Gaeta Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 Britney: When is the last time you heard from him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Tinyjaguar said: Well, his silence is making you unhappy, right? Of course! But everyone is advising me to not text no matter how I feel . So you know I'm not texting Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Gaeta said: Britney: When is the last time you heard from him? Friday at around 8pm. He just texted ",hope you had a beautiful day" Link to post Share on other sites
Tinyjaguar Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: He wrote a break up message to you? At least you got something. My is silent. Do you know that he is breaking up with you? We have all assumed that is the case, but it isn't necessarily so. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Friday at around 8pm. He just texted ",hope you had a beautiful day" I might have missed it, but did you respond to that? Link to post Share on other sites
Tinyjaguar Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Of course! But everyone is advising me to not text no matter how I feel . So you know I'm not texting Well, I don't agree with that course of action. The stonewall method seems to be causing you a lot of anxiety. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Tinyjaguar said: Do you know that he is breaking up with you? We have all assumed that is the case, but it isn't necessarily so. Yeah I don't know if he is breaking up with me. All I know is, he is silent. He never was this silent. He always texted me to say Have a great day ect. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Friday at around 8pm. He just texted ",hope you had a beautiful day" If I had not heard from a boyfriend of 4 months for an entire weekend, I would consider it over, unless he comes back with a story about being at the hospital on life support. Edited July 12, 2021 by Gaeta 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: I might have missed it, but did you respond to that? Yes I did respond. I even asked him how he's doing. He never answered back . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 (edited) 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: If I had not heard from a boyfriend of 4 months for an entire weekend, I would consider it over, unless he comes back with a story about being at the hospital on life support. Right he didn't text on the weekend...but I didn't either. He isn't texting today as well. I bet you would at least text him what's going on or are you ok. I did nothing. Edited July 12, 2021 by Britney25 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Yes I did respond. I even asked him how he's doing. He never answered back . And your question to him is right there on his phone, he sees it each time he grabs his phone, and each time he decides to not reply. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: And your question to him is right there on his phone, he sees it each time he grabs his phone, and each time he decides to not reply. Right but I never even asked him what's going on, are you ok. I mean he is my boyfriend of 4 months. I know I need to keep quiet but I dont understand the harm of me texting at least what's going on? I dont know... Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Right but I never even asked him what's going on, are you ok. I mean he is my boyfriend of 4 months. I know I need to keep quiet but I dont understand the harm of me texting at least what's going on? I dont know... About calling him, and asking what's going on? But ask yourself, what could be going on that makes it ok for him to not think of you at all over a weekend? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: Right but I never even asked him what's going on, are you ok. I mean he is my boyfriend of 4 months. I know I need to keep quiet but I dont understand the harm of me texting at least what's going on? I dont know... You need to do what is best for you, Britney. If that means contacting him, go for it. If that means silently letting this fade, go for it. Only you can decide which path is going to bring you the most peace of mind. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Tinyjaguar said: Do you know that he is breaking up with you? We have all assumed that is the case, but it isn't necessarily so. Fair point. Another woman in same sitch might reach out and say "What's up with you? You don't respond to my last message, you disappear all weekend, what the fukk is going on with you, it's totally disrespectful!!" Like I said earlier, some men dig strong women with a backbone, who don't tolerate BS, and who speak up, even get angry when warranted. He MAY be one of those guys, I don't know, but I DO know men (including two of my brothers) who are like this. One of my brother's girlfriend is so feisty, she doesn't let him get away with a damn thing, she calls him on his BS each and every time, if he doesn't shape up SHE ships out, and he told me he really likes her feistiness, it keeps him in check.... I dunno, just sayin, it's another option EXCEPT for the fact it's not you Brit, it's not who you are... you're more soft and passive... So it may be an incompatibility thing too, but at this point I am just speculating, I actually have NO idea. Edited July 12, 2021 by poppyfields 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 7 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Yes I did respond. I even asked him how he's doing. He never answered back . Yes and it was within minutes of his text to you. Nothing bad happened to him within that few minutes that would have prevented him from answering you back. As a matter of fact his text didn't even ask you a question that required a response; just "hope you had a beautiful day". Again, almost like a group text. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Fair point. Another woman in same sitch might reach out and say "What's up with you? You don't respond to my last message, you disappear all weekend, what the fukk is going on with you, it's totally disrespectful!!" Like I said earlier, some men dig strong women with a backbone, who don't tolerate BS, and who speak up, even get angry when warranted. He MAY be one of those guys, I don't know, but I DO know men (including two of my brothers) who are like this. One of my brother's girlfriend is so feisty, she doesn't let him get away with a damn thing, she calls him on his BS each and every time, if he doesn't shape up SHE ships out, and he told me he really likes her feistiness, it keeps him in check.... I dunno, just sayin, it's another open EXCEPT for the fact it's not you Brit, it's not who you are... Ok I will call him out . If he blocks me so be it. Do I have your support? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, stillafool said: Yes and it was within minutes of his text to you. Nothing bad happened to him within that few minutes that would have prevented him from answering you back. As a matter of fact his text didn't even ask you a question that required a response; just "hope you had a beautiful day". Again, almost like a group text. What's with you and the group text thing. For sure it wasn't a group text. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 7 minutes ago, Gaeta said: About calling him, and asking what's going on? But ask yourself, what could be going on that makes it ok for him to not think of you at all over a weekend? Exactly that's why I need to call him out. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Ok I will call him out . If he blocks me so be it. Do I have your support? But you're not a feisty woman, you cannot pretent to be one all of a sudden. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 Just now, Britney25 said: What's with you and the group text thing. For sure it wasn't a group text. Sorry but his text's don't sound very personal or at least the ones you've shared here. They sound like he could be talking to anybody. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Exactly that's why I need to call him out. Do you two ever actually speak live on the phone? Or is all your communication primarily through messages? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: But you're not a feisty woman, you cannot pretent to be one all of a sudden. So I should be passive? Omg you guys have me all wrong. I wanted to text him over the weekend but everyone was advising me not to, not because I'm not feisty . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 6 minutes ago, stillafool said: Sorry but his text's don't sound very personal or at least the ones you've shared here. They sound like he could be talking to anybody. So you want him to text hey Britney...have a great day Britney...he usually says babe Link to post Share on other sites
Author Britney25 Posted July 12, 2021 Author Share Posted July 12, 2021 5 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Do you two ever actually speak live on the phone? Or is all your communication primarily through messages? We never spoke that much over the phone no. Link to post Share on other sites
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