*Met a Cute Guy. Next Step?*

[Dis]

6 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

@Dis there you go!! get started girl ! I've met #9 last night, you got some catching up to do 😉

 

Girllll no one can keep up with your date count!

 

You are the true MVP and we all know that 😄

 

But yeah it was super nice to go out and and have that validation again. Feels wonderful...ready to go all out now ☺️

[Miss Spider]

And she’s back in the game 🙌yay happy to hear about the renewed optimism 🖤

[Dis]

10 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

And she’s back in the game 🙌yay happy to hear about the renewed optimism 🖤

Thanks girl! Happy to be back! 💋

 

Looking beautiful! ☺️

Edited July 5, 2021 by Dis

[Miss Spider]

Ty!! Likewise ( as always ) 

 

I like he brought you a bday gift … trying real hard but cute nonetheless lol

[Mrin]

On 7/4/2021 at 7:54 PM, Dis said:

But yeah it was super nice to go out and and have that validation again. Feels wonderful...ready to go all out now ☺️

Right on!

 

[Dis]

I had a date last night with a great guy who I've been chatting with for awhile

 

He's a dietician and a head wrestling coach for our state college. We had a lot of texting before the date which I normally don't like to do for obvious reasons but he was out of town for awhile for a wedding so our schedules conflicted. I was worried it was too much build up. I had him call me a few days before the date and he sounded to wonderful over the phone so I had high hopes for the date. That's my little trick, if the phone call goes well, the date probably will too. 

 

And then comes the day of the date, I had just worked a bunch of shifts in a row and got a stomach bug on the day of the date. Figures!  Initially I called if off but started to feel better and considering how fleeting connection are on OLD, I sucked it up and went. And I'm so glad I did! He was so funny and witty and had some serious swag but not in a player type of way, just in an attractive way. He was chatty and had been so attentive before the date too. I like attentiveness. He took an interest in in me, was intelligent and witty. I liked him a lot. I told him not to hug me because I didn't want to get him sick. I also told him broad shoulders are my weakness and he sure has them. So we joked about how I'm going to cop a feel when we finally hug.

 

We parted ways at the end of the date and he told me to text him when I got home. I love that. Love men who are attentive like that. After the date he asked me out for this Thursday because I'm not free until then. He sends long texts and keeps it up. I haven't texted him today because I do think some mystery is a good thing though. Makes a guy wonder. He is bald with a red beard which I usually don't go for. I like my dark haired men with beards but he is just too cute and those shoulders though! 

 

I have some high hopes for this one. Like him quite a bit already 💋☺️

Edited July 11, 2021 by Dis

[CaliforniaGirl]

18 minutes ago, Dis said:

I had a date last night with a great guy who I've been chatting with for awhile

 

He's a dietician and a head wrestling coach for our state college. We had a lot of texting before the date which I normally don't like to do for obvious reasons but he was out of town for awhile for a wedding so our schedules conflicted. I was worried it was too much build up. I had him call me a few days before the date and he sounded to wonderful over the phone so I had high hopes for the date. That's my little trick, if the phone call goes well, the date probably will too. 

 

And then comes the day of the date, I had just worked a bunch of shifts in a row and got a stomach bug on the day of the date. Figures!  Initially I called if off but started to feel better and considering how fleeting connection are on OLD, I sucked it up and went. And I'm so glad I did! He was so funny and witty and had some serious swag but not in a player type of way, just in an attractive way. He was chatty and had been so attentive before the date too. I like attentiveness. He took an interest in in me, was intelligent and witty. I liked him a lot. I told him not to hug me because I didn't want to get him sick. I also told him broad shoulders are my weakness and he sure has them. So we joked about how I'm going to cop a feel when we finally hug.

 

We parted ways at the end of the date and he told me to text him when I got home. I love that. Love men who are attentive like that. After the date he asked me out for this Thursday because I'm not free until then. He sends long texts and keeps it up. I haven't texted him today because I do think some mystery is a good thing though. Makes a guy wonder. He is bald with a red beard which I usually don't go for. I like my dark haired men with beards but he is just too cute and those shoulders though! 

