Anyone who can weigh in on the mentality of this cheater who hit on me?

[poppyfields]

Dont disagree it was tacky!  Poor form, absolutely.

Guy also has a gf which adds to tackiness.

But who knows, perhaps your ex put him up to it as some sort of "test" OR more likely he was simply drunk and as such chose to behave like an a-hole.

People do some really stupid shyt when drunk. 

The way I read it, HE started it and you played back.  You didn't "bait" him, wrong word.  

Just having some silly flirty fun, as was he.  💛

 

[poppyfields]

That's one reason why I never date friends of my ex's. 

Friends talk.  Dont think they don't share info about you, cause they do.

I have 5 brothers and have witnessed it. 

And somehow, what you say and do is always gonna get back to the ex, for me would I find that immensely creepy and even violating. 

 

 

[Cookiesandough]

8 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

 

But who knows, perhaps your ex put him up to it as some sort of "test" OR more likely he was simply drunk and as such chose to behave like an a-hole.

 

Thank you for mentioning this. You’re the first person who did but it’s one of the thoughts that I had. Because it was so aggressive from the get-go and he was still trying the next day. I’m not going to lie to you,  I threw away the edibles that he gave me because I had the thought that my ex may have been trying to poison me hahaha . I’m only half-joking about that … 

Also ngl it kind of annoyed me how some twisted the whole scenario around on me. Like, you weren’t there. I didn’t “bait him first” or whatever they’re on about and seriously the stuff about how it’s my responsibility to manage my exes’ emotions. Like it’s inconsiderate for me to date others after I move on. Are you serious 🧐 i’m too for you people I guess you must go to church

Edited July 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Cookiesandough]

1 minute ago, poppyfields said:

That's one reason why I never date friends of my ex's. 

Friends talk.  Dont think they don't share info about you, cause they do.

I have 5 brothers and have witnessed it. 

And somehow, what you say and do is always gonna get back to the ex, for me would I find that immensely creepy and even violating. 

 

 

I dated a ex’s friend quite seriously ( this ex is that ex) and he never told him anything while we were in the rship, but it was srs relationship from the get go( he proposed after a year and 1/2)  but  generally that may be true 

[poppyfields]

13 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said:

Thank you for mentioning this. You’re the first person who did but it’s one of the thoughts that I had. Because it was so aggressive from the get-go and he was still trying the next day. I’m not going to lie to you,  I threw away the edibles that he gave me because I had the thought that my ex may have been trying to poison me hahaha . I’m only half-joking about that … 

Also ngl it kind of annoyed me how some twisted the whole scenario around on me. Like, you weren’t there. I didn’t “bait him first” or whatever they’re on about and seriously the stuff about how it’s my responsibility to manage my exes’ emotions. Like it’s inconsiderate for me to date others after I move on. Are you serious 🧐 

Yeah again, I didn't see it as you "baiting" him either, HE started it!  

Not sure how others could have read it that way, but perceptions are powerful and if someone "perceives" you in a certain way, that perception will carry over to everything you do...

I've experienced it myself!  In the outside world mostly but on forums like LS as well.

It's extremely difficult to change someone's perception once it's formed, I don't even try anymore.  

Cookies, you're good in my book.  A young single woman trying to navigate the scene.

You've made mistakes, made some questionable choices as we ALL have! 

We live, we learn, we grow, we evolve.  That's all we can do, it's all a journey. 😅

Edited July 31, 2021 by poppyfields

[Cookiesandough]

Thank you. Like 2 pages dedicated to how it’s my fault for starting it. Please  explain to me how I “started” anything“? Finished it, maybe. How I’m some man stealing h*e lol 

I went to buy the stuff, he told me that he would give it but he needed to talk about some stuff about my ex boyfriend, he’s got some important stuff to say,  and asked if he could buy me a drink. I said yes because I was curious, ran to the restroom and when  got back it was complete Creepville.  He said “the bartender said I was lucky to be here with you” I laughed it off.  started ranting about his rship continued to laugh it off. I asked about how my ex was and he said he’s hurt what do I keep doing to these guys, I laughed it off. I’m thinking the whole time just give me my stuff. It’s only been about 20 minutes though. Then he says that he has an open rship that’s crappy and wants to take me to dinner at this local restaurant I suggested one time back when I was with my ex. I said Um okay, sure, you know my ex wouldn’t like that. He said yeah I know that is the problem. Then I started trolling him, but by then he deserved it for trolling me. Sorry. 
 

