mortensorchid Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 I went out for a bit last night, it was art walk night in the city and I hadn't been out around people in a very long time. So I went out for a bit, it was good to be around others again. I did the usual lap around the neighborhood, had some pizza, then I went back to the first gallery where I started (because I had parked the car near there). And I saw this guy I had a date with about two years ago. He met me on Facebook, somehow we got to talking. He was clearly looking for sex when we met, he asked me to go back to his place with him after we ate when we met. I turned him down for the sake of safety. I got home, I texted him that I was home and I had a good time, thank you. He said the same. And I never heard from him again after that. A month or so later I sent an IM to him through Facebook just saying "Hello how are you?", no response. Done. He didn't unfriend me at any point. I saw him there outside. We made eye contact, I said "Hi how are you?" silently and so did he. He was out with this other woman, they left together. Another dead end but life goes on. Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 6 minutes ago, mortensorchid said: He was out with this other woman, they left together. Maybe "this other woman" went home with him (early in dating) and he enjoyed himself. Who knows?? Many years ago, I went out with this woman (first date - dinner at nice restaurant) and she was OK, but I wasn't going to ask her out again. We ended up having sex and it was mind blowing, which changed my mind about asking her out again. After I got to know her better, she turned out to be a great person and we dated quite a while (until I moved, again). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 10, 2021 Share Posted July 10, 2021 Quote He was out with this other woman, they left together. You sound as if you expected him to ditch her because he saw you. Perhaps she was a more delightful person who's sorted her expectation baggage already. At the end of the day, the common denominator in these repeated experiences is you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mortensorchid Posted July 11, 2021 Author Share Posted July 11, 2021 (edited) 9 hours ago, kendahke said: You sound as if you expected him to ditch her because he saw you. Perhaps she was a more delightful person who's sorted her expectation baggage already. At the end of the day, the common denominator in these repeated experiences is you. I turned him down for the sake of safety. I didn't know this guy and I have class. [ ] As to if I expected him to see me and change his mind? No not really. It was an awkward situation to be in, to be sure, but it was just another encounter. Edited July 11, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator language 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 (edited) 9 hours ago, kendahke said: You sound as if you expected him to ditch her because he saw you. Perhaps she was a more delightful person who's sorted her expectation baggage already. At the end of the day, the common denominator in these repeated experiences is you. Fail to see how it's her fault in the least. She wasn't comfortable having sex with this "winner" right away so he ditched her. Would the end result be different if she actually went to his house and slept with him? Maybe or maybe not. There is no guarantee that he would not ghosted her after the sex anyway. Sounds like the type of guy who would. Mortensorchid, you possibly dodged a bullet there. He proved that he was looking for sex and sex alone. Obviously he had zero respect for you and your feelings. I don't get why are you upset about that one? Surely you didn't expect him to remain single till the end of times. So you saw him with some other woman. So what? Big deal. Let them have each other (I don't mean it in a good or a bad way). Edited July 11, 2021 by Alvi 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 You’re not compatible. Don’t worry yourself over this please. It’s a mismatch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 What did this other woman look like?? Was she taller, shorter, thinner, blonde?? Was she a girly-girl?? Compare/contrast yourself to this other woman. Maybe this guy just prefers something about this other woman, that you weren't (or didn't have)... Years ago, I worked with this very nice guy. He was quite tall 6' 4", muscular build, made good money, nice personality, etc. He preferred the tiniest Asian women he could find. He would pass on any blonde hottie that came his way. He just liked very petite Asian women, this is what made him happy, so that is who he dated and eventually married. Different strokes for different folks. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 11, 2021 Share Posted July 11, 2021 that was two years ago....things change for some. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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