robaday Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 I am taking a really long time getting over someone and I'm at a loss as a great deal of time has past since we broke up. I have cut all ties and there has been no contact for many months now, but I am still filled with anxiety thinking about her. I don't even want her back, just I have some kind of issue with accepting it is over. I haven't begged or contacted her and we ended things amicably so she is not aware I am struggling with the breakup as much as I am. I am in counselling which is helping. And have been moving forward with my life, dating others and spending time doing hobbies I love. But it's still there and I feel I should be over it by now. I was like this with my first long term ex, we were only together a short time but it took me twice as long to get over her as we actually dated. Wondering if I have some issues around attachment or whether I just love really deeply and it takes me longer to get over people than normal. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Assuming at least part of the break up or at least your attempts to get over her is happening during Covid & the various lock downs, this is a strange & isolating time to do anything. It's like the whole world is depressed & we are all struggling to cope. Factor that into what you are feeling & cut yourself a break. Meanwhile resume an old hobby or take up a new one is a good plan. Glad you have been doing that. Staying busy is helpful. Maybe take a break from dating but spend time with friends & family so you have a social life. Volunteer somewhere. Believe it or not, helping others is a great balm for the soul. It gives a sense of purpose Link to post Share on other sites
Ithurts17 Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 Hey just thought I would hit you with some kind words firstly I’m female and yeah loads of texts etc possibly won’t work, think you have to know when to fight and wen to walk away It is normal the morning texts night texts all going away which is enough to upset anyone. i played eamond f it song torn Natalie all them kind of sad songs told myself to let out a cry and I just danced and laughed and realised anyone who don’t want to be in my life is not needed or wanted! once them butterflies turn to headache into nothing your very close keep going and priorities yourself x Link to post Share on other sites
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