d0nnivain Posted September 24, 2021 Share Posted September 24, 2021 Like every other married man who promises the mistress he will leave his wife, he's lying. It's not about you being good enough. However your ethics are questionable since you fooled around with this married man. Be done. Never do something like this again & going forward only date single men. Link to post Share on other sites
Bonifidelifelover Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 Sounds like a borderline personality guy. Google it it’ll make sense I bet. Read a book I hate you don’t leave me! I’m sure it’ll open ur eyes.. he sounds like a push n pull hot & cold narcissist 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bonifidelifelover Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 Oh & my vote is garbage. U me ruined a wife girlfriend & u, plus his family cried & he gave a crap, seems cold hearted Link to post Share on other sites
Seliana Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 (edited) On 9/21/2021 at 7:10 AM, financial_ad429 said: I really don’t think he and his wife are ever getting divorced as 1) he told me they never are, 2) he posted about his “lovely family” using photos of her even while sleeping w me, 3) when I messaged his wife she sounded smug like “good for you, let me know when it’s official, he’s just playing you too” but didn’t say anything like “doesn’t matter, we aren’t together any longer,” and 4) he got all mad when I posted a photo of he and I online, and he told me he wouldn’t be allowed to see his son bc of it- if they were actually separated then why would that be?? Why would he need to hide me? If I was his wife, I'd have been smug too and thought it was hilarious the OW was calling me to complain about the man who cheated on me with her now cheating on her. How rich! Edited September 25, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator civility Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 Cut him out of your life so you feel free to date decent honest single men. Why waste time on married creeps? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NYAG Posted September 25, 2021 Share Posted September 25, 2021 On 7/21/2021 at 1:29 AM, financial_ad429 said: I’ve been involved with a textbook narcissist & avoidant attachment guy for a few years. Would love to understand him better so I can keep him around. He’s married but YEARS ago left his wife and child “for work” and will readily admit he didn’t have to, just felt like it, for $/selfishness/freedom. He says he barely speaks to his wife, which I believe, if only bc he would call me every night when visiting his child for hours, and they aren’t even social media friends lol. We’ve been sexually involved but then he’ll randomly announce he doesn’t need it and reject me. He’ll tell me he doesn’t want me sexually while calling me for phone sex almost every night or asking for an occasional oral favor in person. Tells me we are just friends, then gets belligerent if I admit to dating anyone else. Once he claimed he was really interested in some faraway woman, told me to find someone else, and we didn’t speak for a while. During that, I slept with 1 person once after getting to know him for months. And when I later told the narcissist this, He freaked out and said he’ll never sleep with me again because of what I did. Because of what? He specifically told me to find someone else! Yet he continues tons of sexual conversations with me, And obsesses over trying to find out details of my single encounter that wasn’t him. Recently he said he was upset that taking me out to a nice dinner didn’t seem to be good enough for me since it wasn’t followed by sex. He says he just wants to be alone and doesn’t want sex because it involves connection with another human, yet he texts me all day, if we go out then he’ll start texting me again within half an hour. And some of that is sexual. Sometimes talks about how we “could’ve ended up together” I know he’ll always go thru cycles of pushing me away, whether it’s acting religious (“I can’t have sex outside of marriage”) or just disappearing bc he wants his freedom. But I really do love being around him & the highs when we actually are sexual are worth it to me. So how do I keep him around… knowing he’s personality disordered and I’ll never have him as a “normal” partner? My only question about this is, why would you want this man in your life? What it is about his abhor ant behaviour that you love so much? It clearly gives you a thrill, but you need to pick that apart. Link to post Share on other sites
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