mortensorchid Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 I'd heard of this It's Just Lunch on and off over the years. Out of curiosity I researched and got a phone call from them earlier. I agreed to talk. I told them of experiences, they asked questions, etc. I asked how much? $2500 - 4500. Forget it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 Hmm? That's an expensive lunch!!!! We've had "just sex" many times, and it has always been free - even with lunch. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 Yeah I think the price point is self filtering. The types of people that can casually drop that kind of money on the possibility that they might find a connection probably would do okay with that type of service. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Blind-Sided Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 What ? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 I thought the company went out of business a while back. Did it get reconstituted? If the price includes a pre-screening process where they do the leg work to find somebody with whom you may be compatible, $2,500 doesn't seem unreasonable especially if you are otherwise having a hard time finding somebody with whom you want to spend time / date. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 They will introduce you to how many men for that price? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 That's ridiculous! And from the other side of it I'm not so sure I'd want to date someone who had to spend $4000 just to find a date. I'm assuming fees continue from there monthly? Yikes. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 For that much, it better just be lunch with Tom hardy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 22 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: That's ridiculous! And from the other side of it I'm not so sure I'd want to date someone who had to spend $4000 just to find a date. I'm assuming fees continue from there monthly? Yikes. It's usually a set fee to meet 3-4 men. Not sure how many. These men are screened like you would never be able to do it yourself, they're interviewed, they have personality tests etc. If a man pays 4K to meet a compatible woman you bet he's not into wasting his time or your time. When they show you a prospect it's because they have established you'd be compatible, you accept or refuse to meet him if you don't find his pictures appealing. Only the men you meet will count as an expense. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Gaeta said: If a man pays 4K to meet a compatible woman you bet he's not into wasting his time or your time. But maybe he’s a weirdo with a lot of money to throw away. I’ve met those. To some people $2500 is nothing. I’d seriously be more concerned with what is it about this man that makes it so hard to find someone that he chooses to this route. Because to be real, 99% of quality, eligible people don’t have to. Red flag Edited July 27, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 13 hours ago, mortensorchid said: I'd heard of this It's Just Lunch on and off over the years. $2500 - 4500. Those concierge matchmaking services are pricey. You can utilize a free promotion on one of the paid dating apps. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 16 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: I’d seriously be more concerned with what is it about this man that makes it so hard to find someone that he chooses to this route. Because to be real, 99% of quality, eligible people don’t have to. Red flag Not always. Take a very busy executive who works 70-90 hours per week & especially somebody in international finance who isn't operating on a domestic 9 - 5 clock. Similarly surgeons or other folks with demanding jobs. That person has the skills but not the time to find a mate & they are most likely protective of their accomplishments so they want a service to screen out gold diggers. The potential downside of dating such a person is that you, the SO, won't be a priority because the person is a work-aholic but they have social skills. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 (edited) 17 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: Not always. Take a very busy executive who works 70-90 hours per week & especially somebody in international finance who isn't operating on a domestic 9 - 5 clock. Similarly surgeons or other folks with demanding jobs. That person has the skills but not the time to find a mate & they are most likely protective of their accomplishments so they want a service to screen out gold diggers. The potential downside of dating such a person is that you, the SO, won't be a priority because the person is a work-aholic but they have social skills. My dad has colleagues who are surgeons and met their wives the “conventional” way . Those two groups of people you mention should have less of a problem finding a good match and more options, provided there’s not something wrong with them, so I don’t know what you mean? If you don’t have time to find a date, you don’t have time to date or be in a relationship. I think it’s very difficult to find someone so busy that they didn’t simply have the time to go on a date, but I’m sure those people wouldn’t be a matchmaker looking for dates if they were in any way normal. It would also be a complete fallacy for them to think gold diggers don’t use matchmakers, so that would make them, not very smart it’s absolutely a red flag to me if a man or woman has to use an expensive matchmaker. Edited July 27, 2021 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 1 minute ago, Cookiesandough said: it’s absolutely a red flag to me if a man or woman has to use a matchmaker. Well you may be out of step with many cultures, religions and traditions around the world who practice this. Hindus, orthodox Jews, southeast Asians, Muslims, etc.. It may not be popular in America, Europe etc, but most of the world doesn't live there. Google it.