Did I mess my first opportunity for sex?

[lilyg]

I told this girl that I hang out with regularly that  I have a balcony in my room and she got so excited and said she loves balconies and wanted to see it and I said you can see it after I clean my room. My room is so messy you don't even get it I literally had a collection of fast food from weeks ago and my toilet is not even bleached since I was staying over at my friend house and I had clothes all over the place etc. No way could i let any girl in that room it would be such a turn off.  Normally I'm always clean but due to exams and report I couldn't keep up with cleaning my room. 

After I told her this she got so defensive and give me a dirty look and said why would I come to your room I meant I wanted to look at the balcony from the outside. Ngl this hurt my feelings. My friends said that she was trying to imply  sex  and she got upset/defensive because it was almost like I was rejecting her. I don't agree with them because I don't feel like I rejected her I told her she could come after it was clean and tbh even if she did come to my room I still feel like she would just be there for the balcony and not necessary for sex. What do you guys think? Did I mess up my first chance for sex?  

[glows]

It’s a misunderstanding. Your friends are making things worse.

If you see her again and want to smooth things over, do the mature thing and talk to her or apologize for the misunderstanding. It’s very silly to let any issue or awkwardness stand if you both hang out regularly. 

If you sense that she’s snarky, disingenuous or rude to you why would you even want to go near her or have sex with someone like that? Let this blow over.

[Wiseman2]

4 hours ago, lilyg said:

 why would I come to your room I meant I wanted to look at the balcony from the outside. 

You didn't really miss anything because she wasn't interested.

Unfortunately she took offense because  the interpretation was that you were suggesting hooking up.

 

Edited July 20, 2021 by Wiseman2

[smackie9]

Mom talk...Let this be a lesson to stop being a slob or you will miss opportunities like this again. First impressions count. Keep your room clean, sheets washed, plug in an air freshener. Always clean up after yourself, don't wait for things to pile up. If possible do a little decor on that balcony... like a string of lights a couple of chairs or pillows to sit on. That will get you laid all daylong and all night.

No time? Pay a girl to come in. Uni there's lots of ladies that will want to make 30 bucks for a couple of hours cleaning.

Edited July 20, 2021 by smackie9

[stillafool]

If I asked to see someone's balcony I would expect also to see it from the exterior.  You can' really see the whole thing standing on it.  I'd want to see how it looks on the home.

[mark clemson]

On 7/19/2021 at 6:01 PM, lilyg said:

After I told her this she got so defensive and give me a dirty look and said why would I come to your room I meant I wanted to look at the balcony from the outside. Ngl this hurt my feelings. My friends said that she was trying to imply  sex  and she got upset/defensive because it was almost like I was rejecting her. I don't agree with them because I don't feel like I rejected her I told her she could come after it was clean and tbh even if she did come to my room I still feel like she would just be there for the balcony and not necessary for sex. What do you guys think? Did I mess up my first chance for sex?  

One thing I've learned in life is DON'T fret over some emotional "conniptions" if they don't amount to anything in the scheme of things. People generally, and women in particular, tend to be emotional creatures and can briefly freak out for all sorts of reasons that have little importance. Keep your cool, continue to be friendly and see if this blows over with her. DON'T expect much out of this particular girl. Look elsewhere for a GF and do not succumb to emotional "games" based on the lure of potential sex. "One in the hand is worth two in the bush."