Thomasf Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 She always be talking about me to her boyfriends out of all us grown children I’m like the only one that be buying my younger siblings things for Christmas birthday when I don’t ( cause I be not afford this year) she be telling people I didn’t get nothing for Christmas or birthday for my younger siblings (they have dead beat fathers who don’t come around and she tell me i have no heart) she’s money hungry yet she be popping out so much children with no good fathers on welfare when i had to go home for awhile I was working even over time until 2 am she had me sleep at the airport cause she didn’t want to give me a key or wait up for me to open door (she has no job never works a day in life) when my siblings be in hospital she be guilt tripping me and not my 5 other over age siblings yet my brothers she be helping and give keys to she be treating me like a babysitter for years and have me still run around for my siblings just me me me I’m 29 I have no children and don’t want none 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 35 minutes ago, Thomasf said: Im 29 I have no children Move out and distance yourself from this. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 You are 29 years old & have a job that allows you to work overtime. Get a place of your own. Make a budget. Figure out what you can afford & love your siblings but distance yourself from mom. She's an adult & not your responsibility. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Donnas Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 Dont let her issues makes u not want kids. Sometimes its issues they have with the dad that they take on his kids. Best is to move out and not close by. Like without her behaviour ,29 is like to old to be living at home anyway. Settle there like for a year to get to yourself. Maybe with minimum contact with her that year. And its good you have a serious convo with her once and tell her how you feel and that its hurt you.And how u would like things to be between you guys. And ask her your biggest questions. Rather she respond compassionate or no, at least you let her know. Link to post Share on other sites
Donnas Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 21 minutes ago, Donnas said: Dont let her issues makes u not want kids. Dont know why in your case, but Sometimes its issues the parent had with the dad, that they take it on his kids or the one that looks like him the most. So it doesn't have to be something you did. But its wrong and sad. And unfair to the kids. Best is to move out and not close by. Like without her behaviour ,29 is like to old to be living at home anyway. Settle there living on your own, like for a year to get to yourself. Maybe with minimum contact with her that year. And its good you have a serious convo with her once and tell her how you feel and that its hurt you.And how u would like things to be between you guys. And ask her your biggest questions. Rather she respond compassionate or no, at least you let her know. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 You sound like you will be a great father some day. Don't let her take that away from you. You have to get away from her so she can no longer use you. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 29, 2021 Share Posted July 29, 2021 Yes, of course you are justified but hate has a way of coming back to hurt and damage. The person left with the most lasting effects of hate is you and you don't want to carry that onto all your other relationships. Find a solution and work harder to move on from this emotion. Are you able to move out and find a place of your own? Sometimes it's being in the same vicinity that opens us up to these negative cycles. What would it take to move out? Link to post Share on other sites
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