Seeing your ex with someone newv

[Fliplid89]

Well... Its been 5 weeks since me and my ex broke up after 2.5 years. In my previous post I explained how he'd cut me off, blocked, deleted me whilst going through the darkest time of my life. Things weren't working for sometime but the love never faded. Recently I've seen him with his new partner. A mutual friend told me that they now have a profile picture together on social media yet he's still kept the previous photos of us two together. It hurt so much. I can't get my head around how someone who 'loved' you can move on in a matter of weeks without you crossing their mind. Everytime I think about it, it kills me. I'm blocked on everything which is positive really but I feel physically sick and down after realising he's moved on so much. We never had a picture together yet in weeks his new partner is pride of place on his social media pages. I called a lot to save our relationship after I was blocked. This was stupid behaviour but I loved this person with all my heart. I've not felt this way before. It kills me. He knows my father is terminally ill, and helped me with him. He knew I had huge career changes which I messed up the interviews because he walked out on me and left me. I couldn't focus or think of anything else. This guy has completely broken me. I've not made contact for weeks nor do I intend to again as this would be harassment after being blocked but I just wish he understood how much he's actually hurt me. This is something I haven't deserved. I really hope things improve for me. I can't put into words how much I'm hurting. 

[d0nnivain]

He hasn't completely broken you.  He's just hurt you deeply. You are stronger than you know.  

Concentrate on your father.  A new career opportunity will arise later but your time with your father is precious now.  

Do your best to heal from the break up but you have to keep putting one foot in front of the other.   Tell the well meaning friend who updates you about your EXs social media that you no longer want to be told.  Besides, why is your friend still friends with your EX?  they need to severe that relationship out of loyalty to you  

[kendahke]

 I'm very sorry about your father's health and the job interview.

8 hours ago, Fliplid89 said:

I can't get my head around how someone who 'loved' you can move on in a matter of weeks without you crossing their mind.

Because he's been checked out of your relationship for far longer than you knew.. You were just the last to know.  He's been pretending (aka: lying) in your face. This has nothing to do with you--you didn't drop any ball. He made a decision to begin a relationship with this new chick behind your back... but understand this: she's rebound girl.  Rebound relationships, vexing as they are to the one who was dumped, never last.. however, that doesn't mean he's coming back to you when that's over.  Proceed in your life as if he got got by Delta.

There's no evidence that you haven't crossed his mind--you dont' reside in his head and can't speak to that.  I'll bet he has, but thinking about you isn't going to translate into him taking action in your direction.

I've been through this myself.  If he didn't come back after 2 weeks, he's gone. No amount of debasing yourself is going to change that. It rather re-affirms their decision to leave when you do that, trust me... and they don't deserve to see your sorrow on display.

I agree somewhat with Donn...  that mutual friend of yours? They're actually your ex's friend, not yours. You need to develop your own circle of friends whose loyalty is to you first, not try to get your ex's friends to do that. You no longer need to know what's going on with him. Remove them and anyone else who is loyal to him out of your life for the time being.  You have too many feelings to sort first before they can be allowed an audience.