alone or any other nonsense like that. You're basically going through what a lot of women are experiencing with dating these days. You will meet and kiss some frogs until you find your Prince. I think you've probably learned a great deal from this relationship and will not make the same mistakes again. Clear communication is key to finding the right man and not silencing your voice in order to hold on to a him. When you know better you do better. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Move on. Don’t continue sleeping with someone when they’re half hearted about you, if that sort of thing doesn’t appeal to you. You started questioning his behaviour not blindly going along with what was happening so thank yourself and don’t be so harsh on yourself. Exercise photos of himself. Absurd. I once had someone text me a photo of himself dressed up in a public bathroom. I guess he was proud of his new coat. I hope you get a giggle out of this. Onwards, B. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 25 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Yeah well I'm 36. I feel hopeless. I am such an amazing woman. I am a pharmacist, intelligent, fun, funny, caring loyal AF. Yes I lost 20yrs of my life of finding someone due to my anorexia. I feel like my friends and family dont understand me. Yes I did put a big weight on my shoulders to find someone. For me its not easy as no one seems to spark my interest. For some reason this guy did. Ugh. I'm so tired. Have you considered going to a meeting agency? Everyone is prescreened, men pay around $2,000 to register, that's lowest fee. When a man shed that type of money to meet a future wife he's serious. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 48 minutes ago, stillafool said: You are not destined to die alone or any other nonsense like that. You're basically going through what a lot of women are experiencing with dating these days. You will meet and kiss some frogs until you find your Prince. I think you've probably learned a great deal from this relationship and will not make the same mistakes again. Clear communication is key to finding the right man and not silencing your voice in order to hold on to a him. When you know better you do better. I never silenced my voice with him. We talked on Monday. He always told me what he felt for me. How does this go back to being my fault???!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 34 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Have you considered going to a meeting agency? Everyone is prescreened, men pay around $2,000 to register, that's lowest fee. When a man shed that type of money to meet a future wife he's serious. Ughh if I have to do that then I rather kill myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 39 minutes ago, glows said: Move on. Don’t continue sleeping with someone when they’re half hearted about you, if that sort of thing doesn’t appeal to you. You started questioning his behaviour not blindly going along with what was happening so thank yourself and don’t be so harsh on yourself. Exercise photos of himself. Absurd. I once had someone text me a photo of himself dressed up in a public bathroom. I guess he was proud of his new coat. I hope you get a giggle out of this. Onwards, B. Well I gave myself to him anyway. He kept saying I love you, I love everything about you. What utter BS. I will miss the sex thou. Who knows when will be the next time I sleep with someone. Ugh Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 4 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Ughh if I have to do that then I rather kill myself. What do you mean? These meeting agencies are filled with serious professionnals. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 55 minutes ago, Gaeta said: What do you mean? These meeting agencies are filled with serious professionnals. Would they charge me as well? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 10, 2021 Author Share Posted July 10, 2021 1 hour ago, glows said: Move on. Don’t continue sleeping with someone when they’re half hearted about you, if that sort of thing doesn’t appeal to you. You started questioning his behaviour not blindly going along with what was happening so thank yourself and don’t be so harsh on yourself. Exercise photos of himself. Absurd. I once had someone text me a photo of himself dressed up in a public bathroom. I guess he was proud of his new coat. I hope you get a giggle out of this. Onwards, B. Of course I dont want to sleep with him. I only slept with him because I genuinely liked him. He told me he loved me. God I'm so sad that love is spit out like its worthless. I forgive him. Hes human. Hes a sinner like me. I'm not saying I'm a perfect. Just hurt that he acted like a jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Jen_tully Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 Maybe therapy would be the better option over dating at this time. Killing yourself rather than attempting an healthy way of finding a partner should not be a thought. I’ve been on my own for 5 years and I know it’s not that I only attract men who only want sex rather I only pick men who want that and than begin the brutal process of “trying” to figure out why it’s happened again. No more though…you need to learn your insecurities and face what they are! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
