Seabreeze1 Posted July 20, 2021 Share Posted July 20, 2021 I met a girl online 6 months ago who I have since become great friends with. At some point I developed a crush on her friend. I always suspected the original girl always liked me I just didn’t see her that way (might be relevant to the story). Well, a while back, the two girls had a brief falling out so I reached out to the girl I was interested in during that time and we hung out a few times. The third and last time I hung out with this girl 1 on 1, is when I found out they had since made up. I thought this girl might’ve been interested in me too so I went for a kiss that night but was given the cheek- but it wasn’t weird or awkward. At some point during all of this, this girl and I both decided it wasn’t worth mentioning to our friend because we knew how she’d get. Of course, this girl did suspect we were hanging out somehow and had questioned me about it a couple of times and both times I denied it. I just didn’t want any problems. But where I messed up was I did try 2 more times to hang out with this girl and I guess she felt she was put in a tough position as she didn’t want to go behind our friends back and wound up confessing to hanging out with me. My friend told me she knew so I then owned up to it, told her my side of it and apologized for lying to her about it, and her response (immaturely) was to screen shot the convo (Snapchat) and block me on all social media. I don’t believe she blocked my number but she hasn’t responded to me asking if we can talk. So this girl is no longer talking to me or the other girl from what I gathered. I didn’t mean to hurt my friend and lose her trust in me by lying, I just got caught up in the other girl and I knew my friend wouldn’t have been ok with it as I suspect she always had some sort of interest in me. I feel bad for hurting my friend and I guess she took it to this extreme because of her feelings for me? I just hope one day we can all talk about this like adults and work on becoming friends again. If anyone has had a similar situation or just thoughts on this in general, please leave a comment. Thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 20, 2021 Share Posted July 20, 2021 It was probably in bad taste to try to date her friend knowing this person has feelings for you and then lie about it. Yes, you’re most likely right that her ego is bruised. Just avoid triangles like this in future. Ideally, all of you as individuals should have been mature enough to date whomever you want to date but that’s not what happened here. Your friend isn’t really a friend after all if she can’t be happy for you, can she? Treat this as a lesson only and take it with a pinch of salt. I’d leave those two and go out and meet other women. If your friend wants to approach you again that’s up to her but I wouldn’t consider her or her circle of friends date/romance material. Keep your distance that way and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 20, 2021 Share Posted July 20, 2021 45 minutes ago, Seabreeze1 said: .My friend told me she knew so I then owned up to it, told her my side of it and apologized for lying to her about it, and her response was to block me on all social media. You need to broaden your horizons when it comes to friends and dating. She did the right thing because you played these two, lied and weren't a good friend. Date outside your group of friends and don't come on to friends. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 20, 2021 Share Posted July 20, 2021 You should have been honest with your friend that you were interested in the other girl and asked if she minded if you ask her out. That way everything would have been upfront and honest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CarouselGoRound Posted July 25, 2021 Share Posted July 25, 2021 Yeah it seems you made the wrong choice Link to post Share on other sites
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