Manaya Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) So a couple of days ago, my boyfriend (M 22) and I (F 22) decided that we would take a week to decide if this is something we both want. This decision is mostly from his side because I'm sure about my relationship. We don't fight a lot but I guess he says that he has a 'bad gut feeling' about some stuff and that there's some stuff from my past he cant get over even though all that stuff from my past is left in my past and I've made that very clear to him, but i guess there are things that he cant get past, which i understand might've been difficult if that was still a part of me but its really not. But anyways, we said we would take a week and figure it out. Theres 3 more days left till we meet and talk about it. But during this week, we've been talking everyday like normal. We met up for around 2 hours yesterday, and it was really chill.He asked me to meet again one day before we're supposed to talk about everything just to hang out and have lunch but I'm busy that. But what i don't understand is, does this look like he's going to end things? Even our short meeting, he asked to meet, and this next one, he wanted to meet. Is this just another way of saying "i don't want to break up" or will he end things when we meet?Im super confused and I just need a sense of which direction it is going Edited July 9, 2021 by Manaya Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) 6 hours ago, Manaya said: he wanted to meet. How long have you been dating? How are you "taking a break to think about it" if you're talking daily and still meeting up for dates? Is he seeing others and going back and forth? Beating you up for a past you can't change is nonsense. Edited July 10, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Quoted text Link to post Share on other sites
Author Manaya Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: How long have you been dating? Is he seeing others and going back and forth? Beating you up for a past you can't change is nonsense. We've been together for over 6 months. No hes not seeing others, we were exclusive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Manaya Posted July 9, 2021 Author Share Posted July 9, 2021 2 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: How long have you been dating? How are you "taking a break to think about it" if you're talking daily and still meeting up for dates? Is he seeing others and going back and forth? Beating you up for a past you can't change is nonsense. Thats what i dont understand. This taking a week to think about it idea was from him, but hes completely normal and everything. Is that a good sign? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 9, 2021 Share Posted July 9, 2021 (edited) 6 hours ago, Manaya said: We've been together for over 6 months. No hes not seeing others, we were exclusive. Why be with someone who has one foot out the door and is blaming you for your past? [] Edited July 10, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Off topic 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 16 hours ago, Manaya said: This taking a week to think about it idea was from him, but hes completely normal and everything. Is that a good sign? Not necessarily. It means he's not really taking this seriously, not really "thinking" about what he said he needed time to think about, and it indicates you'll just be there to play girlfriend when it's convenient for him. 17 hours ago, Manaya said: he has a 'bad gut feeling' about some stuff and that there's some stuff from my past he cant get over What is this bad stuff he is refering to? Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 If he has suggested time out to 'think about things', personally I would assume this is a break up. I would not give him the chance to think about things; I would end it. But, it is of course up to you what you do. He still seems to want your company. I would not meet him; I would tell him he wanted to think about things away from me. Meeting him seems to me like letting him pull your strings. I know you want him and like him but prepare yourself for him ending this. Either that or you could end it yourself. Otherwise, you are in the waiting position where he has all the power, the power over whether he wants to continue with you or not. Are you prepare to leave that power in his hands? I hope it works out well for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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