I didn’t describe the whole situation because it would be enough to say I didn’t start anything but apparently it wasn’t. Ya’ll amuse me. 
 

Got the stuff for free though, that’s all that matters at the end of the day

Edited July 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Cookiesandough]

Ty poppy. Exactly, it’s harmless fun. Glad someone else can appreciate the simpler amusements in life

[jspice]

Nobody said you started it. But you egged him on. 
If that guy were here he would be chewed out for the scumbag he is. But he’s not posting here. You are. And people go by what you write. 
 

Do what you want. I’m sure other posters would love to entertain your harmless flirting in future. 
 

You didn’t get the opinions you wanted so now you’re playing the victim. If I wanted someone to gaslight me I’d go call one of my exes 🤣

Take care 😐

[Cookiesandough]

1 hour ago, jspice said:

Nobody said you started it. 

Are you even serious right now lol 

On 7/25/2021 at 5:50 PM, basil67 said:

He didn't really get bold until you invited it. 

 

On 7/25/2021 at 6:32 PM, basil67 said:

He offered the business trip AFTER you started playing games and thoroughly agreed with how silly monogamy was.

 

 

 

 

On 7/26/2021 at 1:17 PM, jspice said:

 

If he was a stand up guy and didn’t take the bait you threw out, what next?

 

16 hours ago, basil67 said:

He said what he did because you made it apparent that you were up for it.

Etc. Not that I am under any illusion that you care about the truth here at this point, but you can’t really blame me for being annoyed at having to correct blatantly false, off topic statements in my thread right. 
 

Yes. I egged him on later. Think I was pretty emphatic about that. Believe it or not, I wasn’t expecting anyone would pat me on the back for it.  It actually could’ve been completely omitted and the thread would’ve stood on its own however, there’s no shame in my game and I found it amusing . 8/10 would do again 

 

You take care too, Jspice. 

Edited July 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Alpacalia]

Cookies, way too much emotional energy spent on your part for an incident that occurred nearly a week ago.

[Cookiesandough]

I’m putting only putting like .01% of my emotional energy setting straight people’s perception/assumption of what I did/ what happened here , alpaca. I’m bored riding down to Chicago with a friend at the moment and have nothing better to do . It’s not that deep 

Edited July 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said:

I’m bored riding down to Chicago with a friend at the moment and have nothing better to do 

Does your friend think he's a creep or a jerk?

[Cookiesandough]

My friend doesn’t know anything about this situation haha. I have a crush on someone I’m meeting up here & I’m going to a show  & party with  so I’m pretty excited 

 

he better like me back because I passed on Vegas for this 

Edited July 31, 2021 by Cookiesandough

[introverted1]

 

19 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

Fair enough. But like I said, that’s not remotely what happened here so I don’t know why it’s being discussed here 

I think because you said this:

On 7/30/2021 at 9:17 PM, Cookiesandough said:

Oh yes and I’ve also “baited” guys with gf who HMU and ask me out/hit on me on social media then send the convo to the gf. Lol , sorry people have such a problem with it, but this me

 

[Alpacalia]

17 hours ago, Cookiesandough said:

I’m putting only putting like .01% of my emotional energy setting straight people’s perception/assumption of what I did/ what happened here , alpaca. I’m bored riding down to Chicago with a friend at the moment and have nothing better to do . It’s not that deep 

Being hit on by a weird dude in a bar should have you running in the opposite direction.

Especially by a purported friend of your ex.

[Cookiesandough]

Thanks xD but why is thread still being bumped. I blocked him awhile ago and people stopped addressing the questions I had on like page 1. This thread can be closed

 

i appreciate all the opinions 😊 I had a blast last night btw!! I love Chicago so much 

Edited August 1, 2021 by Cookiesandough