Is there anyone tried it or anything similar that worked for them?

[sarah003]

My husband and I have been married for quite a few years and things lately have gotten a little stale; we both work a lot and there doesn't seem to be a lot of passion left between us. I am looking for something we can do together to get us back to where we used to be. I was thinking of couples counseling but I don't know that it is too serious. We talked about having someone join us but I am honestly too worried that will damage the relationship, as we're both kind of jealous people lol.

I was asking him to try this game called Halos and Sins. I tried this and looks like it could help. I have some gameplay screenshots you might be interested in watching, lmk! 

Is there anyone tried it or anything similar that worked for them? 

Any and all suggestions appreciated!*

[Wiseman2]

41 minutes ago, sarah003 said:

We talked about having someone join us but I am honestly too worried that will damage the relationship

I was asking him to try this game called Halos and Sins.

Frankly you need to build in some romance and get out of your rut. Go out. Get fit. Join some groups and clubs. Take up a sport or interest together. Bringing someone else into a dull marriage will further erode things. Not one for cheesy apps but , whatever. 

[mark clemson]

Strong passion isn't actually normal in a LTR, although it can be replaced by other things. LT love is "familial".

That doesn't have to be bad (at all). Sure, talk to an experienced sex therapist and see what you can do to "spice things up". Perhaps try some light BDSM (that you BOTH like + with any necessary precautions) or role plays or new environments (without undue risk, e.g. in public). No doubt a sex therapist could give you some ideas AND probably work on other things like "connection".

Keep in mind that sex 1/week is apparently "average" in a true LTR. While I suspect that's a multi-modal average, if you're doing it twice/week you're apparently twice as frisky as "average" (for a LTR). And it's true that the partner is a "known quantity" and so won't turn you on like "new love" does, your brain responds differently. BUT they're also the person you're sharing your life with, so very special in that way + they know what you like, etc.

At any rate, keep expectations reasonable. LTRs are different from new love and there's really little way around it.

Edited July 16, 2021 by mark clemson

[d0nnivain]

Counseling isn't going to get this done.  You have to do things that rev each other's motors.  Take a weekend away.  Get some new sheets & new lingerie.  Give each other massages.  Send flirty (or dirty) texts.  

[Caauug]

19 hours ago, sarah003 said:

We talked about having someone join us but I am honestly too worried that will damage the relationship

Not your suggestion to spice things up??? For most couples.... 3 is a crowd, stick with that!!!

Remember, things can not be undone, you can not turn back time..... 

Think back on what made it exciting, ask your husband the same.... Try the same again.

Try Kegele exercises, and your husband...