🙂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 (edited) Lol sorry I fixed it to say expensive matchmake, but yea arranged marriages aren’t a red flag either, they’re such a good idea /sarcasm Edited July 27, 2021 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: But maybe he’s a weirdo with a lot of money to throw away. I’ve met those. To some people $2500 is nothing. I’d seriously be more concerned with what is it about this man that makes it so hard to find someone that he chooses to this route. Because to be real, 99% of quality, eligible people don’t have to. Red flag The weirdos will be identified during the screening process. Not everyone is willing to spend 3 years online and going on 200 dates to find a boyfriendd, the way it happened to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Gaeta said: The weirdos will be identified during the screening process. I wonder how they screen people? I mean, how would they verify some things? Like how would they determine that the guy is not a weirdo? Do they go around asking the exes if this guy had exhibited any strange or weird behavior in and out of a bedroom or something? lol I am curious. Edited July 27, 2021 by Alvi 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alvi Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 In my opinion, this dating service could be a waste of money. They don't give you a 100 percent guarantee that you will most definitely find someone for a long term/marriage. For that amount you could go see a phycologist to talk about your issues. You can also visit a dermatologist and a hairdresser to make yourself look better. You could pamper yourself in a spa And you could join a gym and buy yourself new clothes and shoes. The possibilities are endless. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 1 hour ago, Cookiesandough said: I’d seriously be more concerned with what is it about this man that makes it so hard to find someone that he chooses to this route. Because to be real, 99% of quality, eligible people don’t have to. Red flag 99%? Really? Where on earth are you getting that from? 51 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Lol sorry I fixed it to say expensive matchmake, but yea arranged marriages aren’t a red flag either, they’re such a good idea /sarcasm Arranged marriages can work out pretty well if the matchmakers know what they're doing. Ditto expensive matchmaking services. Problem is it's not always possible to tell ahead of time how good a matchmaker is at their job. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SumGuy Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 15 hours ago, mortensorchid said: I'd heard of this It's Just Lunch on and off over the years. Out of curiosity I researched and got a phone call from them earlier. I agreed to talk. I told them of experiences, they asked questions, etc. I asked how much? $2500 - 4500. Forget it! More like It's Just a Mortgage Payment 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 (edited) 36 minutes ago, Acacia98 said: 99%? Really? Where on earth are you getting that from? Arranged marriages can work out pretty well if the matchmakers know what they're doing. Ditto expensive matchmaking services. Problem is it's not always possible to tell ahead of time how good a matchmaker is at their job. It’s just a colloquial way of saying “the majority” and for the aforementioned reasons. I’d probably change it to all , but I try not to absolutist Not to digress, and not saying that can’t ever work, but any statistics I’ve seen that suggest regressive ideas like arranged marriage “work well”’ don’t account for the psychology behind it and how much of the success rate is determined by “how much stigma we’d face if we divorced “ in those cultures. “ There’s no way for a matchmaker to filter out weirdos , and even less of an incentive for them to if they’re being paid that much. Besides, most people who have to reach out to a 2500 matchmaker to find someone aren’t foaming at the mouth crazies, they’re just not that desirable people with something more subtle but still undeniably wrong with them jmo Edited July 27, 2021 by Cookiesandough Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 14 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: There’s no way for a matchmaker to filter out weirdos , and even less of an incentive for them to if they’re being paid that much. Besides, most people who have to reach out to a 2500 matchmaker to find someone aren’t foaming at the mouth crazies, they’re just not that desirable people with something more subtle but still undeniably wrong with them jmo Judgemental a bit? After 3 years online searching I did consider a matchmaking agency. I assure you I am a smart independant good looking woman who's got everything to please BUT with bad instinct for men. If I had used an agency like this maybe I'd be married intead of starting over - again. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 It's a different strokes for different folks kind of a thing. When I was younger & in the market, picking up a cute guy in a bar was pretty easy for me. Finding a good guy with whom I wanted to have a conversation was more difficult. Finding a well educated guy who I would consider spending the rest of my life with was a much more complicated process. Prior to age 35 I met all my BFs in academic settings so I knew their educational pedigrees. Even with my beloved DH he didn't have the pedigree but he had the industrious. Still there was searching, & effort, & disappointment & annoyance involved. For a mere $2,500 to $4,000 to have somebody else do the work to make sure I was being introduced to the kind of men who matched me in intellect, sense of humor, education & values, it would have been well worth it to me so I didn't have to take my time to weed out the pretty faces without much substance. I was actually interested in It's Just Lunch & would have been happy to pay. They weren't interested in taking me on as a client because I lived & worked too far into the suburbs. They told me they could do a lot for me in NYC proper but not out "in the sticks." There business model was not set up for my geography. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mortensorchid Posted July 27, 2021 Author Share Posted July 27, 2021 I just wanted to explore it and find out what it was all about. But I am not going to do this because it's so expensive. I think EHarmony operates in a similar marketing fashion, but this one doesn't have national advertising. I think I am too weird for anyone anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2021 Share Posted July 27, 2021 4 minutes ago, mortensorchid said: I think EHarmony operates in a similar marketing fashion, but this one doesn't have national advertising. I think I am too weird for anyone anyway. You can sign up for eHarmony for free and use it when they have free promotional trials, like other paid apps. eHarmony is just another dating apps with a lot of questions. Link to post Share on other sites
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