AnnieB Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 I agree with the others you should not speak to him anymore and let him fade away. You'll probably hear from him intermittently. He lovebombed you, and he was probably seeking validation from you for you to "fall" for him. And once you did - once you started to have expectations of him, he started to fade. I also agree with the poster who said he was living in a pieda tierre and has a wife and kids somewhere else, that is a real possibility. But most likely he is a bachelor (divorced) not looking to settle down and lovebombs nice normal women and fakes relationships to get access to sex. Men like that don't pay for prostitutes, but con regular women into short term relationships. I think confronting him and saying your peace will probably help you end the relationship and move on, I think that if you fade him, you will always wonder if he'll call. I think for you and for your sake a breakup phone call would probably be a good idea. Give yourself a few days of space and see how you feel next week, whether you want to have a breakup convo, or just fade. Go by how you feel. As for being 36 and childless and unmarried, welcome to the club! Especially in NYC it is so common, and at the same time I am thankful for that. I am right there with you girlfriend, I probably live 10 minutes from you, too! Live a few more years and you will witness those same engaged couples getting divorced. Life isn't everything as it seems on instagram. All we can do is live with authenticity and self love and gumption. Get up tomorrow and love again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 11, 2021 Author Share Posted July 11, 2021 4 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Normal reaction to watching this unravel with such saccharine cruelty. Yes he's a creep for ending things this way. However you probably dodged a bullet and only spent a few months on this. The bonus is you're free to pursue a more sincere men. Why not delete and block him and redirect your energy into getting on some good dating apps with a notice profile and pics? Start chatting with and meeting men for a low key coffee. Now you know what red flags to look for. Red flags? Honestly this makes me want to put up a bigger wall up. How am I to know if the guy is being real with me when this jerk said and did everything perfectly up until now? I feel like I can't trust anyone now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 11, 2021 Author Share Posted July 11, 2021 1 hour ago, AnnieB said: I agree with the others you should not speak to him anymore and let him fade away. You'll probably hear from him intermittently. He lovebombed you, and he was probably seeking validation from you for you to "fall" for him. And once you did - once you started to have expectations of him, he started to fade. I also agree with the poster who said he was living in a pieda tierre and has a wife and kids somewhere else, that is a real possibility. But most likely he is a bachelor (divorced) not looking to settle down and lovebombs nice normal women and fakes relationships to get access to sex. Men like that don't pay for prostitutes, but con regular women into short term relationships. I think confronting him and saying your peace will probably help you end the relationship and move on, I think that if you fade him, you will always wonder if he'll call. I think for you and for your sake a breakup phone call would probably be a good idea. Give yourself a few days of space and see how you feel next week, whether you want to have a breakup convo, or just fade. Go by how you feel. As for being 36 and childless and unmarried, welcome to the club! Especially in NYC it is so common, and at the same time I am thankful for that. I am right there with you girlfriend, I probably live 10 minutes from you, too! Live a few more years and you will witness those same engaged couples getting divorced. Life isn't everything as it seems on instagram. All we can do is live with authenticity and self love and gumption. Get up tomorrow and love again. Not sure he even deserves a phone call from me. I respect and treat everyone how I want to be treated but him...he's acting like a school boy. I know we are supposed to be boyfriend, girlfriend but at this point I doubt we ever were even though he asked me. If I was his girlfriend or he thought of me as one then where is my respect? I'm done showing him how much I care about him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 (edited) 9 hours ago, Britney25 said: Would they charge me as well? It's a ridiculous suggestion. Comes from prejudiced thinking. Instead be angry for a while. Get it out of your system. Break-ups hurt. Hurt feels like anger. Has he tried to contact you since the have a wonderful day text? Edited July 11, 2021 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 12 hours ago, Gaeta said: Have you considered going to a meeting agency? Everyone is prescreened, men pay around $2,000 to register Have you tried this, since you're recommending it? Was it successful for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Tinyjaguar Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Have you tried this, since you're recommending it? Was it successful for you? It sounds horrendous. Imagine how entitled these guy will be after they have shelled out 2k plus. Like tinder on steroids. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 11, 2021 Author Share Posted July 11, 2021 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: It's a ridiculous suggestion. Comes from prejudiced thinking. Instead be angry for a while. Get it out of your system. Break-ups hurt. Hurt feels like anger. Has he tried to contact you since the have a wonderful day text? Nope he is silent. First for us . 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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