Trevor M Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 I met a girl and we instantly connected. We both fell hard for eachother. We had similar values,goals, dreams. We drove across the country together and we were very happy. She was working on the east coast where we had driven to. I had to fly back to the west coast for my own job and she was going to come to me when her contract was over in 3 months. There was so much love when I left. Two weeks into long distance relationship she told me she was putting up boundaries and wanted zero contact with me. There was nothing leading up to this to give it any reason. It took me by surprise. She immediately blocked communications. I reacted by trying to make contact to understand what was going on. Normally I would respect boundaries but I just couldn't. The boundary was extreme and to me meant losing the love of my life. Eventually I got through to her and we decided to keep contact extremely light and that little win really brought me out of the depression I was in. But the next morning I woke up to her text saying my making contact with her was harassment and again she wants nothing to do with me. It's just crazy to me because we were so in love. The girl I left on the east coast would never do this and I'm so heartbroken it's really hard to deal with this. I want to say I've thought a lot on this obviously. Our relationship was open and we had always been very honest and trusting with each other. There are past traumas involved and she has PTSD. I don't want to push too hard but I can't give up either. Any advice? We are both deeply spiritual and I have been working on loving and valuing myself. It just seems so wrong this whole thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 23 minutes ago, Trevor M said: We drove across the country together and we were very happy. . Two weeks into long distance relationship she told me she was putting up boundaries and wanted zero contact with me. . the next morning I woke up to her text saying my making contact with her was harassment and again she wants nothing to do with me. Sorry this happened. How long did you know her before this trip? How well do you know her? About her friends, family etc? Have you met any of them? Does she have drug or mental health problems? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Trevor M Posted July 8, 2021 Author Share Posted July 8, 2021 Only about a year but we both felt like we always knew eachother you know. Yes I met her family and friends she met mine. We're both in recovery and attend meetings. She has two years sober I have three. I know what it looks like from the outside and can rationalize it to make sense. It just hurts. I love her. If it's meant to be maybe we'll find ourselves together again later in life idk. How quickly things can change kills me. I'm more of an empath and shes kind of the opposite. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 8, 2021 Share Posted July 8, 2021 Just now, Trevor M said: She has two years sober I have three. Unfortunately this sudden and extreme 180 may mean she relapsed. Link to post Share on other sites
Alfano Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 She clearly wants no contact with you. Just freaking leave her alone already. It's not always about what you want, especially when it's about respecting the rights and wishes of another individual. Link to post Share on other sites
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