 

I have some high hopes for this one. Like him quite a bit already 💋☺️

This is exciting!!!

[Dis]

1 hour ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

This is exciting!!!

It is! ☺️😍💋

[Weezy1973]

1 hour ago, Dis said:

He is bald with a red beard which I usually don't go for. I like my dark haired men with beards but he is just too cute and those shoulders though!

Men take note. If you don’t think attraction is a fluid concept, think again. 

[Trail Blazer]

40 minutes ago, Weezy1973 said:

Men take note. If you don’t think attraction is a fluid concept, think again. 

This is depressing!

 As a guy with dark hair (and an ability to grow an epic beard at will), the thought of being upstaged by a bald guy with a ginger beard is... unpalatable! 😆

I'd better start upping my game with those military presses!  i can't grow a ginger beard but I can build those shoulders! 💪

[Trail Blazer]

1 hour ago, Dis said:

It is! ☺️😍💋

Good luck, Dis.  I hope it all works out for you.  Fingers crossed! 🤞🤞

[Dis]

1 hour ago, Trail Blazer said:

This is depressing!

 As a guy with dark hair (and an ability to grow an epic beard at will), the thought of being upstaged by a bald guy with a ginger beard is... unpalatable! 😆

I'd better start upping my game with those military presses!  i can't grow a ginger beard but I can build those shoulders! 💪

 

1 hour ago, Trail Blazer said:

Good luck, Dis.  I hope it all works out for you.  Fingers crossed! 🤞🤞

Haha! 😆 Not military presses, wrestling presses...this guy could pick me up and throw me across a room...and I would definitely let him lol 

 

And thank youuuu! 

[poppyfields]

Hey Dis, was just thinking of you, did you have your date last night?    Inquiring minds!

If so, hope it went well! 💛

[Dis]

3 hours ago, poppyfields said:

Hey Dis, was just thinking of you, did you have your date last night?    Inquiring minds!

If so, hope it went well! 💛

Ahhh! Yes and I did and it was possibly the best date I've ever had!!!! ☺️

 

We went back to that sushi place because I couldn't have drinks or sushi last time because of my stomach and I wanted to try it. He waited for me out in the parking lot, he was early...brownie points already. We walked inside and he said, "you look fantastic" awww love it when guys tell me that....seems like a simple thing but some guys don't say it. I usually spend all day getting ready for dates. I love to make a day out of it, getting all pretty. So it was nice that he said that. He ended up talking for 5 hours and eventually moving to the bar because the restaurant was closing. We talked about everything. Even talked about some very deep topics like issues with family...I guess he's has difficulties with his too. It was nice because he was so non-judgemental and open and we related to each other so well. I missed having a deep connection with a guy...my last two exs didn't have much depth to them. He was funny and deep and has this shine to his eyes when he flirts with me. Throughout the date we had some sexual jokes inserted here and there and the sexual tension was definitely present but not overly so. 

 

He seems to have a very level head about him. We talked about what we want, how we like to date. We seem to be on the same page about everything. He even said he likes to move at a slow, steady pace because if there's too much texting and seeing each other things tend to fizzle out. I agree with that and glad he's taking that approach with me. 

 

At the end of the date we had to walk down a steep hill to get to our cars and I of course was wearing 5" stilettos so he walked in front of me and walked backwards to spot me. It was so cute. Then he walked me to my car and just pulled me in and kissed me...for a long time. He was very passionate and I love that. My ex was a wonderful man but not passionate. I missed that in a man. Where he put his hands was perfect, on my waist, in my hair, holding my face from the side. It was sooooo yummy. He didn't want to let me go so I have to pry myself away from him 🤣 He said he can't wait to see me without my heels. I'm 5'2 and he seems to love that. He's 5'10 which is the shortest I've dated in awhile but I don't mind it because he's pretty jacked 😆

 

He told me to text him when I got home. When I got home I started to text some friends to tell them how it went and he ended up texting me first to make sure I got home okay. He also lined up another date for Tuesday (I work this weekend) that night. 

 

He's a dream so far 💋💖✨

Edited July 17, 2021 by Dis

[poppyfields]

That's great Dis, I'm glad you like him and had a great time!!

