Is my dad getting mad at me for no big deal or is he justified?

[Hokuto]

I am 23 and yesterday, we had a family outing and brought food there and some back home. In one bag, I took food but forgot to put it in the kitchen and the bag stayed in the room I am staying in overnight. This morning my dad came to the room, saw the bag and I remembered I forgot to do it and when I picked up, it spilled a little sauce on the ground. Well, my dad got really upset/out of shape and I felt he was controlling himself not to explode and he was like giving me a serious lecture like "how can you stuff at your age, like think, do you think its natural" and looked at me like really upset. TBH, I can't help but feel he's overreacting as I cleaned it up in less than a minute and place is spotless and I think its no big deal in the long run. What do you think?

[d0nnivain]

Do you have a habit of being irresponsible?  If so this latest event where you didn't put the food in the 'fridge was kind of a last straw.  

Otherwise it does sound like a bit of an over-reaction but it also appears to come from a place of caring.  He wants you to be a grown up responsible person. 

[Alpacalia]

Normally, just taking the question at face value, I would say no.

Is your father dealing with a lot of stress?

Sit down with him and have a conversation. You're perplexed with his reaction, and you're concerned.

[jspice]

4 hours ago, Hokuto said:

I am 23 and yesterday, we had a family outing and brought food there and some back home. In one bag, I took food but forgot to put it in the kitchen and the bag stayed in the room I am staying in overnight. This morning my dad came to the room, saw the bag and I remembered I forgot to do it and when I picked up, it spilled a little sauce on the ground. Well, my dad got really upset/out of shape and I felt he was controlling himself not to explode and he was like giving me a serious lecture like "how can you stuff at your age, like think, do you think its natural" and looked at me like really upset. TBH, I can't help but feel he's overreacting as I cleaned it up in less than a minute and place is spotless and I think its no big deal in the long run. What do you think?

You’re always “forgetting” and then you say the other party is “overreacting “.

 

if I lived with you I would get pissed off too. Going by your other posts, you father has probably been dealing with you for years and has had enough. 

[Wiseman2]

5 hours ago, Hokuto said:

 he was like giving me a serious lecture like "how can you stuff at your age, like think, do you think its natural" and looked at me like really upset. 

He got upset and a bit exasperated. That's ok. It will blow over. You seem to be overreacting however.

[glows]

What happens to the food? Is it spoiled or still ok? 

It's not a big deal but try not to make any other messes especially at someone else's place.

[Hokuto]

30 minutes ago, glows said:

What happens to the food? Is it spoiled or still ok? 

It's not a big deal but try not to make any other messes especially at someone else's place.

Its fine 

 

49 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

He got upset and a bit exasperated. That's ok. It will blow over. You seem to be overreacting however.

Looks like it

[jnel921]

My daughter has done this too... a couple of times, but the last time my H blew up on her about it too. Keeping and eating food in the kitchen is the appropriate thing to do. Not walking it to kitchen is straight up laziness.

We have a dog who has raided and opened these type of bags when found in my D's room, and made an even bigger mess and has gotten sick because of it. So I don't think he is overacting. He wants you to be mindful and considerate. He may not want ants or roaches either!

No one should have to clean up anyone else's garbage or have food smell and spoil in any room. Apologize and try not to do it again in his home.

 

[Hokuto]

3 minutes ago, jnel921 said:

My daughter has done this too... a couple of times, but the last time my H blew up on her about it too. Keeping and eating food in the kitchen is the appropriate thing to do. Not walking it to kitchen is straight up laziness.

We have a dog who has raided and opened these type of bags when found in my D's room, and made an even bigger mess and has gotten sick because of it. So I don't think he is overacting. He wants you to be mindful and considerate. He may not want ants or roaches either!

No one should have to clean up anyone else's garbage or have food smell and spoil in any room. Apologize and try not to do it again in his home.

 

Luckily nothing happened but ok