deajona Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 Hey guys! I hope you can give me an advice. My boyfriend dumped me 7-8 months ago. I deactivated my social media accounts and after 4-5 months after breakup activated them again. I don't have him on my social media since we broke up but I have two of his friends. I want to remove them, because I know they are going to post pictures with him or his new girlfriend (when he has one, because that is what they did with me too) and I don't want to hurt myself by seeing this. I truly loved him and I am not fully healed yet and ready to see these stuff. But wouldn't I look weired if I remove them? I mean they did nothing to me and it is not their fault. I was talking about this with a friend of mine and she said that when she broke up and removed his friends, once she came across one of them and asked her why did she remove her because she did nothing to her and my friend didn't want to tell her that she didn't want to see her ex boyfriend or what is going on with their life etc and she was stuck. Should I remove them? And what should I say if I come across one of them and the same situation as my friend happens to me? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 Yes you should remove his friends. Your only connection to them was him & he's gone No need to keep them. It won't look weird so don't even worry about that. Also make sure you actually block the EX. That will cut down on things you see about him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 (edited) Your friend is not stuck. Please do not give in to other people's whimsies and fancies like this. Your friend can remove anyone she wishes. And so can you. Best not to worry too much about what these people think since they're no longer a part of your life. I know this is confusing because they're people you once knew. Be firm with yourself and move on. You deserve that. Edited July 14, 2021 by glows 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author deajona Posted July 14, 2021 Author Share Posted July 14, 2021 18 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Yes you should remove his friends. Your only connection to them was him & he's gone No need to keep them. It won't look weird so don't even worry about that. Also make sure you actually block the EX. That will cut down on things you see about him. He ows me some money so I don't know if I should block him. I don't know if he is ever gonna give it back, he said that he will... but I am not sure though Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 Unless you have a writing signed by him promising to pay the money back kiss it good bye. If you try to sue him he will claim it was a gift. Absent a signed writing you can't prove otherwise. Blocking him on social media will have zero effect on him paying you back. If he hasn't paid you back by now -- 8 months after the break up & you didn't specify how long since you loaned it to him -- he's not going to There is a life lesson in here. Don't loan money you can't afford to not get back. Always think of it as a gift. If you can't do that don't loan it. If you must loan money, treat it like a transaction & get a writing signed by the borrower. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 1 hour ago, deajona said: I want to remove them. Should I remove them? Absolutely. After a breakup delete him and ALL his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. Also reset your privacy setting so only people you want can view or content and contact you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 33 minutes ago, deajona said: He ows me some money so I don't know if I should block him. I don't know if he is ever gonna give it back, he said that he will... but I am not sure though Write it off. You may not want to think this but it's also subconsciously you holding on to the idea of him and wanting that relationship back or hoping that he still has feelings for you. Do what you can to put your best foot forward. It doesn't matter how much he owes you. Your time and your peace of mind are priceless. Think of it that way. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, deajona said: she said that when she broke up and removed his friends, once she came across one of them and asked her why did she remove her because she did nothing to her and my friend didn't want to tell her that she didn't want to see her ex boyfriend or what is going on with their life etc and she was stuck. Should I remove them? And what should I say if I come across one of them and the same situation as my friend happens to me? Yes you should remove them. There is no reason to hang on if you were never close with them anyway. I think your friend should have been honest and told her the truth. "I no longer want to see my ex and because you are his friend that might happen." You'd be surprised but they won't care. They are his friends. Edited July 14, 2021 by stillafool 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 42 minutes ago, deajona said: He ows me some money so I don't know if I should block him. I don't know if he is ever gonna give it back, he said that he will... but I am not sure though 1 hour ago, deajona said: My boyfriend dumped me 7-8 months ago. If he hasn't paid you after dumping you 8 months ago you can kiss that money good bye. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted July 14, 2021 Share Posted July 14, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, deajona said: Should I remove them? And what should I say if I come across one of them and the same situation as my friend happens to me? Yes, you should remove them. There's no point in keeping a window into his life. Don't worry about what to say if you run into one of them, this is for you to heal and move on, and you don't really need to explain that to anyone. Edited July 14, 2021 by Alpaca 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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