Keep us posted! ❤️

Edited July 17, 2021 by poppyfields

[Miss Spider]

Sooo happy for you 🥰👏🥰

[Dis]

Awww love my girls ☺️

 

xoxo

[Wiseman2]

10 hours ago, Dis said:

He's a dream so far 💋💖✨

Excellent. Enjoy the next date. 

[Gaeta]

That looks really really good Dis !! 🙂  Now you have 4 days of living in anticipation! I love the anticipation feeling! Enjoy it all!

[Dis]

Thanks guys! ☺️

 

Next date is tomorrow night!

 

Ahhhh, we're rolling along! 😍

[Dis]

Okay for an update....

 

Third date went so well! We talked about everything including family issues...I told him how my mom has cancer and it's been a fine line between balancing my boundaries with my family and being supportive. He talked about how when his dad was sick he gave his dad that last phone call and that was that...he did it to support his dad but also to clean his conscious. He told me to do what I needed to do for myself but also not to be a punching bag. That was just sooooo amazing to have someone say that to me. To have someone identify with me and understand what it's like to come from a toxic family and yet come out of it without being too dented up. 

 

I knew he was supposed to go visit his mom last weekend but he said, "I didn't end up going and I knew I could tell you that without being judged". I said, yup. You do you. And he told me the same. It was such a validating moment for both of us. The date ended with a long, handsy kiss goodnight.... 💋

 

Next date is the casino on Saturday!!!! Already got a scantly low cut top and leather leggings 😄 It is the casino after all, right?! Also got only 3 inch heels which I think he's going to enjoy...every time we kiss goodnight he says...can't wait until I see you at 5'2 🤣 Well...I'll be at 5'5! 

 

Can't wait! 😍

Edited July 22, 2021 by Dis

[Trail Blazer]

It's always an exciting time when you meet someone really great.  Those first few dates really make you feel alive.  Your choice of attire speaks clearly of how you wish the night to end.  Have an enjoyable evening! 😁

[Dis]

We went to the casino for the 4th date

 

My outfit was amazing and it turned out to be such a fun time...but, I couldn't help thinking I didn't really feel close to him or connected with him. He was all over me. Had his hands on my legs when we sat down, on my back when we walked. But I still felt like there was some kind of barrier there. 

 

He paid for everything. Our fancy dinner. He won a good deal of money at blackjack and then gave me that money to gamble while he sat next to me. It was so fun. He kept hinting that he would go back to my place after and I said, okay but did tell him I wasn't ready to have sex or anything like that. 

 

So we get to my place and he starts kissing me and omg, he was such a bad kisser!!! Omg it was allll tongue and it was so gross. We hooked up a little. He has kiss hands down my pants but that was it. And the whole time I was trying to dodge his tongue. Yuck. I didn't enjoy it at all. He left and the first thing I did was rinse out my mouth with Listerine. 

 

From then on I kept getting more and more turned off and besides the dreaded tongue I couldn't figure out why. I planned on calling things off. Then I remembered....when he has days off his location changes from him house which is 5 miles away to 15 miles....like clockwork. I always thought it was strange. I know tinder doesn't always give an accurate location but still...

 

So I did some asking around and yeap, seems very sketchy not just to me but to my friends who have also used tinder....which I'm not sad about  because I've been turned off for awhile. But point is, my gut doesn't lie to me. When I start to get turned off or get anxious...in this case, turned off.... my gut is trying to tell me something as evidenced by my past threads. I'm not saying he's definitely seeing someone else but...from the way I'm getting turned off like this...I wouldn't be surprised if he was 

 

Next time we talk I'll call it off. Honestly feels nice to catch this so early....wasn't feeling to red beard and bald head all along 🤣 Miss me some dark haired men 

[Alpacalia]

A cringe-y ginge-y, who knew?

🤣

 

[Gaeta]

I'm glad you're listenning to that little voice, there will be plenty of new interesting men coming your way. 

I don't understand how a man can be a bad kisser this late in his life! I'd understand a 16 yo doesn't know how to kiss but a grown man! geez. These men had women in their life previous to us.